Author: Yan Lizhu

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Although I prepared a lot of items for pregnancy like chicken blood when I was first pregnant, after several twists and turns, the "nesting" project became a rotten project. When I finally returned to my home and had the conditions to put it on the agenda again, suddenly there was a "blood sinus" incident. The early arrival of the two fish disrupted the rhythm of everyone's life, and for a time tossed the whole family upside down. Things are not prepared or small things, and differences of opinion are the big trouble. Due to the suddenness of the incident, our family had not yet had time to communicate ideas and unify opinions on the issue of "naming", so there was a small conflict.
Every Chinese attaches great importance to naming their children because it is an important cultural symbol. For society, the names of people in different eras have the corresponding brand of the times, and even reflect the values of a generation. For individuals, the name follows their own life, which can reflect a person's growth background and the concepts and tastes of their original family. When everyone names their children, they try to integrate their infinite love and hope into two or three words. The problem, however, is that people from different eras and families have the same desires and different ways.
For example, I, a post-80s literary and artistic female obsessive-compulsive disorder patient, care about the meaning of the name, the sense of beauty, and the relationship between them. As mentioned earlier, since they seemed to be swimming like fish in my stomach, I gave them both nicknames "fish". Thinking of "there is a fish in the north of the earth, its name is Kun", I hope that they have the opportunity to recognize the vastness of the world, and also have the ability to swing freely in the vast world and obtain a share of their own happiness and freedom. In addition, I also pursue the harmonious rhythm of the name, elegant glyphs; neither strange nor too tacky; both gentlemanly style and masculinity. The most important thing is that it is in line with traditional customs, and it is known that they are two brothers at a glance.
Grandpa Fish, who was far away from home, did not deny me these ideas, but there was a premise, that is, I had to spend money to find someone to calculate. In fact, when naming the boss, it is also like this, but fortunately, the first child has a lot of room for choice, and the choice time is also very abundant, I handed over the name to Grandpa Fish, and soon received feedback, saying that the master has seen it and has no objections. However, this time the two fish were born prematurely, on the one hand, it was too late, on the other hand, it was inconvenient for me to communicate in the hospital, so Grandpa Fish directly found the master to ask for a name. The master looked at the birthday eight characters, did not give a name, but gave a restriction, that is, "the number of strokes must be 17 or 37". Grandpa Fish sent Father Fish to convey to me, specifically telling me that "it is better to believe that it has than to believe that it is not"!
That's awesome! There are not many combinations of Chinese characters that meet the restrictions given by the master and sound like personal names. If you put on my pretentious thoughts, you can hardly find one! After the operation, I needed a lot of fluids, because I held up the dictionary all day to find words, the posture was wrong, the potion did not enter the blood vessels, my arm became a water injection flesh, and the whole was swollen. I couldn't find the best of both worlds, and I wasn't willing to give up my ideas, so I could only wait for the evening visit time, beg the fish father to make the decision for me, and communicate with my hometown. Unexpectedly, Father Fish bought a copy of the Kangxi Dictionary and studied it for a few days, and happily told me that he had come up with a name that would satisfy everyone. As a result, as soon as I listened, I almost spewed out a mouthful of old blood.
I can't say that Daddy Fish doesn't care about my thoughts, I can only say that he's a guy with big hearts, another mind and mud. So I argued with him in the hospital:
He said: "Save yourself the trouble, listen to the opinions of the old man and you will be finished!" ”
I said, "I'm the first author of this kid, and I have the right to name him!" ”
He said: "I am also an author, and I have to participate in the opinions!" ”
I said, "I already have your last name, what else?" ”
He said, "How can you not understand that the old man is old?" ”
I said, "Why can't you pity the poor mother who just had surgery?" ”
He said: "Anyway, it's all for the good of the child, it doesn't matter who gives the name, right?" ”
I said, "How many times in a person's life do they have a name for a new life?" I think I only had these two times. I will not give up such an opportunity, and it is even less likely to spend money to let someone else do it for me! ”
Every time they communicated, they didn't give in to each other, and finally when the time came, he flicked his sleeve and left, and my stomach was bulging, and I felt that the wound was about to explode. I didn't call the nurse for help, and struggled to get out of bed, holding the infusion bottle in one hand and covering the wound on my stomach with the other, bending down and rubbing back and forth in the corridor. Others thought that my grinning teeth were because it was too painful, but in fact, I felt very sad, and there was nowhere to vent my resentment, and only when I was in pain and sweated, I could feel more comfortable.
It is useless to be angry, because no one can see it at all, if the hometown does not agree, the fish father will not go to the household registration, so I hold the mobile phone day and night and begin to study the naming website. Kung Fu pays off, I finally found a problem, these websites are also using birthday eight characters corresponding to the name of the stroke of divination auspicious, but the results are various. I tried through the combinations of names I had come up with before, and finally picked out a name that I felt was reasonable and had a high rating on several naming websites. Then, take the name directly and call your hometown.
It turns out that learning something is useful, I took "Zhou Yi" when I was in college, and I didn't expect it to come in handy at this time. I started from the tai chi sheng two instruments, talking about the arithmetic have many kinds of solutions, how can only 17 and 37 be used? After talking for almost half an hour, although Grandpa Fish will still be suspicious, but he can't help me, so he made a statement: Since the professional website says that this is also OK, then this!
A storm finally subsided, and the two fish thus had their own big name. I asked Daddy Fish if I wrote about it, would Grandpa Fish be unhappy?
He said that Grandpa Fish was mainly anxious because of the unexpected premature birth of the second fish. Then there is the feeling that it was not good to name his son that year. Now that his son and my son are very good, they naturally want to open.
To be continued
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