Text: Cradle of Love
Use the simplest words to give you warmth, give you companionship, lead you to grow, and help you be strong.
The ancients said: "People are good and are deceived, and horses are good to be ridden." ”
Kind, no mistake. Kindness is a virtue.
But kindness must be measured, otherwise it will be too late. Excessive kindness will become a soft persimmon that is bullied and pinched.
Concessions, no sympathy, no gratitude.
When you are kind and give in step by step, others will be unscrupulous and intensify, eager to stomp you under your feet and pinch you to death.
Excessive tolerance will eventually make you live more and more and become a lamb to be slaughtered.
The old people often say, "It is a blessing to suffer a loss." ”
But when a person always suffers losses and does not know how to resist, it is too much honesty.
In many cases, we can endure and let go, but there must be a degree.
When you can't stand it, you don't have to put up with it anymore. Blindly forbearance becomes incompetent and cowardly.
To be a person, we must have a bottom line and not be too honest.
Even if you are honest, you can't be weak in these three aspects, live too hard, remember, don't be aware of it.
In the face of friends who cross the river and tear down bridges, they must resolutely break off friends
In a friendship relationship, not all sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity.
People who are devoted to being friends may not regard you as friends, and they are even less sincere to you.
To put it bluntly, it is using you and having a plan for you.
Crossing the river and demolishing the bridge is his real face, but it is usually hidden too deeply.
When a friend crosses the river and demolishes the bridge, you must not turn a blind eye, and the choice does not matter. Your tolerance will only make others think you are a good bully.
Your tolerance, in exchange for other people's change of heart, will only let others bully you more intensely.
No matter in front of anyone, in front of anything, we must adhere to our own bottom line and principles.
In the face of friends' hypocrisy, in the face of friends' crossing the river and demolishing bridges, do not tolerate, but mercilessly sever relations.
Being able to bend and stretch is the wisdom of handling things, but excessive tolerance will only be exchanged for boundless trampling.
The writer Yu Hua once said: "When we treat the world fiercely, the world suddenly becomes gentle and elegant." ”
The more you give in, the more others bully you; only by knowing how to resist can you win respect and kindness for yourself.
In the face of relatives who do not see you well, they must break off contact
When you are not good, no one will look down on you, and no one will come to provoke you.
There is a kind of relative who can't see you well, who wants you to be bad.
In the face of your good, will say some sarcastic words, deliberately stabbing your heart.
When you have achieved something, he gives not congratulations, not encouragement, but sneering.
You don't understand, so, in fact, it's the jealousy in your heart that's at work.
You believe that "blood is thicker than water", as long as there is a little blood relative, you will give kindness, with the broadest mind to give tolerance.
However, not all relatives are worthy of your tolerance and concessions.
I have to say that in the face of some people, it is time to turn the other cheek.
Many times the face turn is to defend oneself and not to be trampled on at will.
If you can't see your relatives, even if you are close by blood, don't be too kind, too tolerant, and dare to break off contacts.
Don't overestimate any relationship, friendship or affection.
In the face of betrayal hurt your lover, let it go decisively
In feelings, we must be dedicated, we must be single-minded.
No feeling can tolerate betrayal, no third person can be allowed to intervene.
Whoever is with you should be loyal to you, not betrayed, and not do anything that is sorry for you.
This is the responsibility, but also the bottom line.
But not everyone can be loyal, and there are always some people who can't restrain themselves and betray each other.
If your other half betrays you, don't tolerate it, even if you are honest.
Betrayal is disrespect, but also unlove.
No matter how much you love each other and how reluctant you are, you must let go decisively.
Your tolerance, your concessions, will only be exchanged for a worse betrayal, in exchange for greater harm.
Letting go is to save yourself and minimize the damage.
Honestly, I can't cherish it in exchange. The more honest you are, the more the other person is flying and not taking you seriously.
Be fierce, let go, be respected, and give yourself a gorgeous turn.
The world is so big, there is always someone who truly loves you, is loyal to you, single-mindedly, and never abandons.
Psychologist Zhang Defen said: "Between individuals, there is often a relationship of mutual devouring. ”
When you're not hard enough, the one who's being devoured is you.
Although you should not be aggressive, you must have the courage and ability to fight back.
Therefore, when you encounter friends who have crossed the river and demolished bridges and pits to harm you, met relatives who can't see you well, and encountered lovers who betrayed and hurt you, you should break off diplomatic relations and be tough.
The road of life is still very long, and weakness must live a lot.
Even if you are honest, when you should turn your face, you must turn your face; when you should tear your face, you must tear your face.
Many times, if you are tougher, you will not seek perfection, and you will live smoothly and comfortably.
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Author: Love to read, love to write, love to think, dare to love and dare to hate the northern girl. A freelance writer, an emotional mentor who has helped countless people out of psychological difficulties.