The wisdom of survival: where there are people, there will be struggle, and the best weapon of struggle is silence; stupid people fight with their mouths! People who are really smart are often "wise and speechless".
Man is a person in society, no one is willing or unable to live in this world in isolation, more or less will always have all kinds of contacts with others, and an indispensable link in this connection is struggle, where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and where there are people, there are struggles.
In the face of all kinds of people, and the complex interpersonal relationships behind them, the struggle between people in modern society is certainly not the kind of short-term confrontation that fought alone in ancient wars, but the struggle between relationships and relationships, resources and resources, and it is a non-physical struggle.
Since it is a struggle, even if it is invisible, it also needs weapons, and like playing games, weapons people like to be powerful, cool, domineering, and more than others. However, from the perspective of survival wisdom, the best weapon in the struggle between modern people is not a verbal sword, not a verbal overpowering offensive, not a struggle by mouth, that is what stupid people do, on the contrary, the best weapon is silence, and victory is won by silence, so we say that people who are really smart are often "wise and speechless."
Careful observation, it is not difficult to find that all stupid people, the most favorite thing is to fight with their mouths, to use high-decibel language to embolden themselves, but in fact this can only show their inner weakness, the really powerful people, are not a word, but can deter everyone. For example, when the criminal is confronted with the sudden silence of the interrogator, is it more panicked in his heart, and is it easier for the psychological defense line to collapse and thus confess his crime?
In daily life, everyone will inevitably encounter criticism, attack or ridicule, at this time, if you argue and fight with your mouth, it is often more and more dark, even if you have a thousand words, how can you resist gossip. At this time, silence is the best excuse and the most powerful weapon. Speaking of this, I remembered the boiling Sima Nan "hand tearing" association in the past few days, here put aside the right and wrong of the matter itself, just to say that the way Lenovo and Liu Chuanzhi responded, it is still quite clever, so it has been silent, but it will not make things more and more intense.
In fact, the things of the world are like a pool of muddy water, the more you stir, the more muddy it is, but you are silent, and the turbidity in the water will settle down. In the face of struggle, fighting with your mouth is to stop the boiling of the soup, or even to add fuel to the fire, which will only make things more intense, no matter what you say, the people who fight with you will not be convinced by you. Therefore, silence is the best weapon of struggle. Another example is Wu Zetian, as the only female emperor in Chinese history, before she died, she was asked to erect a wordless monument for her, which was a merit or a failure, and let posterity comment that this is the ultimate use of silence, and this silence makes our future generations admire her even more.
Lao Tzu said, "Great wisdom is foolish", and no matter how much wisdom a person has, he will not casually show it, let alone rely on his mouth to fight, but rather "great wisdom is speechless", what they pursue is the improvement of their own cultivation, what they seek is a thick accumulation, quiet and far-reaching, and there is a pattern of generosity and openness to many people and many things, and there is a realm of sea and river. Of course, this pattern and realm is difficult to do, but we can at least start from learning to be silent, especially in the struggle, and understand the truth of "great wisdom and speechlessness".