In all marriages, women may have an imaginary enemy, after all, the current faithful marriage is so difficult to find. But the question is, in case the "imaginary enemy" comes true, do you think you can face it calmly?
The First Lady of the United States, Jacqueline, who is at the top of power, and Diana, the eternal British rose of the British royal family, have all encountered blatant clamor for "imaginary enemies".
However, because of the different positions, their reactions and results are also completely different.
Of course, it is more accurate to say that in diana and Jacqueline's marriage, the "imaginary enemies" have long been true, they are real and once indispensable.
Moreover, Diana is unfortunate, her own level is limited, but she met a Camilla who is much taller than herself, so she eventually lost miserably.
Camilla is 1 year older than Charles, and Charles is 13 years older than Diana, which means that Camilla is much older than the young Diana in terms of age, experience, and insight.
Because of this, she first appeared in front of Diana as a confidant "girlfriend", as the duchess: Camilla Parker Bowles and the Love that Shakes the Crown:
"The two ladies (Diana and Camilla) got along very well, and Diana even helped Camilla take care of her kids Tom and Laura."
This is the means, Camilla puts her own person on the woman's side, thus covering up her relationship with the man. In fact, for a long time, Diana was so foolish to think of Camilla as a "confidant sister".
In such a situation, Camilla not only took the initiative in the relationship, but also understood and controlled Diana from all aspects.
When Diana learns of Camilla's relationship with Charles, she is shocked and devastated.
But at the same time, Diana is also afraid of a head-on encounter with Camilla.
Princess Anne invited Diana to her child's baptism, and because Camilla would also attend, she simply declined the invitation in order to avoid meeting Camilla.
This is the true manifestation of Diana in the face of the existence of a third party in her marriage, naturally, she lost Princess Anne, a powerful player, and also gave Camilla more indomitable confidence.
In 1989, Charles appeared at Camilla's sister's birthday party, and of course Camilla was one of the indispensable members. When Diana heard the news, she could no longer calm down, so she impulsively broke into the party scene.
However, in the face of so many people's occasions, Camilla not only did not shy away from the stage, but was very arrogant, she asked Diana:
"You already have the title of princess, public adoration, and two lovely children, what else do you want?"
In the face of the blatant provocation of the third party, Diana even said with tears in her eyes:
"I want my husband".
How humble is this answer? I'm afraid women in marriage will understand.
What if this matter were replaced by former U.S. First Lady Jacqueline?
I'm afraid the consequences are self-evident: What do I want to do with you Camilla? What does my life have that you have to say?
Jacqueline was directly forced to the palace by "millions of charms" Marilyn Monroe, what kind of domineering and wisdom was it?
Speaking of Diana, most of the women in our marriages are inferior.
At that time, President Kennedy spent money outside, and young women in the White House could have had a leg with him. What sets Monroe apart from these White House female staff is her special identity: an actress.
Moreover, Kennedy was really obsessed with Monroe, which gave her the idea of replacing Jacqueline.
But Monroe's wisdom is probably not as good as Diana's, it's not just something that age determines, it has to do with too many things.
Jacqueline has always been known for her independence and knowledge, this is the elite daughter created by her mother, what dance, equestrianism, etiquette, that is not the highlight of Jacqueline's life, on the contrary, knowledge is the most moving place for her.
Jacqueline has been reading Chekov's novels since she was 6 years old, and think about it, what does Chekov's novel mean? It was the great wisdom of life, and Jacqueline naturally got everything she needed in the future.
So, when Jacqueline was very young, she had already set goals for her future:
"Either don't marry, become an independent woman, and marry the man at the top of the pyramid!"
Such a Jacqueline is completely incomparable with Monroe, who has been loveless and homeless since childhood.
Monroe's face may have surpassed most women, but her wisdom was lowered to dust in front of Jacqueline.
Who would have thought? Pampering can make a woman have no fear.
Relying on Kennedy's love, Monroe called Jacqueline in the White House like this: I have spent the spring supper with Kennedy, and he promised that I would divorce you.
How exciting and devastating was it for Jacqueline to hear a woman flaunting her husband in front of her? But she didn't cry, she wasn't even angry, she just told Monroe very firmly:
"Marilyn, you'll marry Kennedy, that's great. Then you'll move into the White House and take on all the duties of the First Lady; and I, I'll move out, and all the problems will be left to you. ”
How do you think that sentence answers? Monroe was silent anyway, and then faded away.
Because she herself knew all too well that if she wanted to enter the White House, it would never be possible. Just her identity at that time, and the undefeated scandal, the American people will not agree.
Jacqueline's meaning could not be clearer: I don't need to answer your question myself, you first ask the opinions of the people, and see if everyone will accept a discredited female movie star as the first lady?
Once, Kennedy's assistant once broke the news:
"Jacqueline knew all the women in Kennedy, every girl she knew, and she even knew their ratings, their skills, everything else."
In a word: know thyself and know the other, never lose a battle.
Jacqueline has long known what kind of man she married, and she once wrote in her diary: "I have finally taken the most promising man in the Senate into my own hands".
It's not just confidence in yourself, but also firmness and strength in the thing itself.
When her husband had an affair, Jacqueline chose to pretend not to know in order to maintain her first lady status and image. As long as Kennedy doesn't mention it, she'll keep pretending to be stupid.
If Diana had half the ability of Jacqueline, I am afraid that the person sitting in the British royal family smiling today would not be Camilla, and she would always be the invisible "lover".
Some people say that Jacqueline won life but lost love, but how did love ever have eternity?
Thinking that ever-changing is its attribute, women want to hold love in their hands and keep it unchanged, then is it not incompatible with themselves?
That's what Diana thought, and she didn't win love, she lost even her life.
Jacqueline didn't think so, she just lost Kennedy, but she won her own beautiful life. Which of these two different women do you think is more right when faced with a troubled marriage?