Carnegie, the spiritual teacher, divided fear into 7 types: fear of being criticized by others, fear of physical health, fear of losing one's original freedom, fear of growing old, fear of death, fear of poverty, and fear of losing love.
Regarding these fears, Carnegie said, "Ladies, anyone can have fears, which is a 'gift' left by nature when it created human beings. ”
"Gifts" represent human nature, and simply put, fear cannot be completely eradicated, because with fear, people will feel the preciousness of happiness. However, if people are dominated by fear, then this gift is the key to hell.
Afraid of being criticized by others, doing things will be afraid of the end, it is difficult to draw strength from work and life, enhance the value of self; worried about health, afraid of getting old, afraid of death of female friends, do things carefully, never dare to take risks, so life will be their own boring, there is no taste of happiness.
Women who are afraid of losing love, afraid of losing their freedom, do not know how to love people, do not know how to get love, therefore, will always do some bargain things, there is no trace of love in life, not to say, will always live in the eyes of others.
Fear is not impossible to be restrained, a happy woman full of intellectual beauty will not be frightened by fear, only those women who are not strong enough in their will and have doubts about themselves will become people dominated by fear, and such women will live in unsatisfactory pain.
How can I not be dominated by fear and become a happy woman full of intellectual beauty? Combined with the wisdom of a spiritual teacher, I think that changing your perception of marriage management can help you.
Married female friends, there are roughly 3 different marriage misconceptions, these 3 cognitions are: men are their own heaven, without men themselves can not be happy, only for the family, children, husbands to pay everything, they can get happiness, their own uncomfortable and unhappy, are the reasons for men.
Women who treat men as "heaven", strong dependence, poor independence, will soon lose the love of their husbands; women who give everything for others will become a resentful woman when they don't want to reciprocate; women who only care about themselves will lose everything with their selfish behavior ideas.
These 3 kinds of wrong cognition, it is impossible for women to become happy women full of intellectual beauty, most of them are dominated by fear psychology, afraid of losing love, afraid that men do not love themselves enough.
Change your own perception of marriage, find a job, enhance the ability to create self-worth, do not do yellow-faced mother-in-law, housework two people to do, know how to understand men's hardships, but also to protect their rights and interests in a timely manner, do not let men touch their bottom line, is a happy woman, because, when you really do these things, your man will not underestimate you, you can also get men's respect and love from understanding men's behavior.
Why do doing these things make you a happy woman? This has to be explained by the needs of men.
Men don't want their women to become ugly and fat, men don't want their women to be lazy and lazy, men don't want their women to not be able to share their own financial pressure, men don't want their women to only know how to sweep the floor to cook, and men don't want their women to not understand, support, and encourage themselves.
You have done all the things that men do not want to do, and you ask, how can you not be dominated by fear?
In the middle of the work, more training on job skills, more social activities, and communication with excellent people, you will be able to overcome the fear of being criticized, the fear of becoming poor, and when you overcome these fears, you will become more and more excellent.
To become an excellent woman in the workplace, you can control the economic ability, maintain your appearance, maintain your body, make yourself full of confidence and charm, and become the object of infatuation of your loved ones.
The housework is distributed fairly and justly, and your man won't say anything because you're also struggling for the family. In the conjugal life, if you can understand, support, and encourage your man, then your man will treat you like a confidant.
Carnegie, a spiritual teacher, said: "In real life, if people can combine thinking and self-confidence, then human beings will exert their wisdom with infinite passion." ”
Women spend most of their lives in marriage, and everything they do is to make their married life happier and happier. So, by changing your previous misconceptions about marriage, you're taking the first step towards success.
Marriage management and life management methods are closely related, do not distinguish between the two, you must deeply understand that the self is strong, happiness will not slip away this truth.
At the end of the article, give a message to a female friend: to overcome the psychology dominated by fear, in fact, the method is not difficult at all, just need to find their own needs, understand the needs of others, and then do something that meets their own needs and can meet the needs of others.
The things that meet your own needs are the things that are conducive to your growth, the things that meet the needs of others, the things that are for the sake of others. You have done these two things, and your life will not be bad.