What is it like to like someone?
Some people say that it is joy, inexplicably, it will always feel good, as if it is a good thing that has happened to the heavens, and some people say that it is bitter, and it will always be very insecure and become a loss.
Real likes, probably like this, sometimes it will be particularly happy, sometimes it will be particularly low.
Before that, his mood was only controlled by himself, and he was rarely affected by others, but after that, he was often prone to change his mood because of one person.
Not only that, once you have a heart for a person, I believe that many people can also feel that they were fearless before, completely afraid of nothing, but then it seems to have a weak rib.
Instead of always being able to be particularly dashing, I am often becoming particularly afraid.
As the saying goes, the first reaction to liking is inferiority, and behind this inferiority, it is also an unstoppable fear.
I have to say that love is a matter of two people, but loving one person, it is really only a matter of one person.
However, even if this like is only about their own intentions, everyone is still the same, and they do not want to be unrequited, but will desire that the other party just happens to have the same mind as themselves.
Because I hope that my liking can be accepted by the other party and get a response, so how much I desire, in our hearts, there will be how worried, afraid that the other party does not feel for us, and will not like us at all.
After all, when we like someone, in our eyes, we always instinctively feel that the other person is perfect.
At that time, even if we were very good ourselves, obviously in the eyes of many people are very good, we will still have a feeling of not being worthy of each other, and we will feel that the other party is completely worthy of having a better partner, we are just delusional.
Shallow likes, that is wanton, deep likes, but we become very restrained.
Obviously, I want to tell the other party what I like, but I always want to stop talking, I always want to reach out and hold the other person's hand, but I am always not courageous enough.
At first, we are afraid that the other person will not like us, and at the same time, even if nothing has happened yet, we will begin to imagine what it will be like to be with each other after that.
I think about the way we go shopping together, the way we watch a movie together, the way we eat together, the way we talk together.
We will fantasize about all this, but we will be very worried that we are really together, and we will encounter a lot of contradictions.
Don't like a person, when we don't get along with each other, we can ignore it, and we don't care so much, but for the person we like, even if it's just a little thing, we will care very much.
It is precisely because of this that we are very worried that each other will not be able to deal with those problems, and in the friction again and again, we cannot let go of each other, nor can we let go of ourselves.
In our hearts, we know ourselves too well, and when we don't love, we will be very rational, and once we love, we will start to be particularly stingy.
And if one day, each other can only become like that, they can't do a good job of guarding this relationship, it's hard to have it, but they find that each other is not suitable at all, there is no way to continue, that kind of situation, it seems to be too sad.
A lifetime is very short, as short as a few decades, a lifetime is also very long, so long that many partners simply can't go on.
When we love someone, although we will also hope that each other can go from knowing each other to falling in love, from falling in love to getting married, from marriage to whitehead, we will also be very afraid, afraid that each other will inevitably be vulgar in the end, even if they are together, married, they will still be separated.
In all these years, even if we haven't experienced too much, we've already seen too many points and combinations.
We may even think that if the love is dispersed, in the end it is just a lose-lose situation, it is better not to start with each other, to keep the best appearance of the other party in the memory, and always let ourselves miss, it will be better.
People are always like this, the more beautiful, but the more afraid to get, the result is simply nothing to do.
However, when we do nothing, we really don't witness each other going to the end, everything is broken, but we can't really have it after all, and we can really see that each other can really love each other all the time.
Not all feelings will have a good ending, but what the ending will be, always have to go through it to know.
In life, when we like a person, there is only desire in our eyes, and that kind of like is not true at all.
But if, when we like it, we start to become less confident and feel scared, we probably really moved our hearts.
It's normal to really like someone, to be scared, to think that the other person is nice.
But even so, we don't have to keep ourselves locked in place and do nothing because we are afraid.
No matter how scared we are, we still have to be brave, stop our wild thinking, and pluck up enough courage to go to that person, to let the other person see themselves, to witness the most authentic other, to let each other's stories have a sequel.
Perhaps, not every bravery can be exchanged for a success.
But we always have to be brave, and we will usher in the happiness we really want at one time.
Text/Tan Meng
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