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A few days ago, the well-known male host publicly angered the news of female celebrities, which set off a hot discussion on the Internet.
The cause of the incident is very simple, in the documentary "Vegetarian Walker", the female celebrities who usually eat vegetarian have encouraged everyone to eat more vegetarian and less meat.
Tao Hong even made a statement to the public:
"Do you think those animals would be willing to be eaten by you if they were sentient?"
As soon as this remark came out, it immediately attracted the public repercussions of the host Cheng Hao.
Cheng Hao believes that the words and deeds of female celebrities advocating vegetarianism can be called the modern version of "why not eat meat paste", which is the embodiment of spiritual "malnutrition".
Cheng Hao listed relatively sufficient reasons in the video:
First of all, Chinese has not achieved meat freedom for several years, and the average meat consumption Chinese cannot be squeezed into the world's top ten;
Secondly, most female celebrities are pampered and do not understand the suffering of ordinary people, similar to workers, farmers, and warriors who need to enhance their physique, and often eat meat to supplement the energy required by the body;
Finally, it is very inappropriate for female celebrities to link the basic right of ordinary people to eat meat with the words "cruel" and "not noble".
In the video, Cheng Hao said angrily: "Don't think that you have achieved something, you are entitled to command, remember not to brag." ”
After the video flowed out, netizens supported Cheng Hao, believing that this is the voice of the public.
It stands to reason that a person's choice to eat vegetarian or meat is not a matter of principle, and personal choice is beyond reproach.
But once one chooses to stand on the moral high ground and try to persuade others to accept one's point of view, it is excessive.
As Wilde said:
"Selfishness is not a person who lives according to his own will, but asks others to live according to his will."
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The self-media people's table once resolutely blocked a friend next to him.
How annoying is this friend?
When I first started learning to write, I often posted my own words in social circles to express some of my views on life.
Most of my friends either commented sincerely or encouraged them with their hearts, but only this friend always pointed out in his lofty tone.
After posting an inspirational article, he commented: "This poisonous chicken soup is too greasy. ”
After posting an educational article, he commented: "It doesn't work logically at all. ”
Wrote some life insights, he also did not let go of the message: "There are too many negative energy, the values are not right." ”
Another time, the table's car had a problem, sent a photo in the circle of friends for help, he came to secretly poke and poke the table to show off, and even said that the table did not buy a domestic car is not patriotic.
In a fit of rage, the table decisively blacked out the benevolent brother. After the blackening, the table felt refreshed.
Mencius said it best: "The affliction of man is a good teacher." ”
I once saw a netizen's question: How to get along with a roommate who does not agree with the three views?
There is one answer that impressed me:
"It depends on whether you want to continue to associate with him, if so, then give up the senseless argument and don't try to convince the other person to agree with you, because it doesn't make sense;
If not, don't convince the other person to agree with you, because there is no need. ”
When getting along with people, the most taboo point is to always want to prove that they are right and the other party is wrong.
Gentlemen are harmonious and different.
It is not necessary for others to be the same as you think, and there is no need to live the same life as you.
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I've seen a story.
The forest is inhabited by a bunch of miscreants who don't like each other: swallows and bats.
In the eyes of the swallow, sunrise represents morning, and sunset means evening. The bat disagrees, believing that after the sun goes down, the good day has just begun.
They do not give in to each other, always thinking that the other is the wrong side.
Once, they argued about it again, and it seemed that they were about to fight.
At this time, the passing owl said a word carelessly:
"You two have completely opposite routines, so how can you possibly come to the same point of view?"
Yeah, you've never looked at the problem from my point of view, and what right do you have to point fingers at me?
I remember that the media person Zhang Wei had a passage that made people impressed:
"Sometimes we don't like other people, but because they are different from us.
Everyone encounters a lifestyle they don't understand:
The self-righteous look at the man who sings night and night; the lively man looks at the introvert.
Don't oppose it because you don't like it, sub-fish, the joy of knowing the fish? ”
There are no two identical leaves in the world, and there is no completely consistent three views, which is an inevitable phenomenon.
But the difference is that some people always want to question and deny other people's three views, full of hostility; while some people know how to seek common ground while reserving differences, and learn to understand and respect.
Mr. Mu Xin wrote in the poem: "I don't know what to forgive, but I sincerely feel that everything in the world can be forgiven." ”
Truly mature people, look at everyone well, because they know that everyone's position is different.
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The philosopher Hegel said, "Existence is reasonableness." ”
As mature adults, it is especially important to learn to eliminate inherent prejudices and learn to accommodate different perspectives.
(1) Focus on your own life
There is a saying in "The Ragtag Crowd" that when a person's own affairs have no value in handling, they will turn their attention to the people around them.
So, most people who like to point out others have more or less problems with their self-identification.
They aspire to affirm their own value through guidance from others, but often do not receive the respect of others.
Zheng Banqiao wrote in "Gifting Junmou Father and Son": "Read more ancient books to open your eyes, and be less nosy to cultivate your spirit." ”
Put your time on reading, on your hobbies, on the outside world, and you will naturally ignore the irrelevant people and things around you.
Attention is a person's most valuable resource.
When you spend them running your own life, you will reap different rewards because of your focus.
(2) Improve your own pattern
Zhuangzi said a classic sentence in "The Getaway": "Summer insects cannot speak of ice, and well frogs cannot speak of the sea." ”
What does that mean?
If a bug has a life cycle of only a few months in the summer, and you tell it what ice is, it won't know. It can't imagine that thing because its life cycle never passes through winter.
In the same way, the frog in the well cannot be told about the sea because its vision is limited by a narrow dwelling place.
When your insight is only one acre and three points, you are not qualified to comment on others.
Improve your pattern, and you will find that you who were once full of prejudice against the world are actually just because the pattern is too small.
The well-known blogger has a passage that sums it up particularly well:
"The outlook on life is to be seen, not judged;
Values are to be talked about, not to be denied;
Worldview is for enjoyment, not contempt. ”
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