Life is like a dream, everything is like smoke. Unconsciously, people have reached middle age.
After experiencing the wind and rain, reading the vicissitudes, and gradually understanding that not living for others, loving yourself well, is the right way in the world.
Liang Shiqiu said:
"The fun of middle age is to know life quite well, to know yourself, so that you can do what you can do and enjoy the life you can enjoy."
The rest of your life is very expensive, please put away your "generosity" and no longer waste time for unworthy people and things, in order to be safe and not afraid of desolation.
Especially the following people, no matter how much contact, there is no point, it is better to let go of this, each life rejoices.
Friends who come and go
There was once a topic on Weibo: "Do you think people with high incomes should pay?" ”
There is a comment that I take for granted:
"No, since ancient times, we have paid attention to 'courtesy exchanges', and no one is willing to pay all the time."
Whether it is love or friendship, the most taboo thing is to pay unilaterally, I pay for you, you calculate everything for me; I am passionate about you, you are indifferent to me.
This kind of unequal relationship will not go long after all.
Cai Kangyong said:
"Human feelings are not gold jewelry, and locking them in a safe does not produce so-called human feelings." There are comings and goings, which is called human feelings. ”
People are actually mutual.
Especially as a friend, I am seven points good to you, you are still three points of affection, there are comings and goings, mutual trouble, and the friendship between each other can become deeper and deeper.
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Otherwise, they come and go, blindly being taken, being consumed all the time, and the heart gradually becomes cold.
For this kind of friend, since it is not cherished, it is better to let go as soon as possible and let yourself be liberated, which is the fulfillment of the rest of your life.
Look down on your relatives
Someone said:
"In this world, human nature is the most difficult to control, and sometimes the people you think are closest to you are often the people who hurt you the most." 」
In real life, there is such a relative who looks like a smile on you on the surface, but looks down on you behind your back.
When using you, be diligent in every way, and when it is useless, love to ignore it;
When there is something, the face is full of smiles, and when there is nothing, the words are sarcastic;
On the surface, polite and courteous, behind the scenes, malicious slander.
For this kind of relative who looks down on you in his bones, it is better to stay away as soon as possible.
The famous actor Chen Daoming said:
"The person who goes up the mountain should never look down on the person who goes down the mountain, because he has been beautiful, and the person on the mountain should not look down on the person down the mountain, because they will climb up, so they must do a good job of themselves." 」
People get along with each other, only by respecting each other, can we go farther and farther.
Even in the face of relatives, do not consume yourself in the so-called "human sophistication".
Recognizing the reality, not flattering, not flattering, not flattering, is the only way to avoid harm.
Classmates without camaraderie
In this life, no matter who he is with, he often intersects with the usual, so that the feelings can be maintained.
Otherwise, if you don't contact for a long time, you won't care, and even the best relationship will cool down.
Just like the classmates who used to study hard together, when they met every day, their feelings were naturally strong, and now they no longer intersect, and they are gradually physically and mentally far away.
It turns out that people will change, and emotions will be far away.
No one will always stay where they are, especially when people reach middle age, each has a life, each has pressure, and if they don't contact each other for too long, they really slowly forget.
Someone once said:
"Affectionate is not as long as a long-term companion, but it can not withstand the vicissitudes of the sea, sighing that the years are too hurried, looking back at things is not human, and it will be indefinite."
Separation, although helpless, is also inevitable.
In the face of past feelings and distant memories, the best way is to:
Keep your heart in your heart and live up to the encounter; I hope you are well and life goes on.
Everyone's life is a sand city, time erodes all buildings, the passing has passed, step by step, it will not help.
Only by moving forward calmly can life be warm and precious.
Ambiguous opposite sex
Ambiguity makes people feel wronged, and there is no evidence of love. When to move forward and when to give up, even the hug does not have the courage, can only accompany you here. After all, some things can't be done, more than friendship is not love.
Ambiguity is a self-deceptive adult game.
Tricking you into a short-lived happiness also makes you step into an endless abyss.
Especially when people reach middle age, although marriage is flat and life is boring, that is the norm of life, and life is like this.
We must not go to the so-called "soul mate" because we can't stand loneliness and emptiness.
Once addicted, it is either addicted or depraved, and finally self-destructs for the rest of your life.
As the saying goes:
"If your soul is not in the marriage, not in the other half, then the marriage will perish, and your dreams will be shattered."
Although ambiguous is beautiful, marriage is not easy, if you do not want to be fragmented in the second half of your life, the ambiguous opposite sex will not be contacted again.
There is no point except hurting a partner.
Over the years, the flowers are still blooming, and the people are different.
In the long red dust, who goes away and who stays, we can't control, the only thing we can do is to cherish the present after a thousand sails are over.
Those things that don't make sense, don't dwell on them; those who don't deserve it, let it go.
As it is said online:
"A simple heart, light and indisputable, calm and frank, with a broad calm, so as to understand the true essence of life."
Flowers come and fall, clouds roll in the clouds, not tired for the world, not worried about troubles, life is naturally peaceful and beautiful.
Light up the "like", I hope that from now on, you and I will have the courage to "leave", and also have the courage to "delete", so that we can return to peace, and then calm down for the rest of our lives.
Author: Zhiyue, Source: Inspirational Quotes, exists only for readers to transmit positive energy.