Everyone understands this truth, everything must have a degree, beyond this degree, it is easy to appear extreme. There is an old saying, "If you want too much, you will have misfortune", which is the truth.
It is a good thing that there are desires in life, but if you let the desires continue to expand and evolve into greed, then you must know how to suppress them.
When these 3 desires arise in you, I urge you to suppress them as soon as possible.
Casual is an attitude towards life, casual people are not more true, not stubborn, and easier to talk to. But once this casual nature has passed, it is easy to become chaotic.
My cousin is a good example.
My cousin and colleagues shared a two-bedroom apartment, and he was an otaku who trapped himself in his room all day playing games and couldn't even eat. He puts all his mind on the game console and is very casual about life and work.
He never did the hygiene of the apartment, his socks were littered, the instant noodle boxes were stacked on the table for several days, and his roommates were miserable with him. Later, I couldn't stand it, so I simply moved out to live on my own, and my cousin's apartment was even dirtier, messier, and worse.
My cousin is very casual in life, even at work.
My cousin is an electrician in a company, and when he is not busy at work, he pulls out his mobile phone to play games, and his attitude towards work is very casual. Once, when he inspected the circuit of the warehouse, he found that a wire was exposed, and if it was not packaged in time, it would cause a fire if it was not packaged in time.
In this matter, the cousin thinks that he is not so unlucky, and it is better to wait for the colleague who succeeds him to deal with it. So, when he didn't have anything to do, he went straight home from work. As a result, a small fire broke out in the warehouse that night, fortunately, the security guard extinguished it in time and did not cause a major disaster, but the cousin's work negligence was suspended by the company for investigation.
People who are too casual are themselves unprincipled people, they are prone to a lazy attitude, do not do things actively, and give people a feeling of unreliability. A lot of things are not done well, there is a sense of chaos, no wonder others do not have confidence in him.
As the saying goes, "people are crazy and there is disaster, and there is rain in the sky", so many people are well aware of this truth, in general, people with strength like to do things in a low-key and modest manner. This is a good quality, but if you are too modest, it is easy to become hypocritical.
I once met a colleague Li Jing, he is very strong, very well-known, but he does not agree with his approach, the thing is this:
Once, the company asked us to sort out a plan, but we had no experience, only Li Jing had the resources and experience in this area. When we set our sights on him, he modestly stated that his little inexperience was just a play. He did not recognize his ability to live or die, and he was even more reluctant to stand up and complete this task.
Later, colleagues were overwhelmed by this plan, and finally had to hand it over to the leader, who was not satisfied and questioned the ability of the department employees. Colleagues feel that Li Jing did it deliberately, in order to highlight his own strength and importance, and deliberately did not help to embarrass his colleagues.
Since then, colleagues have been quite critical of Li Jing, and slowly began to move away from him and look down on him.
People who are too modest, the strength is not well grasped, it is easy to become the "performers" in the eyes of others, and their posture is disgusting. Therefore, it is good to know how to be modest, but don't be too arrogant.
Man is good to be deceived, and horse is good to be ridden.
The essence of human nature is good, there is no doubt about it. Sometimes kindness can bring us good luck, but it does not mean that you can be humble, otherwise, it is easy to evolve into weakness.
When you face others to make you difficult, when you repeatedly give in, you will only give the other party the opportunity to make progress;
When others ask you to borrow money, you are kind enough to lend him, but the other party has not repaid the account, if you can't bear to urge him again, it will only strengthen the other party's courage not to repay the money;
When others make you a dilemma, you have to meet his requirements in order not to offend the other party, then you have to suffer a big loss.
Being too kind is not a good thing, and on the basis of attitude and principles, your kindness can be respected, otherwise, others will approach step by step.
"If you want too much, there will be misfortune", when these 3 desires arise in you, I urge you to suppress them as soon as possible.
I am the workplace road of the sheep boy, there are no small things in the workplace, everywhere the big truth, share a little bit every day, and make a little progress every time.