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Recently, I have been keeping an eye on Fu Seoul. This slightly chubby woman exudes a charming charm on stage. Without him, her thoughts shone brightly. The words are not rough, there must be such a person to tell you to the point. In the emotional world, seeing flowers in the fog is not beautiful; fishing for the moon in the water is not romantic. You have to really love, to be loved, to experience, and it doesn't matter what the result is. The process is your best memory.
Today, there are still people talking about this problem: how to choose between the people you like vs the people who like you?
If the people you like are also the people who like you – then, of course, everyone is happy. If not, how can it be good?
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Remember, a senior sister once said in a serious voice: "You must choose the person who loves you, you can enjoy the beauty of being loved." Then, the other person will be nice to you. You don't have to pay much to have a good return. ”
What she said was not unreasonable, and her husband was very good to her. This sister thought that she had saved the galaxy in her previous life. But in the third year after marriage, this sister heard from other people's mouths: this man has a lover outside. The most damning thing is that the lover has already given birth to a child.
This senior sister has been in the dark, and the man's kindness to her is nothing more than a smoke bomb.
This marriage still lasted. Leaving the man, the senior sister's sky would fall.
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Fu Seoul said: "What is marriage, two people want to go further together, it is a cooperative relationship." ”
Cooperation, mutual payment. The other party loves you very much, but you can call it and go away? There is no such thing.
So, there's nothing wrong with choosing "people who like you". But you have to cherish it even more, otherwise it will be day after day, year after year. All love will be consumed. The other party no longer loves you, can your wishful thinking still crackle?
So, choosing someone you like – in this way, will it be the same as committing a? After all, what if you love someone 100% and they don't give you the same affection?
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Don't worry, Fu Seoul gave a reasonable explanation: "You must marry someone you like very much, because marriage will suffer losses, and the longer you go, the more you lose." You marry someone you like very much, and you suffer a loss to think about it. ”
Here, what is a loss? The loss is the concession and compromise you made for this marriage. Possibly, it is also necessary to abandon principles to understand and tolerate. Again and again disappointed, but finally chose to trust.
The longer the contact, the more contradictions will exist. Because this is the person you like, it's easier for you to be relieved. Conversely, is this someone who likes you? Or maybe you've already felt disgusted.
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No wonder, Zhang Ailing also said: For most women, "love" means "to be loved".
Bystanders are clear, authorities are confused. This sentence is really universal. However, "love" is inherently a feeling. As long as the person concerned feels happy, it is happiness. Whether it's a payoff or a gain, it's the same thing.
Therefore, you will have more tolerance for the people you like; people who like you will have inexplicable pickiness.
Fu Seoul said: "This is the same as girls buying clothes, very favorite clothes, a little thread, or drop a button, you can bear it, you will often wear it for a long time." 」 "Like, is the best answer."
"But if you don't like it, you can't stand even the slightest flaw, and you'll throw it away quickly after you buy it." The difference is unbelievable!
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In contrast, let's marry someone you like. At least, your happiness index is still very high!
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