Talk about charcoal in the snow VS the icing on the cake

Charcoal in the snow or icing on the cake

The metaphor of sending charcoal in the snow to give material help when others are in urgent need is first from Song Fan Chengda's "Sending Charcoal in The Snow and Mustard Concealment": "It is not necessary to send charcoal in the snow; it is necessary to talk about the scenery to poetry." ”

The icing on the cake is a metaphor for beauty plus beauty, good on good. From Song Huang Tingjian's "Ode to the Temple": "I want Fu Weng to make an ode; and the picture is added to the icing on the cake." ”

Nowadays, there are few people in the world who send charcoal in the snow, and there are many people who add flowers to the cake, but they do not know that this kind of face project is not liked by many people.

It is often said that only when there is a change can you see many people. When you are good, the people around you, you can't tell who is real and who is fake, only fallen, killed, whether people are ghosts can be clearly distinguished.

Before seeing a news, the husband for friends to eat and drink, neglect to take care of the child's wife at home, the result of the sudden illness on the wine table, the friend at that table sent the husband to the hospital, a hearing that the illness was serious, scared all ran away, when drinking flattery, counted as the icing on the cake, the accident ran without a trace, it is really lamentable.

In fact, in real life, I often encounter this kind of person, before there was a topic that said that people are middle-aged, uncomfortable interpersonal relationships should not be maintained, this kind of icing on the cake relationship, just give it up.

Speaking of sending charcoal in the snow, the people who can often do it are those who do not often contact, but when they start a chat, no matter how long they have not seen each other, they can talk together, this is a real friend, whether it is a girlfriend or a buddy, if you have two or three such friends, you are successful.

For yourself, do not be the icing on the cake, only be a person who sends charcoal in the snow, and do your best to help relatives and friends in need of help. Don't be the icing on the cake and feel self-moved, it is really unpleasant.

Long-winded, personal one-sided views, do not like to spray, welcome to correct.

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