There is a passage in the ancient "World Speaking New Language, Confused Drowning": Xun Fengqian and the woman zhi du, the winter moon woman is sick and hot, but out of the atrium to take cold, but also ironed it.
This means that Xun Fengqian and his wife are very affectionate after marriage, and his wife is sick and feverish in winter, and Xun Fengqian goes to the courtyard to let the cold wind blow through his body, and then returns to the house to cool his wife with his cold body.
But not long after the day of love, Xun Fengqian's wife died. He was sad in his heart, and he couldn't do anything, and when someone saw that he was so depressed, they advised him: There are so many women in the world to marry one more.
But Xun Fengqian was very loyal to his wife, and he thought that he would never meet someone like his wife again. Later generations often used Xun Yue to describe people's deep feelings.
Coincidentally, the outstanding revolutionary Yun Daiying is also such a man who has a deep affection for his wife, and after his wife's difficult birth, he was not afraid of everyone's threats, did not listen to everyone's persuasion, and resolutely kept the festival for his wife for 9 years.
Yun Daiying was an early proletarian revolutionary of the same group as Comrade Zhou Enlai and Mao Zedong, who was born in Wuchang, Hubei Province, and was baptized with new ideas when he was a student and participated in many revolutionary activities. He was one of the leaders of the famous May Fourth Movement. In addition, "China Youth" was also founded and edited by him.
After Yun Daiying studied in the Philosophy Department of Chung Hua University, his parents and matchmakers in his hometown set up a family affair for him, and the woman's name was Shen Baoxiu. His family and the Shen family can be regarded as old acquaintances, and they have often interacted with each other when they were young.
Under the education of her parents, Shen Baoxiu's reading of poetry since childhood was a standard girl, and she thought it was a happy marriage. However, at that time, Yun Daiying was deeply influenced by Western thought, advocating free love and opposing arranged marriages in ancient times, so this marriage was naturally resisted by Yun Daiying.
But as a filial son, he was unable to resist his mother's sad tears and was forced to agree. Shortly after his engagement to Shen Baoxiu, Yun Daiying's mother died, and Yun Daiying kept filial piety for his mother for two years, and two years later, in 1915, Yun Daiying and Shen Baoxiu consummated their marriage.
In Yun Daiying's view, the two strangers must have a process of understanding, so after the new marriage, the two lived separately for a long time.
But Shen Baoxiu knew that this was not the way to go, after all, the two were already married. In order to get acquainted with Yun Daiying, Shen Baoxiu wrote a letter to Yun Daiying with a letter as the starting point for their exchange.
Yun Daiying was surprised that his wife wrote to him and found that her wife was not a traditional and stereotypical woman in her imagination, so he encouraged her in the letter: "Read more and be reasonable." Later, the couple got to know each other better in this way. Be considerate of each other and help each other.
The two men gradually got to know each other in the letter. In her daily life, Yun Daiying often propagated new ideas to her wife, taught her to learn Western thought and culture, and taught her the advanced ideas of independence and self-improvement, self-respect and self-love, and equality between men and women in the West.
Yun Dai Ying praised Shen Baoxiu "gentle like a virgin", but "bold like a boy", the couple not only have common topics for their husband's ambitions Shen Baoxiu is also active support.
She encouraged her husband to learn and be self-motivated, and supported him in founding a patriotic progressive group mutual aid society, making friends with people of insight to explore the truth of saving the country and saving the people.
Soon Shen Baoxiu became pregnant. For this new life couple is also the first time to be a parent, there is no experience at all. Therefore, on the day Baoxiu gave birth, they followed the advice of their families and continued the tradition of staying at home.
After giving birth to a baby boy, an unfortunate thing happened, Shen Baoxiu closed his eyes forever in front of Yun Daiying because of excessive blood loss.
Yun Daiying was full of pain in his heart, although he and his wife did not spend long together, but the two already had a deep friendship. Believing that he had delayed his wife and his parents-in-law, he swore to his parents-in-law that he was ashamed of Bao xiu and that he would never marry his wife again.
In order to commemorate his deceased wife, Yun Daiying wrote the article "To the Deceased Wife Shen Baoxiu" in addition to the written expression for his wife, claiming that Yong Widow was a fool who expressed loyalty to his wife. In action, he expressed his thoughts about his wife.
But since Yun Daiying was determined to keep the festival for his wife, there was already a little girl who "stared" at him. This little girl is Shen Baoxiu's fourth sister, Shen Baoying. She thinks that her brother-in-law is a good man with deep affection and righteousness. At this time, Shen Baoying was only 12 years old.
Later, Yun Daiying served as the director of teaching at the Affiliated Middle School of Chung Hua University, and often gave Shen Baoying's second brother homework, and Shen Baoying would also find Yun Daiying to tutor.
He often told Shen Baoying about geography and history, and told stories of the early anti-smoking and anti-war wars. None of the Shen family's siblings didn't like Yun Daiying.
Once Shen Baoying inadvertently saw a magazine "China Youth" from her second brother, and she was attracted by the articles in it. Later, "Chinese Youth" became an indispensable spiritual food for Shen Baoying, reading every article, paying special attention to the articles written by Yun Daiying.
After Shen Baoying entered the Hubei Girls' Normal School, Yun Daiying sent her the "Chinese Youth" he edited on schedule, encouraging her to study diligently, understand society, and have her own new ideas to pursue a greater cause of liberation.
Under his influence, Shen Baoying was greatly inspired and joined the Communist Party in 1925.
When he joined the party, Shen Baoying wrote a letter to tell Yun Daiying, and Yun Daiying was also very pleased.
Perhaps from this time on, Yun Daiying is special for her, whether it is to take care of her with tutoring when she was a child, or to start the road of revolution together now, she has been following yun Daiying's steps. It can be said that the two are revolutionary comrades-in-arms with deep friendship.
The two have maintained frequent correspondence, the feelings between them have shifted from relatives to love, and the position of the two has become more and more clear in each other's hearts. It was just that at that time, Yun Daiying had made a vow not to marry again for life, and neither of them had broken through this layer of window paper.
Later, during the Northern Expedition, Yun Daiying came to Wuhan and met Shen Baoying, who was already a primary school teacher at this time. Yun Daiying did not want to disappoint Shen Baoying, but he could not lose faith in his wife, so they decided to go to Shen Baoxiu's tomb and ask for permission.
Yun Daiying told the past like his wife: "Ten years ago I began to defend your righteousness, ten years later, Bao Ying and I, as a revolutionary, in order to realize our common ideals, I hope to fight side by side with her, I hope that you will agree to our marriage under the Nine Springs." ......”
The two then held a simple wedding and settled in Shanghai. Soon after the birth of his son Yun Xizhong, the couple's life was even more difficult. They could not afford milk powder, and Shen Baoying was busy at work, weak, and insufficient milk, and the child's nutrition was not good, and she was very thin.
One night, Shen Baoying held the child to breastfeed, the child did not eat enough, crying non-stop. Looking at his thin son, Shen Baoying couldn't help but shed tears. At this time, someone gently patted Shen Baoying and said, "Isn't this milk powder?" ”
Shen Baoying looked at Yun Daiying and held a box of milk powder in his hand. Shen Baoying fully understood. Yun Daiying did not return until midnight every day, and he did not sleep, but he had to sit down and translate books, which was originally to earn milk powder.
In the face of the dilemma of career and raising children, Yun Daiying comforted his wife and said: The main reason why we have difficulties at present is that there is a class enemy, and in order to defeat the class enemy, we must face the difficulties head-on, and we will not linger and be deterred in the face of difficulties.
We must struggle, exercise and strengthen ourselves in the middle, children must also be properly arranged, and we must work hard in exchange for the glorious future of the next generation. He also said that Communists have no contradiction between party spirit and motherhood. Under the persuasion of Yun Daiying, Shen Baoying gradually let go of these worries.
As the secretary of the Hudong District Party Committee, Yun Daiying, he shuttled among the people every day to contribute to the revolutionary cause. The two men marched hand in hand during these long revolutionary years.
One day, when Yun Daiying went to Shanghai to work, he was suddenly arrested by a British patrol to stop the road and search for it.
After Shen Baoying learned about it, he kept seeking help from the organization. Under the arrangement of the organization, she went to see Yun Daiying. At that time, Yun Daiying's identity had not yet been revealed, and she thought that she was about to be released from prison, but what she did not expect was that this was the last time she would see her husband...
When the news of Yun Daiying's sacrifice came, Shen Baoying fainted for a while. But as a mother, she still has to take her son to continue to live. During the War of Resistance Against Japan, after the Japanese army shelled Shanghai, the mother and son lost contact with the organization. In order to protect her son, she can only choose to separate from him and distract her goals.
She entrusted her son to the care of her husband's brother's family, and set out alone to find the party organization in order to complete the revolutionary cause. In the following time, she successively traveled to Shanghai, Wuchang, Jiangxi, Jiangsu and other places to find party organizations, during which time she worked as a substitute teacher and nurse in order to make a living.
At that time, Shen Baoying was actually very young, but she never thought of starting a new marriage. She said: My task now is to pass on the revolutionary spirit of Yun Daiying.
Whether it is yun Daiying or Shen Baoying, they are no longer stuck in the traditional male superiority and female inferiority, the traditional thinking of male and female protagonists, which is also the guidance of the new ideas at that time.
For Shen Baoxiu, Yun Daiying respected and loved her, and kept her righteous for 10 years, and Shen Baoying also did not remarry after her husband's death. Whether it is Shen Baoxiu or Shen Baoying, they are unique to Yun Daiying, and they are truly sincere and loyal to love.