The friend just returned from a blind date, threw the bag down, and said angrily: "This cargo actually did not look at me, he is blind!" ”
The goods in the mouth of friends are the blind dates introduced by relatives.
Looking at the photos, polite and polite, the month of chatting on WeChat was considerate and humorous, and friends had a good feeling for him, and they also had a premonition that this person was the soul mate she had been looking for for many years.
However, the first meeting was tragically waterloo, not only failed to make the relationship further, after the separation of the boy sent a simple and direct message to a friend.
He said: "I don't think we are suitable, don't contact later." ”
Her friend's heart was broken, and she was indignant: "It is inappropriate for me to directly conclude that it is inappropriate to directly conclude that it is not appropriate, it is inevitable that it is too hasty." ”
Another friend said: "Boys are all face control, who is beautiful, just fall in love with whom."
You look at you, stiff straight hair, plain face, sweatshirts, jeans, small board shoes, boys are very difficult to look at. ”
Many people will directly associate the happiness of feelings with the beauty of appearance.
For example, I recently saw a news like this: a woman spent a lot of money on plastic surgery in order to save her husband's heart, but even so, the desperate husband still insisted on divorce.
Husband and wife have been married for fifteen years, and the husband does not even want to talk to this wife more, only coldly repeating a sentence, I don't love you anymore, let's divorce.
The wife originally thought that through plastic surgery, through the change of appearance, through the skin bag to become beautiful, the husband will fall in love with himself again.
But after experiencing the pain of surgery, she still did not save her husband.
The big long legs, white skin, and big eyes that can be seen everywhere on the Internet are so beautiful and beautiful.
For the sake of beauty, many girls choose to stay on the operating table for several hours to endure plastic surgery.
With more and more people undergoing plastic surgery, the plastic surgery industry has also ushered in a vigorous spring.
According to the data, as early as 2017, the total number of medical beauty in China exceeded 10 million cases, and the compound growth rate reached more than 40%.
Many times, people are anxious about not being beautiful enough.
Advertising, video, and surrounding all tell us that double eyelids, thick lips, pointed chin, large breasts, thin waist, and white legs are beautiful women.
Beauty, like a problem, can only have a standard and unique answer.
In fact, the true beauty of a woman begins with awareness, begins with independent consciousness, and begins with both internal and external cultivation.
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The beauty of self-discipline
Titavantis, known as the world's "most expensive stripper", sometimes behaves elegantly, like a dancing white swan, sometimes charming, attracting the souls of the people around her.
She lay in a huge glass of champagne, smiling and showing her graceful posture, while playfully kicking the wine in the glass into the air with her white calves.
This classic picture won the applause of the audience, not only the male audience, but also the female audience was mesmerized.
Also, who wouldn't want to be such a woman who makes men fall for it?
If nothing else, take Titavantis to the event once.
The umbrella in her hand fell to the ground, and before she could squat down to pick it up, there were already three men around her scrambling to pick up the umbrella for her.
The man who picked it up looked honored and happy, and the man who didn't pick it up was disappointed and slipped away.
Presumably, all girls want to be the focus of attention of boys.
In fact, Titavantis is not born a great beauty, Titavantes was born in a small town in Michigan, USA.
Her father was a mechanic and her mother was a manicurist.
When she was a child, Tita looked ordinary and was not outstanding in the pile of people, just like we said passerby A, passerby B.
By watching a movie with her mother, Titavantis was inspired to discover that the female star's red lips, curly hair, and stockings were so beautiful.
In order to behave more elegantly, she practiced ballet hard and insisted on practicing elegant dance posture repeatedly in the ballet practice room.
In order to be more physically beautiful, she began a life of self-discipline for many years, in addition to controlling her diet, not smoking and drinking, not basking in the sun, she also frantically corseted her waist.
Tita's waistline remains 42 centimeters all year round, 14 centimeters thinner than Marilyn Monroe's waistline.
Through self-discipline to make work and rest regular, to make the body symmetrical, so that the skin is in better condition, this is a key step to beauty.
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Discover the beauty
The French sculptor Rodin once said: "For our eyes, it is not the lack of beauty, but the lack of discovery." ”
Some girls focus all their attention on their own shortcomings, always feel that they are not white enough, their noses are not straight enough, their shoulders are too thick, their waists are too thick...
But in fact, each flower has its own unique aroma and beauty.
The famous model Lu Yan had more freckles when she was young, and before she met Li Dongtian, the most heard sentence was: "You are so ugly." ”
On this day, she was about to go outside after being rejected by the interviewer after attending the model interview, when a man suddenly came up to her and said, "You are so beautiful, you look so good." ”
Lu Yan couldn't believe her ears and felt that this man was a liar.
Li Dongtian tailored a set of "freckles and lilies" for Lü Yan, and it is precisely because of this group of maverick photos that break through the traditional aesthetics that Lü Yan became popular overnight.
After becoming famous, Lu Yan not only had a smooth career, but also gained a handsome foreign husband.
Everyone is not perfect, do not have to conform to the crowd, do not have to worry, find the strengths of their own appearance and expand, you will also take a big step forward on the road to beauty.
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The beauty of self-confidence
In the "Awakening to the Everlasting Word", it is written: Beauty bones, the family is rare. Those who have bones, but those who do not have skin, those who have skin, and those who do not have bones.
That is, the meaning of beauty in the bone is not in the skin.
Whether you like it or not, the fact is that beauty also has a twilight day.
Without the support of the face, will the charm of the girl dissipate with the years?
The answer is no, the beauty with inner beauty is like an aging sake, and the longer it lasts, the stronger and more special the aroma.
No matter how beautiful a person is, she may also show that she is not beautiful;
A person is not beautiful, but there are also fascinating places, why is this?
The famous Russian literary critic Belinsky said: "Beauty emanates from the depths of the soul." ”
I remember that there was a girl in the company who had just arrived for a long time, her hair was naturally curly, her skin was slightly dark, and her figure was thin, which was originally an inconspicuous type in the crowd.
At first, the company's girls didn't see her as a "competitor."
But who knows that this dark-skinned ordinary girl, who has worked for three years, has actually talked about three boyfriends, and each boyfriend is a handsome and thoughtful boy with high appearance.
Whenever her boyfriend waited patiently downstairs in the locomotive or ordered a sweet afternoon tea for the girl.
The sister next to her asked her: "You are so dark, are you not afraid that your boyfriend will not like it?" ”
She said confidently: "Skin like mine can't find a second one in the whole city, it is also a national treasure level, and he is rare before it is too late." ”
Therefore, girls must be confident whether they are currently single, in love, or in marriage.
Self-confidence is an indispensable part of girls, confident girls can invisibly increase charm and become the secret weapon of beheading men.
How confident?
First of all, we don't have to care about the eyes and comments from others, the true inner has nothing to do with other people's opinions.
Second, give yourself positive feedback and encourage yourself little by little.
Finally, don't always feel that you are not good enough, inferior, you should accept your imperfections calmly, and accept it completely deep inside.
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The beauty of calm
Some people, the appearance is not necessarily beautiful, but always give people the feeling of a spring breeze.
Some people, the appearance is not necessarily stunning, but around her always feel at ease, people can't help but want to get closer.
A male friend once complained about his wife like this:
"The older she gets, the more she feels that she is different from the original one."
I was shocked by my son's homework and quarreled with me, quarreled with the teacher for the class fee, and even the neighbors who were left and right did not practice their mouths.
The neighbors I met in the community did not complain to me less, which made me faceless and eager to find a seam to drill down.
I am still staying in this unit, and when I think of going home, I feel panicked, and I am afraid that if I accidentally light this "powder keg" at home, I will not be able to eat well.
In the days to come, just thinking about it is boring, hey, I knew so, I shouldn't have been with her in the first place, I regret it. ”
Truly beautiful women are gentle as water, can maintain calm in the face of anything, and it is this indifferent pleasure that emanates from the inside out that makes men fall for it.
A woman's true beauty begins with awareness, focusing on herself and changing herself from the inside out.
A woman's true beauty, that is, a clear understanding of beauty, discovers her own unique beauty.
The real beauty of a woman is to make up her mind to love herself and polish herself like a diamond.
As Ma Xiaoqiu, the author of "Beauty and Ugliness", said:
"Everyone's beauty is unique.
If you see the beauty of others, you do not distinguish and blindly copy, if you are contrary to your own temperament and personality, you will only end up with dong shi gong in the end. ”
As long as you remain aware, maintain the motivation to learn and love beauty throughout your life, and constantly cultivate and improve yourself, you are the most beautiful woman, and you can be beautiful for a lifetime.
When you exude charm from the inside out, happiness will also take the initiative to knock on the door.
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Author | Liu Wan loves words, likes psychology, pays attention to personal spiritual growth, is currently engaged in educational work, immersed in the study of gender relations and women's self-improvement, and hopes that through words, everyone will have new feelings and harvests for feelings.