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Not long ago, I watched the movie "Six Lane Cafe" with my boyfriend. The female protagonist changed her mind, and the male protagonist committed suicide.
After reading it, my eyes were wet and my boyfriend was silent.
In fact, from the very beginning, I guessed that they would not be able to go. They were far apart, and the gap was wide, like a gully that could not be filled.
When the male protagonist tries his best to see the female protagonist, the female protagonist has seen the wider world and thought deeper about the problem.
She understood that the affection of her youth could not compete with the gap in reality.
Although it is cruel, the two sides do not have the love of growing up together, and sooner or later they will die.
01.
The male protagonist Guan Min Green, the female protagonist Li Xinrui. In high school, the two fell in love, but they did not enter the same university and began a long-distance relationship.
In order to meet Xinrui, Xiaolu worked day and night to save money. At first, the two cherished their time with each other.
But gradually, the two had nothing to say.
Once, Xinrui was robbed and cried and called Xiao Lu. Little Green Fire rushed to the car to see Xinrui. After meeting, the two people hugged each other tightly.
Little Green was in a hurry, and asked if he needed anything. Xinrui shook her head, not needing anything. Xiao Lu was very confused, so what did I come to do?
Xinrui looked at Xiao Lu and couldn't speak. Xiao Lu has been anxiously asking: You say, what do you need me to do, but you are talking!
Finally, Xinrui helplessly left. The rift of feelings spreads from here.
Movie "Six Lane Cafe"
One day, the two took a walk together. When it comes to planning for the future, they can't go together at all. The heart is constantly becoming excellent, eager to go to the bigger world, and Xiao Lu only wants to live a small life in peace and stability.
The two had a verbal altercation and broke up.
On Xinrui's birthday, it was just in time for a typhoon day, and the train did not depart. Xiao Lu and his friends braved the typhoon, rode a motorcycle to give gifts to Xinrui, and ran in the wind and rain all day.
After arriving at The Heart School, they waited for a long time downstairs in her dormitory. Finally, Xinrui appeared, but with a senior.
Little Green cried and gave the gift to Xinrui, and the relationship between them ended.
02.
It's a tragic long-distance relationship, and it's a very harsh reality.
In the movie, a sentence from xinrui made me feel very deeply: people will change when they grow up, but you seem to have forgotten to grow up.
During college, the heart has matured, with new values and new pursuits. In order to protect this relationship, Xiao Lu left other things behind and did not have time to grow.
The two widened the gap and drifted apart.
Although heartbreaking, but without growing together, this ending is inevitable.
I have a very good schoolgirl who was with her boyfriend for over three years but broke up on the eve of graduation. The reason is simple, her boyfriend did not get into graduate school.
Her boyfriend is a senior who is one level higher than her. When she was a freshman in college, the two were together. They have a good relationship, and everyone says they are fairy lovers.
In her junior year, my sister went abroad to study. It was that year that her boyfriend failed to pass the graduate school. She encouraged her boyfriend to fight for another year, and he agreed in frustration.
In her senior year, her sister successfully went to the Dream School. In the same year, her boyfriend abandoned the exam.
The boyfriend abandoned the exam as a fuse, and when they graduated, they parted ways.
At that time, what my sister said to me impressed me:
When I was studying hard abroad, he was playing games; when I was sleeping and eating for Baoyan, he was playing games. In the past, we used to study together every day without saying anything. But after I returned home, he didn't study at all, and we had nothing to say.
She was running hard, he was stepping where he was; she wanted to drag him along, but he was willing to fall; she said break up, he kept, but it was too late.
What was once love suddenly turned into disappointment at a certain moment, into a sigh, into a gap in the haze of tears.
I've always felt that feelings need to be worked on.
Life is so long, we always have to grow. When we are alone, we only need to take care of ourselves, but after falling in love or getting married, two people have to try to walk side by side.
One side drags hard in front, and the other side drags hard in the back. This is very tiring, and there is always one party who can't stand it and finally chooses to give up.
03.
My boyfriend and I also experienced this problem when we were first together.
At that time, I was the first in the grade, and he was the eighth. I came out early and returned late every day, and he couldn't get up in the morning; I had a chance to win against Baoyan, but he hovered on the edge of Baoyan and was very anxious.
At that time, he felt inferior and unworthy of me. I have been teaching him how to improve his learning efficiency, urging him to get out of bed, and urging him to endorse books. Six months later, his grades rose to second place.
After that, we kept the same pace, learning together and planning for the future together.
In his senior year, he successfully got a place in the Research Institute and went to his dream school.
For more than a year, we have run into each other. We've quarreled, we've had cold wars, we've cried, we've had breakdowns, but we've never given up.
It is this experience that makes us know each other better, trust each other more, and be hopeful about the future.
After the end of the research, we lay flat for a few days and then began to work hard for the future. It's a really good feeling.
For the next three years of graduate school, we will begin a long-distance relationship. There was some fear, but we had already started planning.
For us, long-distance relationships are no small test. But we firmly believe that as long as we keep emotional communication and pace, we will be able to persevere.
Thankfully, I met a boy who was willing to grow up with me.
04.
How did we grow together?
First, communicate frequently.
My boyfriend and I often talk about where we want to live and work, what kind of work we want to do, what we plan to do recently, what we want to learn something new, and so on.
Through these conversations, we get to know each other better, and we will adjust our plans for each other appropriately, so that the trajectory of the two people's lives is closer.
Moreover, diligent communication can avoid many misunderstandings, especially for future long-distance relationships. Long-distance love itself is very difficult, once there is a misunderstanding without opening, the two can easily break up because of gambling.
Second, encourage each other and develop similar habits.
For more than a year, my boyfriend and I have basically gotten up early every day to go to the library to study. Eat three meals a day and eat fruit every day. After the end of the research, we began to exercise regularly.
Sometimes, when one of them lies in bed, he is awakened by a bombardment of the other person's phone.
Thanks to the habits we develop together, we are in a very consistent pace and grow together every day.
Third, cultivate common interests.
When my boyfriend and I first got together, we didn't have any common hobbies. After the two finished their studies, they could only watch movies, watch cartoons, and watch TV dramas together. Super boring!
In order to be able to play together, he taught me to swim and I taught him to play volleyball. We also climbed mountains together, learned aerobics, kicked shuttlecocks, played badminton, learned to knit scarves, learned guitar, learned harmonica, learned computer skills, drew together, read together...
In the process of cultivating hobbies, we gradually become each other's best friends, saying nothing, calling brothers and brothers.
We agreed that after a different place, we should still cultivate new hobbies together and show each other the results.
Cultivating hobbies together has heated up our feelings a lot. We can laugh at each other's troubles, witness each other's progress, and talk to each other in laughter.
It's really a beautiful thing.
05.
Feelings are elusive, and it is even more difficult to protect a relationship. But as long as we have the heart and the method, we can do it.
Growing up together is a great weapon for maintaining the freshness of feelings. My personal test is valid.
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