Palace fighting drama leader "The Biography of Zhen Huan" can be described as a hundred times not tired, a man, a group of women, talking about the harem, but the audience saw a lot of truths that can be learned, recently N brushed this drama, saw Shen Meizhuang "was pregnant", and then by the little palace girl Porphyry in front of the emperor in front of the face to expose the fake pregnancy, absolutely like the emperor, how much appreciation and like at the beginning, how disgusted at that moment. However, after this incident, Shen Meizhuang did not, like other women who were disgusted by the emperor, were decadent, abandoned themselves, and tired of their families, from this point of view, Shen Meizhuang was not "as light as a chrysanthemum" in the survival of the harem.
1. Not impatient, to static braking
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Life is so long, there will always be stumbling blocks and setbacks, but being able to calm down quickly also requires learning and cultivation. Shen Meizhuang's process of falling to the bottom is very dramatic, a moment ago, because she was pregnant with dragons, the stars arched the moon, listening to a group of people who were really or falsely concerned, and soon, she was accused of being a fake pregnancy competing for favors, and after a brief argument was fruitless, she closed her eyes. It seems that it is very much in line with her "light as a chrysanthemum" personality, but at that moment, I think that although her heart is dead, her heart should have gradually calmed down and begun to think about the way back.
Recently, I saw a passage from a netizen on Douyin: "If someone has wronged you for eating his things, don't cut open your stomach to prove your innocence, you have to goug out his eyes, swallow it, and let him see clearly in his stomach." "Although it is a bit extreme, the reason is very simple, do not try to prove your innocence by self-inflicted damage of a thousand and wounded eight hundred enemies.
Obviously, Shen Meizhuang understood this truth, when she was framed, she was able to quickly regain her composure, not impatient, before the situation was unclear, did not take the initiative to attack, just imagine, if she was in a hurry to defend herself, in front of the iron evidence such as a mountain to prove her innocence, like adding fuel to the fire, grasshoppers shaking the tree, but it is not worth the loss, it is better to use static braking, confuse the enemy, and think about countermeasures.
Judging from the plot behind, she was right to take the move of static braking, and the forces on all sides thought that she was grounded and lost her fighting spirit, and she was able to breathe, analyze the situation, and wait for the opportunity.
2. Judge the hour and size up the situation, and find another way
During the period of confinement, all she could do was eat well, sleep well, tell Zhen Huan not to clash with the emperor over her affairs, and support An Lingrong, because she knew that Zhen Huan could not be allowed to come in.
There is a plot where, after she is grounded, the concubine advises her to eat. He said, "If you have a problem, it will be difficult for you to take care of it." Shen Meizhuang said, "Well, let me eat something." ”
On the surface, it seems that Shen Meizhuang does not want to let the good sister Zhen Huan worry about her, in fact, carefully analyzing the meaning of it, Shen Meizhuang is to allow Zhen Huan to concentrate on, within the scope of her rights, to catch the person who harmed her, find evidence, and return her innocence, on the contrary, if Zhen Huan's energy is used to worry about her not eating or drinking, persuade her to cheer up, where can she concentrate on finding out the truth, so that the enemy will completely succeed.
Because she knows very well that the current form is very unfavorable to her, there are Princess Hua and her party who have planned this conspiracy, there are also unfathomable empresses watching the fire from the other side, and there are many unsatisfactory concubines who watch her fall off the altar, among them, no matter which side, even if it is usually unremarkable, once she acts rashly and touches their interests, it will be a disaster, not only her, but also her good sisters will be pulled into the water, and it will be destroyed.
When people encounter things, especially unexpected situations, they are prone to be impatient, make some irrational behaviors, and hurt others and harm themselves. Shen Meizhuang's cleverness lies not only in judging the situation in the face of adversity, but also in finding another way in the trough.
Before, she said that she told Zhen Huan not to get involved and support An Lingrong, which was to leave a glimmer of life for herself and her teammates and prepare for the momentum. After washing away her grievances, Shen Meizhuang was not particularly happy, because she understood that today was different from the past, she must find other ways to survive in the harem. Everyone else circled around the emperor, and she saw the emperor's thin feelings, and decided to find another one to rely on and turn to the empress dowager to ensure peace.
It turned out that her choice was right, although she was estranged from the emperor, but she had the empress dowager's big backer, others could not help, coupled with her lack of intention to compete for favors, she could also gain a foothold in the disturbed harem, and in the eyes of her opponents, she was an unpopular waste and did not pose a threat. Therefore, she spared them from jealousy and harm, and she took a good step, not only relying on herself, protecting herself, and protecting her family, but also not becoming the target of everyone, which can be described as another way.
3. Keep your original intention and stick to it
Shen Meizhuang was confused, confused because she pretended not to understand the olive branch handed by the emperor to try to repair the relationship, confused because she was the emperor's concubine, but even the emperor's grace refused, "I would rather the branch hold the incense to death, He once blew down in the north wind", but she was so transparent, experienced the love of the emperor, did not take it as a method of leaning over, but adhered to her original intention, in the difficult days did not like the official woman Yu Ying'er, born with a harmful heart, nor like Concubine Hua, the sick rushed to the hospital, the maid of honor was sacrificed, Not to mention that like An Lingrong, he lost his original heart step by step, was used by others, and aided and abetted abuse.
She adhered to her original intention, had sisterly feelings for Zhen Huan, treated the empress dowager sincerely, in exchange for a little sincerity of the empress, although not much, but it was particularly precious in the treacherous harem, and the empress dowager protected her and her entire family in her lifetime.
Moreover, when Shen Meizhuang served the empress, she did not fish for three days and dry the net for two days, she insisted on serving soup medicine and coaxing the empress dowager to be happy, even if the empress dowager knew that she was approaching with a purpose, it was her little persistence that allowed her to walk out of the gloomy days under the protection of the empress, just like during her unjust confinement, insisting on living, and finally waiting for the original innocence.
Sometimes, I think what we lack is persistence, especially when we are not satisfied, when we can't see a glimmer of hope, it is easy to give up, perhaps, just like Shen Meizhuang, if you insist on it a little longer, you will keep the clouds open and see the moon.
Shen Meizhuang was "pregnant" and then exposed in person, and then experienced a period of such a difficult, bleak and dull day, much like us in the trough, our life, ups and downs, there will always be some lows, if you are in the trough, if you can be like Shen Meizhuang, be a transparent and confused person, understand the situation, find another way, seize the opportunity, keep your original intention, and then insist on a little more, I believe that one day, the clouds will disappear, life will enter a new stage. Share!