Nurture neighborly dreams
Netizens asked: Children's requirements can not be met to cry, rolling on the ground, how can education be good?
Re: The best parents: Be the best comprehensive growth guide on the road of children's learning and growth. Newborn children are like planets in the universe that have not yet formed a fixed trajectory, and the core goal of family and school education to assist them in learning and growth is to guide them to form their own trajectory according to existing social life habits, education = to take children to appreciate and adapt to human social life.
Life, is endowed with reproductive ability + growth cycle + a small part of the damage self-healing function of natural material combination form, the natural material circulation system has the ability to actively adjust, all natural life substances must be ingested from the outside to maintain normal life activities. Humans, the most intelligent high-grade mammals in the natural life system, only humans have evolved into a system of abstract social civilization in the natural life system, only humans have the ability to transform the natural material composition form through large-scale division of labor, only humans have improved the structure of self-food supply by domesticating and sowing plants + taming captive animals... However, the growth of human life has not broken through the shackles of the natural "survival food chain", and modern human babies are inseparable from eating material nutrition and replenishing spiritual nourishment from birth to adulthood.
"The Teacher Says"
The ancient scholar must have a teacher. Teachers, so preaching is also karmic to solve puzzles. Whoever is not born to know can be confused? If you are confused and do not follow the teacher, you will be confused and will not be solved in the end. Before I was born, my hearers also preceded me, and I learned from them; after I was born, I also heard the Tao before me, and I learned from them. My master Daoye, fu Yong knows that his years were born in my lifetime? Therefore, there is no nobility, no low, no length, no less, the existence of the Tao, the existence of the teacher.
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Teachers, preaching, receiving karma, and solving puzzles. Education, a comprehensive social performance art in which modern human beings assist their children in their rapid growth, is the unique basis for human beings as a group of people with higher wisdom and creative ability. When I was born, I didn't know who I was, I didn't know what I could provide for myself, I didn't know who my companions were & who was the enemy< - > would make all kinds of production labor tools when I became an adult, I knew how to grow food, I could raise animals, I could process daily necessities & food, and I was good at exploring the natural universe, and human babies were the most centrally plastic in the natural life system. However, individual human beings do not grow up naturally, and without education to guide children to walk upright, use specific human social information exchange tools [writing language], domesticated sown plants + tame captive animals to obtain basic nutritional supplies, and use fire to cook food and other survival skills can not be learned.
The great inventor Edison said: Genius is 1% inspiration, plus 99% sweat, but that 1% inspiration is the most important. Without the addition of yeast, no amount of flour can become a cake, a bun, a fritter; without seeds, even the best land cannot grow grain, fruits, and vegetables; without adding a small amount of spices, all food will be tasteless... Similarly, anyone who wants to achieve something in a particular field of human civilization is almost impossible to achieve without special talents superimposed on repeated and deliberate practice. So, what does 99% of the sweat of individual human beings include?
First, establish growth behavior rules
Warring States Zou Mengke," "Mencius Away from Lou Shang": "The clarity of leaving Lou, the cleverness of the public loser, does not follow the rules, and cannot become a square circle." ”
Human social life tells us: sow a thought, harvest an action; Sowing a behavior, reaping a habit; Sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a character; sow a character, reap a life. The first step in educating children to learn and grow is to guide them to adapt to various rules in human social life, such as using the standard social language of human society, abiding by the moral norms and legal constraints of human society, and mastering and actively integrating into the division of labor and cooperation system in human society.
In 1978, 75 Nobel laureates met in Paris. A reporter asked one of them: "In your life, what do you think the most important things you learned in which university and in which laboratory?" The white-haired Nobel laureate replied calmly, "It's in kindergarten." The reporter was very surprised and asked, "Why is it in kindergarten?" What do you think you learned in kindergarten? The Nobel laureate smiled and replied, "In kindergarten, I learned a lot. For example, give half of your own things to your friends; don't take things that are not your own; put things neatly; wash your hands before meals; rest after lunch; apologize for doing wrong things; think more about learning, and observe nature carefully. I think that's all I learned. "
As the saying goes: "Three years old looks big, seven years old looks old." "Establishing growing rules with children and children in childhood is like pruning the branches and leaves of shrubs, the higher the standard you set, the higher the height of ta's future talents, and military discipline is the fundamental guarantee of the army's combat effectiveness."
Second, the memory ability is strengthened
As the saying goes, "Practice makes perfect." "Song Ouyang Xiu's "Guitian Lu • Selling Oil": It is to take a gourd and place it on the ground, cover its mouth with money, and Xu uses the oil to drain it, and enters it from the money hole, and the money is not wet. For he said, "I have no him, but my hands are good." Kang Su smiled and dismissed.
Idiomatic allusions:
During the Northern Song Dynasty, there was a man named Chen Kangsu and Yao Zhi, who claimed to be excellent in archery, and no one could compare. He was extremely arrogant, often boasting of his skill: "My archery skills are unmatched. Do any of you want to give me a try?" ”
"Master, your archery skills are so skilled, how can we compare with you?"
"Yeah, we'll have to ask you more!" Master, you perform again, let's open our eyes again! These young people who wanted to learn archery from Chen Yaozhi said something flattering to him every day, which won his heart.
One day, As usual, Chen Yaozhi took his apprentice to draw a bow and shoot an arrow in the courtyard, and just happened to have an old man selling oil passing by, so he stopped to watch. Only to see Chen Yaozhi raise his bow, put on the arrow, and shoot ten arrows in a row, all of which hit the red heart. The disciples clapped their hands and applauded, and Chen Yaozhi turned to the old man and said, "What do you think?" The old man only nodded slightly, and did not clap his hands in applause.
Chen Yaozhi felt very uncomfortable in his heart and asked him angrily, "Hey, do you old man know how to shoot archery?" "I don't understand." "So did my arrows not shoot well enough?" "It's good, but it's just a normal technology, and I don't see anything remarkable." "Old man, how can you talk like that?" He insulted our Master like this. Do you know that our Master's archery skills are unmatched? You're deceiving people so much! ”
"Little brother, don't be angry first, I said that your archery skills are indeed commonplace, and there is nothing to praise." "Old man, when you hear you say this, do you obviously not take us seriously?" Then you will show us your hands." What's the use of just saying no practice! "Little brother, I don't know how to shoot arrows, but let me pour oil for you to see."
"Pour oil, how hard is this?" Who wouldn't? No kidding! "You'll talk about it after reading it."
I saw that the old man took a gourd end and placed it on the ground, and then put a copper coin with a hole in the gourd mouth. After scooping a spoonful of oil, I saw that the oil was slightly crooked, and the oil was like a thin yellow line, flowing straight from the money hole to the gourd. After pouring, the oil did not stain the copper money at all. Old Weng humbly said to Chen Yaozhi, "I don't have any skills, but I am just practicing skillfully." ”
Chen Yaozhi felt very ashamed after listening to it, and since then, he has practiced archery even harder and never boasted about archery again. Later, his character was as praised as archery.
Education is the most complex art of comprehensive performance painting in the history of human society, and parents and teachers color children over and over again, looking forward to painting children as the most beautiful picture. It is true that when a child is born, he does not remember anything, does not recognize anything, has no ability to act autonomously, and all of everyone's social survival skills stem from countless imitation exercises after birth. Therefore, children born in China speak Chinese + write square characters + use chopsticks, children born in the Uk speak English + write ABC + use knives and forks, merchant children study and operate from an early age + farmer and herdsmen children practice planting & breeding from an early age...
Education = taking children to experience and adapt to human social life
Third, increase social experience
"Xunzi Persuasion"
The soil is made into mountains, and the wind and rain are prosperous; the water is deep, and the dragon is born; the good is cultivated into virtue, and the gods are self-satisfied, and the sacred heart is prepared. Therefore, if you do not accumulate steps, you cannot go thousands of miles; if you do not accumulate small streams, you cannot become a river and a sea. Qi Ji can't take ten steps when he jumps; he can't take ten steps; he can ride ten horses and give up his merits. Perseverance and abandonment, decaying wood does not break; perseverance, gold and stone can be skeletonized. The worm has no claws and teeth, the strength of the muscles and bones, eating the soil, drinking the yellow spring, and using the heart. Crab six kneeling and two claws, non-snake eel's cave has no sustenance, the heart is also impatient.
The accumulation of soil into mountains, the accumulation of water into the abyss, the accumulation of goodness into virtue, the ten horses, the merit is not to give up... In fact, children are the largest group of horses in the natural life system, and after the child is born, they practice controlling their own physical behavior and arming their brains. Nowadays, the knowledge of human society and civilization has been very popular, and they have the same attitude towards everyone, as long as you are willing to be friends with them, they can be all for you. In fact, this good childhood growth habit can be summed up in three times -
1. Read diligently
Francis Bacon said: Reading history makes people wise, reading poetry makes people smart, mathematics makes people thorough, science makes people profound, ethics makes people solemn, and logic makes people argumentative. Everything that is learned becomes a character; Voltaire said: When we read a good book for the first time, it is as if we have found a friend. When we read this good book again, it is as if we are reunited with old friends; Gorky said: Books are the ladder of human progress; Shakespeare said: Books are the president of human knowledge; Leo Tolstoy said: The ideal book is the key to wisdom... Because books are the true center of human wisdom and the only inexhaustible treasure of wisdom in human society.
Reading is the basis for the emotional connection between the individual and the civilization of human society, and it is the window for the individual to accept the sunshine of human social civilization in his heart. Because the eyes are the windows of the individual's soul, more than 60% of human social civilization is stationed in the depths of the individual's soul through reading, and then becomes an action guide that affects the individual's behavior choices.
2. Work thinking
In the natural life system, only human beings have evolved into a systematic abstract social civilization, and human beings are the only community mammals with abstract thinking ability in the natural life system, such as human beings warmed by mountain fires, thinking of using fire to drive away the cold, animals afraid of fire, thinking of using fire to drive away beasts, food that has been burned by fire is more fragrant, thinking of cooking food with fire... Because it is conceivable that human beings have gathered and created abstract social civilization achievements based on daily life experience. Similarly, imagination still dominates the direction of human growth and progress, such as cooks can imagine cakes, bread, steamed buns, and noodles when they see flour, farmers can imagine grains, vegetables, and fruits when they see land, and workers can imagine steel, mechanical tools, nails, and so on when they see iron ore.
3. Diligent practice
Sand + cement + steel + doors and windows = human housing, drives + steel boxes + sofa seats + four wheels = cars, poetry books + understand the rhythm + know the etiquette + know the science + can innovate = talent... Man is the initial creator and ultimate user of the wealth consumed by human society. The fundamental reason why human beings have the ability to transform natural matter is that human beings have the ability to practice creation, know how to make it convenient for their own use by polishing stones, know how to combine sticks and rattan to form bows and arrows, know how to use high temperatures to remove mineral impurities, and know how to promote the exchange of consumer goods with the help of relatively stable tools [money].
"Just say not to practice the false handle style, just practice not to say the stupid style, and practice and say the real style." The people who bring children into the human world are called parents, parents teach grandparents, parents' brothers and sisters are called uncles & aunts, when should they sow seeds & what seasons should be harvested, how should animals be kept in captivity + cooking food + division of labor and cooperation with their peers... Human society and civilization have made provisions one by one. However, if one only knows the relevant texts and has no specific life practice, then no matter how much book knowledge a person learns, he still does not know how to adapt to human social life. Therefore, practice is the only criterion for testing truth.
Reading is the fastest way for individuals to obtain knowledge nutrition [food] raw materials, thinking is equivalent to processing food raw materials into dishes, and practice is the real knowledge nutrition to eat, digest and absorb into nourishment to assist their own growth. Looking for food ingredients - > cooking - > eating is a cyclical process, the more food ingredients found, the higher the possibility of making delicious and delicious dishes; the more delicious the dishes made, the more appetite it has to eat, the more nutrients it eventually absorbs, the greater the help for their own growth; the stronger the individual life grows, the stronger the ability to find food ingredients... Therefore, to increase social experience is to constantly cycle through reading-thinking-practicing.
Newborn children are like planets in the universe that have not yet formed a fixed trajectory, and the core goal of family and school education to assist them in learning and growth is to guide them to form their own trajectory according to existing social life habits. Therefore, education to assist children's learning and growth is similar to being a driving coach, teaching children the rules of human social survival, answering children's doubts in learning and growth, and correcting possible cross-border violations in children's learning and growth in a timely manner. Therefore, the best parents are the best comprehensive growth guides on the way to their children's learning and growth.
The mission of raising neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Nurturing neighbors: Promote social harmony with neighborhood friendliness, promote social moral education and indoctrination, and promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone. Explore a set of public welfare and inclusive education undertakings that solve the problem of "one-child syndrome + intergenerational education" in the form of neighborhood mutual assistance, and work with parents to "tailor" children's growth plans to provide children with games, cooperation and shared growth space... That is, the community neighborhood education service ecosystem.