Liu Xuehua's happiness is understood

01

"Under the Eaves" exposed Liu Xuehua's later life, which surprised many people.

Liu Xuehua is the former Qiong Yao royal heroine, 62 years old, still bright and beautiful in front of the camera.

But now she lives in a very ordinary apartment.

Her daily routine is as follows:

I almost never go out on my own, and I stay at home alone all year round.

The TV at home is on 24 hours a day, and I often fall asleep watching tv.

Netizens sighed: There is a real feeling of "being next to the day".

I have two things to say about this.

First of all, I don't think getting old is ever a disguise.

Admittedly, we can learn to grow old gracefully; but to insist on describing old age as beautiful is pure nonsense.

Later life is very real.

The decline in physical strength, the decline in energy, all kinds of irreversible declines, no one is an exception.

Second, Liu Xuehua's later life was not bad.

TV shows will always let you see what you want to see, and there will be some distortion.

But it's still not hard to find some real-life reflections: she has her own babysitter, her own driver, and occasionally participates in variety shows to make some money.

Liu Xuehua's old age does not need my sympathy at all, but there are many places worth learning.

There are two points that I would love to share with you.

02

In 2011, Liu Xuehua's husband accidentally fell to his death.

Many people saw that from then on, she began to live alone.

However, it is a fact that she lives alone, and it is also true that she has a "choice not to live alone".

As the first generation of superstars who have spread all over China, she has long saved enough money for a lifetime.

I don't know if she's not married for fidelity or waiting for the right guy, but she has the capital to do it.

Taking a step back, it is a big deal to be in her 70s, and she will choose the highest standard of old-age care services.

If she wants to get married, it's okay, and the admiring man is afraid to have to go from Tainan to Taipei.

No matter how the result is, there is no need for outsiders to worry about it.

Today, social security is sound and everyone has access to basic health care and old-age security.

However, if you want to have a choice and be decent when you are old, you still have to have some money.

One of the questions on the know is: "What happened to the first Dink people now"?

One of them is a high praise answer, "Most of them have given up, and now all those who can stick to it are basically doing very well." That's the survivor bias."

Indeed, China's first Dinks were basically the first intellectuals, the upstarts. They have their own advanced ideas and have their own desired life model.

More importantly, this group of people they have money.

They want not to have children, they want to travel the world, they want to live a petty bourgeoisie, they want to age gracefully, and they have the ability to do it.

In contrast, many young people are now toddlers in Handan.

They preach "celibacy" and neither marry nor have children. But at the same time, don't work hard to make money.

Their "living in the moment" is really just "living in the moment."

I guess most people end up with either being forced to find someone to keep warm, or having a baby and pinning their hopes on the next generation.

Many choices in youth are "pseudo-choices", and the choice in old age is the real choice.

Therefore, for ordinary people, young people must learn to accumulate capital for getting old, even if they cannot be rich and wealthy.

For example: the core real estate in one or two cities can be bought, financial knowledge can be learned, and insurance must be in place.

And all of this has a prerequisite, when you are young, you have to work hard and give up some so-called choices.

In exchange for getting older, there are more choices.

03

There is a kind of loneliness in the world called "I think you are lonely."

Just like the netizens' evaluation of Liu Xuehua.

Admittedly, she has a very "boring" lifestyle, does not use the Internet, does not use a smartphone, and has little contact with the outside world.

But how can others define "loneliness"?

For Liu Xuehua:

Although she doesn't know how to surf the Internet, she usually has favorite things, such as playing Taiwanese mahjong.

Although she has little contact with the outside world, she also has people who care, such as her regular phone call with her sister every morning.

For a life, some people see the lonely and bitter, and some people can see that the years are quiet.

Just as someone sees sixpence all over the ground, someone can see the moon.

Really look at people.

Moreover, people who are willing to actively choose loneliness, in general, are not so afraid of loneliness.

Just like Liu Xuehua himself said: he is ready to live alone for another 10 years, and then he will enter a nursing home.

Her reason was simply "the fear that no one would know if someone fell."

Loneliness is like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.

But whenever I talk about this topic, I'd love to say:

Life is inherently lonely. We come alone and go alone.

The loneliness of life has nothing to do with whether you are married, whether you have children or not, and how many friends you have.

This is the loneliness of facing life.

As human beings, we don't need to escape this loneliness, nor can we escape this loneliness, as long as we live in harmony with it.

Like what:

When we are young, we can cultivate some real hobbies, even if others seem to be bored, it doesn't matter, as long as it makes you happy, it is worth it.

Cultivating a job you love, even if it makes little money, just makes you feel like you're working for yourself.

After all, only love can withstand the long years.

04

I have to admit that all along, I have been particularly afraid of getting old.

However, one cannot always hide one's life in fairy tales.

Later, I found that when I started to prepare, although it was unavoidable, it was not as terrible as I thought.

Moreover, thinking about it will actually make people have a new understanding of their current life.

Well, for the matter of getting old, dear you, come on, we encourage together.