What's wrong with young people's view of marriage? Couples who have been in love for eight years are fighting for the bride price

Recently, when a young couple in Xiangyang was talking about marriage and about to enter the palace of marriage, there was a dispute around the question of whether to give the woman a bride price, the man insisted on not giving the bride price, the feeling of love for eight years, could not stand the wall of the bride price, and eventually led to the two Lao Yan flying apart, regret for life.

The young man's name is Wang Feng, who is engaged in marketing in a company, and the girl's name is Shi Yan, who works in a public institution. After the two of them graduated from college, they were introduced to establish a romantic relationship. The two people's usual relationship is not bad, indispensable to spend the moon before the moon, Qingqing me and I. Last spring, Shi Yan was sick and hospitalized, and Wang Feng waited by Shi Yan's side, buying good food and drinks, and asking for warmth and righteousness.

Wang Feng running business is busy and tired, Shi Yan took time to run around with him, often tired and sweaty, there is no complaint, the feelings of the two people have been very good, from acquaintance to love, after eight years of bitter love, finally arrived at the harvest of love fruit season, if it were not for the impact of last year's epidemic delay, they would have had lovers and finally become dependents. ，

Wang Feng and Shi Yan's families are well-off, each family has three sets of housing, and their parents have a lot of pensions, and their lives are carefree and unburdened. It's just that the temperament of the two people is different, Wang Feng is more introverted and frugal, does not love to spend money indiscriminately, the clothes he is wearing now are still the school uniform of high school, and Shi Yan is different, the girls love to dress up, like to buy fashionable new clothes, clothes can not be worn more than thrown away, which can make Wang Feng can be heartbroken, the two of them do not know how much quarrel for these small things. Wang Feng felt that Shi Yan was extravagant, not like a woman who lived a life, Shi Yan felt very wronged, she said in her heart, I spent the money I earned, and did not use your money, I buy a dress you also have to manage, that after getting married, you have to search, let alone talk about the word happiness. The two people said they couldn't go together, and they didn't know how much gas they had.

Some time ago, Wang Feng's marriage room was decorated, the two people discussed the matter of marriage, Wang Feng urged Shi Yan to get a marriage license, Shi Yan said: "It is okay to get a marriage certificate, how much dowry are you going to take?" The frugal Wang Feng was stunned, he did not consider giving the woman a bride price, thinking that they were all eight years of feelings, what bride price did they want? He said unhappily: "I have a house, a car, and everything for marriage is ready, what bride price do you want?" Shi Yan was frightened to go back, and she said angrily: "This house, the car, and all the property, you have done the pre-marriage registration, no penny is mine, in case I get divorced in the future, I will leave the house, then I am not too miserable?" ”

Wang Feng did not expect that his fiancée who had been in love for eight years was also so realistic, he simply did not believe his ears, to tell the truth, he was not willing to pay this dowry money, but in order to marry his wife and have children, he could only endure, and had to ask how much dowry was appropriate? Shi Yan asked rhetorically, "How much do you see how much your fiancée is worth?" Wang Feng bowed his head and said nothing, this question is not easy to answer.

Shi Yan saw Wang Feng's heart and explained to him that the conditions in our family are not bad, and it doesn't matter whether this bride price is or not, I just want to see how much weight I have in your heart. Marriage is a big thing can not be a child's play, now the divorce rate is so high, to the bride price is to be a guarantee, after the marriage has a problem, if it is my responsibility, this bride price I return to you, if it is your problem, then you have to pay this price.

Wang Feng's marriage expenditure mainly depends on his parents, the house he bought, the car, the decoration of the marriage house are all the money from his parents, and then he wants to take out the dowry money, he does not have so much money, Wang Feng is really embarrassed to open his mouth to his parents again, if his fiancée wants not much dowry, then he can solve it by himself, so Wang Feng plucked up enough courage to ask: "How much dowry do you say is appropriate?" ”

Shi Yan said: "Considering that your personal income is not high, it is enough to give a dowry of 100,000 yuan." "What? lakh. Wang Feng's eyes widened, he really couldn't come up with so much dowry money, but he couldn't refuse, so he had to say: "I'll think about it, and I'll give you an answer within a week." ”

Shi Yan saw that Wang Feng's face was a little ugly, knowing that he was very embarrassed, so he comforted him and said, Well, you should think about this matter, I really don't want much dowry money, now the countryside to marry a daughter to at least 200,000 dowry, some places in other provinces to collect 500,000 dowry. I am a person inside the system, and of course my value is higher than theirs, so my requirements are really not high. Wang Feng was silent... The matter of the bride price was not discussed, and the two of them broke up unhappily.

After playing there, Wang Feng did not contact Shi Yan, before they contacted each other three times a day and said hello to each other, but now they have become very cold. Shi Yan did not have the heart to go to work, every day he washed his face with tears, and his eyes were crying and swollen... She had a premonition that there was a crisis in the marriage. A few days ago, when Shi Yan was off work, Wang Feng suddenly asked Shi Yan to meet him in his car near the station.

After Shi Yan got on the car, Wang Feng's eyes were a little moist, obviously he had not rested well in the past few days, Wang Feng said with some discouragement, there is no love between us, just mutual pity, love is noble, pure, or beautiful, or talented, or character, these beautiful things we do not have... My abilities were limited, more than I could bear, so I had to give up our feelings for both of us.

When Shi Yan heard these words, she felt that he was pouring salt on her wounds, and she cried "wow", and eight years of hard work was in vain... How grandiose it is, a man who does not dare to take any risks, and dares to talk about any love here... That's it, that's it, end this boring marathon love.

Shi Yan wiped his tears, and suddenly hugged Wang Feng and said, Let me hold you one last time, I am a layman, I wish you to find pure love as soon as possible... Wang Feng said with tears in his eyes, I am afraid that I will never find love again, and I wish you happiness and happiness. The two of them hugged each other tightly and cried...

Lovers who have been in love for eight years have broken up like this, they fell at the gate of the marriage hall, blocking their entry into the threshold of marriage, that is, a dowry of only 100,000 yuan, I don't know how long it will take them to heal the wounds of the heart.

Editor's words; the love of the older generation is very simple, love is love, there are not so many material things, because everyone is poor, you do not dislike me, I do not dislike you; Although it is said that he is rich now, but the emotional world of young people is too complicated, mixed with many selfish distractions, I don't know the current young people's concept of love, is he a kind of progress, or a kind of regression? Everyone is welcome to comment, welcome to follow and forward.