Hello everyone, this is Lao Yu.
Recently, I brushed a video, the sun was hot, and the father forced his daughter to go to the pond to dig up lotus roots.
It is not simply to experience life, nor is it to dig up lotus roots to make money, but a "persuasion" made by the father to his daughter.
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In the video, the girl stood at the edge of the field and collapsed and cried, and the father on the side did not comfort the girl much, but only urged the girl to work in the pond: "Go into the water, hurry up and go into the water, you don't eat the pain of reading, you have to eat the hardships of life, do things with your grandfather, go into the water."
This father seems to be unkind, but on the other hand, he is full of good intentions.
The girl's father, Mr. Ye, said that his daughter was in a rebellious period at the age of 11 this year, and the teacher reflected on the same day: The child talked back to the teacher at school and said that he did not want to study.
Mr. Ye then asked his daughter whether she wanted to continue studying or go home, and her daughter replied, "I want to go home without reading." Mr. Ye came up with such a method, since he did not want to study, he would experience the daily work of his father and grandfather.
On that day, the girl sunbathed for 4 hours, her face was red and peeled, and her father reminded her, "After digging lotus roots during the day, we also went to the market with us in the early morning to sell shrimp." ”
The father himself also said that although he was distressed, he also had to endure it, so that his children could experience the hardships of labor, know the importance of reading, and if they did not eat the pain of reading, they must eat the hardships of life.
It is not difficult to see that the family may be in the business of growing vegetables and selling vegetables, and the most simple wish is to let their daughter study well, and the future work will not be so hard.
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Under this video of practical education, most people recognize the father's educational philosophy.
For many ordinary people's children, reading is the most reliable way to change their destiny, not to mention that the little girl in the video is only 11 years old, and the current task is to read well.
Of course, there are also bloggers who question whether this is considered to be punished for farm work? Is it really useful for the father to let the child dig the lotus root without digging the reason deeply, and finally the child is scared back to school?
Lao Yu feels that not every parent is a parenting expert, just like the father in the video may not have more energy to think about so-called family education after running for a living every day.
The father had no choice but to take the child to dig lotus roots, presumably at home he also gave preferential treatment to the child, even in the countryside did not let her do more farm work.
Therefore, there is no need to stand on the commanding heights to explore whether the father's education is too strong, in the girl's educational environment, it is appropriate to let her know that reading can have more choices, and can not be as hard as the father.
Compared with blindly forcing children to learn, this father's practical education is already very good.
As Long Yingtai said, "Child, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare your grades with others, but because I hope that in the future you will have the right to choose, choose meaningful and time-consuming work, rather than being forced to make a living." When your work has meaning in your heart, you have a sense of accomplishment. When your work gives you time and doesn't deprive you of your life, you have dignity. A sense of accomplishment and dignity that gives you joy. ”
This is the importance of allowing children to learn actively.
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However, in the child's early childhood and primary school stage, the most headache for many parents is probably that from the lower grade to the upper grade, the child must stare at the homework, and if he does not supervise, the child will not take the initiative to learn.
As a parent, how do you guide your child to learn in your daily life?
How to cultivate children's ability to learn actively?
Create a learning atmosphere for families
If the child is always in a noisy environment, the ear hears either the sound of the TV or the sound of the mobile phone, and the home is chaotic and there is no place to put the school bag... How do you write your homework with peace of mind?
To a certain extent, the parents' indiscipline also leads to the child's boredom.
Usually at home as little as possible to play mobile phones, children should not watch the children's mobile phone brush drama when learning, you can choose to read books, set a good example for children, but also give children a quiet learning atmosphere.
Cultivate an interest in learning
There are some children who "don't know why they want to learn", their goals are not clear, it is inevitable that they will become more and more confused the more they learn, and only adults will force them to move.
Many children have not cultivated an interest in learning since childhood, for them, learning is to listen to lectures, write homework, exams, etc. When learning is not happy, and children lose entertainment, children will only want to play and do not want to learn.
Learning interest should not be forced out, parents can set learning goals for their children in stages, january goals, and then a semester goals, so that children can have the motivation to learn and a sense of achievement in goal realization, but also cultivate the order of learning.
In addition to learning, the health and happiness of children is also important.
In addition to learning, you can set aside part of the time for children to arrange freely, you can take your children to participate in some outdoor activities, or meet the wishes of children to participate in activities that children like, combining work and leisure.
Identify with your child's school aversion
Children who often take poor tests will subconsciously feel stupid; children who are often criticized by parents will resist learning from the bottom of their hearts. Parents must learn to understand their children, understand his views on learning, give him comfort and enlightenment, and the children who are understood can bravely open their hearts to their parents.
Children who lose confidence do not immediately give up learning, parents can affirm the child, encourage the child, and build self-confidence for him. In this way, the child will feel that his efforts are seen, and even if the grades do not go up for a while, he can continue to work hard under the affirmation of his parents.
In the matter of learning, parents are a strong supporter, and the child's own subjective initiative plays an extremely important role.
Do you approve of fathers' practical sex education?
Is there any good way to deal with when your own children are bored with school?
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