Wen 丨 Yan Gongzi
The little marquee of the year is back!
The National Day movie "Peerless" was on fire, and the audience exclaimed on the hot search.
The 63-year-old Fa Ge is in good shape and good condition, and the behind-the-scenes footage exposed has been highly praised. He gets up at five o'clock every day to run, do physical training, and insist on completing the action scenes himself. The high degree of self-discipline made everyone in the crew afraid to relax.
Aaron Kwok said: "There is a brother to set an example, no one dares to slacken off, everyone is trying to do the best." ”
Before filming "Peerless", Fa Ge had said that he would not take a gun again, but because of the needs of the plot and his love for the character, he not only made an exception this time, but also passed on his experience in shooting gun battle scenes to Zhuang Wenqiang.
"Brother Fa told me that if the last bullet came out, the gun would be disemboweled, and that would not look good. He is really a very powerful and terrifying person, not random. ”
When people talk about Fa Ge's profession, they are actually talking about his respect for the actor's profession.
Respect for every play, but also respect for every audience.
In 2012, when he participated in the Shanghai International Film Festival, Fa Ge solemnly said that the audience is the boss, and the actors should do their duty and serve the boss well.
He did not refuse to ask for a group photo of the audience, and his photo with passers-by can be seen everywhere on the Internet.
Fa Ge debuted for many years and flourished for a long time. We couldn't find any other reason than dedication.
Maintaining gratitude in his heart and knowing how to think in empathy is the greatest respect that the dedicated Fa Ge has for the audience; it is also the reason why everyone loves him, far more than likes the role he portrays.
The more professional people are, the more they tend to know respect.
1 Respect is what you do not want, do not do to others
Recently, a news of working mothers complaining about kindergarten teachers has aroused heated discussion among netizens.
In order to let the teacher arrange for her son to be a day student, the mother sent a long message at 12:00 a.m., and a few days later found herself blocked by the teacher.
She angrily complained on Weibo, not expecting netizens to support the teacher one-sidedly.
In the face of netizens' complaints, the mother was not convinced, she said:
"I'm busy with work during the day, I only deal with children at night, I don't think I'm harassing people when I message myself, my clients also send me messages late at night, I don't think there's anything wrong with that, because it's my job. Similarly, I sent a message to Teacher Liu late at night, which was to communicate with her. ”
Let's translate it, and this statement probably contains three meanings:
1. During the day I am a migrant worker, I must complete the work arranged by the boss, I can not have an opinion;
2. Late-night customers often contact me at any time, but people give money, it is the owner of the gold, I can not have an opinion;
3. Now, I pay for my children to go to kindergarten, but I am exercising my rights as a financier, so why do you have an opinion?
This logic sounds a little plausible. Where you are determines how you react to the outside world. Party B must have the appearance of Party B, and Party A must have the posture of Party A, which is called professionalism.
The fault lies in "professionalism"!
"I don't think there's anything wrong with it because it's my job." Let's start with this bold statement and look at this matter in two ways.
First, work on the theory of work. If you take the "reason" as a word, the contract signed between Party B's kindergarten and Party A's parents is to take care of the child from entering the kindergarten to leaving.
The contract time is very clear, it is from 8 o'clock to 17 o'clock every day. The early morning is not the contract time, and the requirement to reply to WeChat to "communicate" is an over-delivery for Party B.
"Over-delivery" is the most unprofessional approach for people in the workplace.
Secondly, if from the perspective of "affection"... I really can't do it from this perspective!
If you really talk about love, how can you not care about my feelings, it has been late at night, what is important, can not edit well, find a time to send it during the day? Even if you use a gap in the bathroom, you can press "send".
There is a "projection effect" in psychology, which refers to people's tendency to perceive others according to what kind of person they are. I like to project my own views, or even impose them on others, and measure them by myself.
When customers contact you late at night, you respond positively; but you can't change your identity, so naturally you ask others to respond in the same way.
What is the difference between this and "the daughter-in-law who has become a mother-in-law for many years, continues to torture her daughter-in-law after becoming a mother-in-law", "suffered aggression in childhood, and retaliated against society when she grew up"?
If you encounter injustice, you will be unfair to others; if you are not respected, you will not respect; if you suffer harm, you will hurt others. These may be instinctive, but they are by no means a symbol of civilization.
When there is a problem, if it cannot be solved for the time being, at least you can restrain your words and deeds and choose a rational way of coping.
Instead of complaining about being in the dark, it is better to carry the lamp forward.
The more professional people are, the more they understand what they do not want and do not do to others, which is the minimum respect for people.
2 Respect is to make the other person feel comfortable
In 2017, CCTV host Dong Qing interviewed the translator Mr. Xu Yuanchong in the program "The First Lesson of the Meeting", which made her known as the most beautiful host.
At that time, in order to facilitate the conversation with Xu Yuanchong, a 96-year-old translator, she knelt down three times in 3 minutes. Many people say, "This kneeling, kneeling out of the quality."
What is the highest level of professionalism? It is in "respect".
The old drama bone She Shiman has been called "TVB's last flower Dan".
When filming "Yanxi Raiders", she spoke Cantonese for many years, and felt that she was not Chinese enough to enter the state, so she used Cantonese to speak dialogue.
But in order to make the mainland actor who plays the opposite role seamless, the last sentence of her line will always be spoken in Chinese, so that the other party will immediately understand that it is up to me.
Many actors who have worked with her have lamented that She Shiman can have today's achievements. Cantonese Chinese switch this approach, making them feel very warm.
People who are professional enough will definitely take the initiative to find ways to make collaborators and collaborators feel comfortable.
My friend Xiaowen is a salesman, and her sales performance has always been one of the best in the company, and she has shared with us her way of getting along with customers.
"Low-end sales will push products as soon as they come up, and professional sales have always been 'selling themselves'."
Before she visits, the other party's temper, hobbies, living habits, family members, etc., she will always try to understand, do homework early.
"It's not about checking people's privacy, it's just about finding common ground and avoid inadvertently stepping into a minefield." People recognize you, and naturally they will pay for your order. ”
Xiaowen once told the story of her colleagues who lost their orders.
The colleague had been following very well, and was about to sign the bill. After he invited the customer to eat at noon, he found that the customer's face was not right. Contact again the next day, the customer said, I have decided to cooperate with others, let's talk about it next time we have a chance.
Later, he learned that the customer was a Hui. Because it was ordered in advance, the customer did not say anything at the dinner table. Unbeknownst to him, he sandwiched ribs and braised pork two or three times. The customer is very angry when he goes back, thinking that sales do not understand respect for people, how can this be cooperated?
Xiaowen said, we don't care whether this customer is too pretentious, why the Hui people don't say it directly; you want to invite guests to dinner, or let the customer order on the spot, if you want to order well in advance, you should do your homework in advance. Now that neither is relied upon, is it too unprofessional?
People who are professional enough will definitely grasp the information of the partner in advance as much as possible, arrange it properly, and make the other party feel comfortable.
The other party treats you as a friend, as their own person, and it is natural to establish business cooperation in the follow-up.
Respect is appreciation, trust is easy to do.
3 Respect is the same as non-discrimination
The French film "Untouchable", based on true events, tells the touching story of Dres, a black boy at the bottom of society, who is hired to take care of philippe, a rich man with paraplegia, and the two eventually become close friends and know each other.
Philip's wealth, talent and cultivation are the height of Dres's "untouchable", and Drees's vitality, willfulness and health are also the far away places that Philip is "untouchable".
Friends kindly remind Philip: This man has a previous conviction and has no pity or sympathy, how dare you hire him?
Philip responded: I just want him to have no sympathy. Yes or no, Philip had his own judgment.
Drees not only joked with Philip at any time, but also accompanied him to drag racing, installed him with pulleys that could drive fast, and took him to the massage parlor.
He never saw Philip as a paraplegic, and this feeling of equal treatment was what Philip wanted.
And likewise, Philip never looked down on Dreys's origins and rudeness.
The reason why this film is moving is that the two people who are obviously out of reach have always upheld equality and sincerity, and finally completed the redemption of each other.
The best respect comes from the same kind of empathy.
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In Luo Ji's thinking, Liu Run once proposed a "List of Actions on Realizing Professionalization" on professionalization.
The first item on the list of actions is that "the essence of professionalism is to win respect by respecting others." ”
The more mature the workplace, the more people will know that professionalism is respect for others and respect for their own profession, thereby reducing the cost of trust and improving work efficiency.
It doesn't have to be an ascending ladder, but it's necessarily a safety net that keeps you walking every step of the way.
Maintaining respect for others is exactly what you look like most professionally.