The literary scholar Emerson once said:
"If you want to maintain an intimate relationship well, you need a proper sense of proportion, so that you don't cling, don't toss, know how to give in, naturally."
Behind every marriage is a tacit cooperation treaty.
The treaty is not so formal, it is a pure cooperation without interests, but what is involved is the happiness of a family.
From a beautiful encounter to a romantic date, and then from a simple companionship to a lifetime of togetherness, it reflects life.
The best love is mutual achievement, mutual companionship, intimate lover in life, and warm confidant on the road of life.
Just like Wang Zulan and Li Yanan.
Recently, Li Yanan, who has been closed for a long time, finally came out to open business.
She and her husband Wang Zulan appeared in TVB's variety show "Si Jia War".
From the perspective of interaction, the relationship between the husband and wife is quite good, and Wang Zulan revealed that he is busy with work, rarely stays at home, and does not have time to accompany his wife.
Most of the things in the family are done by his wife Li Yanan alone, and he also takes good care of his two daughters.
More importantly, the couple also "separated".
The model couple of the past actually separated? Hearing this word, others will inevitably feel that the husband and wife have a bad relationship;
But the truth is: Wang Zulan will work overtime every night until the early hours of the morning to go home, and at this time, Li Yanan has just fallen asleep with the babies.
Li Yanan only thought that Wang Zulan was a very good confidant, but he never wanted to become a lover with him.
The person who loves you, even if he is tired, will consider your hard work.
After the eldest daughter gets up, she will wake up Wang Zulan, who is sleeping in the living room, for the first time, so that she and her daughter will briefly contact the father-daughter relationship.
The bright stars on the stage are also ordinary people who are eager to warm their families.
In order to have more time to spend with his wife and children, Wang Zulan shifted the focus of his career development back to the Hong Kong circle.
In addition, Wang Zulan especially hopes that his wife can return to work, and he does not mind returning to the family to take care of his daughter;
In short, in this marriage, Wang Zulan and Li Yanan are a model of mutual achievement;
The love affair that was once disliked by everyone finally became the envy of everyone.
Wang Zulan also lived up to expectations and worked hard to become a domineering president worthy of his wife.
As we all know, the height difference between Wang Zulan and Li Yanan is 12 centimeters, and every time they are in the same frame, the picture of the tall man and the short man always makes people feel that it is not a good match.
It's not just the audience that feels out of place, but also their parents and all their friends and family.
When the two first met, Li Yanan was the champion of Miss Chinese Descent, with a solid family and rich resources, and was a proper Bai Fumei.
And Wang Zulan is only a host of a children's program, and even the career positioning is not clear.
The two frequently met because of their work connections, and Li Yanan's style attracted Wang Zulan, but Wang Zulan, who did not have any fame and strength, where would he get the love of the goddess?
The first confession, unsurprisingly rejected, the second, the third time too.
But Wang Zulan, who was too obsessed, did not give up, and he incubated Li Yanan with kindness and warmth while working hard to engage in career.
This persistent attitude finally touched Li Yanan, and the two finally fell in love.
Not long after falling in love, the news reached the ears of the woman's parents, and it was not surprising that they were opposed.
In the eyes of parents, the daughter has a bright future, and her background is so excellent, what kind of man does not have it? Do you have to find a short and frustrated one?
Under heavy pressure, the two broke up.
But the short interlude did not affect Wang Zulan's obsession, after the breakup, he worked hard, took over variety shows, TV series and movies, and even appeared on the stage of the Red Pavilion to open the show, becoming one of tvb's gold medal comedians.
When he appeared next to Li Yanan as a better identity, the initial throbbing was still there.
People who are moved at first sight are doomed to be trapped for a lifetime.
In order to save his beloved, Wang Zulan prepared a song "Angel Who Fell into the Mortal World", and wrote his own mental journey on this road into the song and sang it to his lover:
"It is you who are as beautiful as you are, like angels in the middle of the night." The discovery of innocence in the human world, you are already what I think... In the future, I just want to hold you, but I am still not afraid of being twenty-six thousand miles behind, and I want to be with you..."
Li Yanan decided to try again.
This time, the love between the two is more determined than before, the parents oppose, then show sincerity, public opinion is not optimistic, then use time to prove;
The two spent 5 years to cultivate this love into a positive result, and happily entered the palace of marriage.
After marriage, Wang Zulan naturally became a spoiled wife demon, and as long as Li Yanan appeared, his eyes would definitely follow.
The two gradually formed a family model outside the male and female protagonists, especially after the birth of the first daughter, Li Yanan put most of his energy into the family.
In the second season of the variety show "The Man Who Does Housework", Wang Zulan and Li Yanan showed the mode of getting along after marriage in front of the audience;
Don't look at Wang Zulan usually giggling, but in life, he is a very serious person, especially in terms of family hygiene.
When the weather is wet and the dishes are moldy, he will mercilessly point out his wife's mistakes, and Li Yanan will be serious and obedient.
At that time, after this scene was broadcast, the audience once thought that Wang Zulan was macho, did not respect his wife at all, and did not know how to share the family.
There are also people who believe that Wang Zulan's pet wife has collapsed.
But in fact, this is the true face of marriage, romantic full house only exists in TV dramas, at that time for others to see, the reality is chai rice oil and salt.
Children, housework, eating and drinking are all part of married life, and the couple is in it, and it is also these that are the most talked about.
Therefore, behind every period of happiness, there is the triviality of chai rice oil and salt, but also mutual understanding, consideration and accommodation.
Wang Zulan will point out Li Yanan's health mistakes, and will also create surprises for decades on important anniversaries, if nothing else, it is not easy to remember that the two are together.
But those who have made efforts and sincerity are always more precious.
Writer Roman. Roland once said:
"In marriage, everyone has to pay a price, and at the same time they have to take back something, which is the law of supply and demand."
The secret to keeping love going is: one is willing to give, and one knows how to be grateful.
Whether it is in the husband and child, or in the production of money to support the family, as long as it is for the marriage, it should be worth remembering and being grateful.
No one's happiness is unearned, and behind any perfect relationship is chai rice oil and salt.
However, people who can live a life regard their lovers as partners, and find family warmth between giving and fulfillment;
Love is not sentient, and marriage is not married to love to be happy for a lifetime.
How much you give determines the degree of happiness.
Wang Zulan and Li Yanan, a daughter who gave up her career for the family and gained the respect and beautiful daughter of her husband;
A wife and children who have forgotten to eat and sleep for the cause have a happy marriage.
Such a marriage model, happiness is deserved.
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