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Planting melons gets melons, and planting beans gets beans.
Everything has a causal cycle. A person's evil retribution is often created by one's own hands, and one cannot blame others.
Smart people, when encountering anything, first of all, not to blame others, but to find the reason from themselves. It's easier to change yourself than it is to change others.
In Lao Tzu, it is written: "Blessings and misfortunes lie down, and misfortunes and blessings depend on them." ”
When you encounter a calamity, you should think calmly and actively look for the "opposite". See through the evils, and then actively change yourself, and the disasters will become good things. The key is to use your heart to understand and actively face it, not to escape.
Evil has evil retribution: Before a calamity comes, a person will often have the following signs and cannot be paralyzed. It's even better to be prepared for in advance.
02
He likes to argue with people and forms an "enemy family".
There is no unprovoked love, and there is no unprovoked hate.
You have formed a bond with people, not all of them are the fault of others, both people are at fault.
For example, you are in the unit, the work is very active, but you have a bad habit - seeing that colleagues make mistakes, you have to point them out, you have to ask your colleagues to admit their mistakes.
The stubbornness was originally a good intention, but your aggressive attitude caused the other party to be very uncomfortable. From then on, the other party thinks that you are an "enemy" and will look for opportunities to retaliate against you. He looks for opportunities to sabotage your work, causing your work to fall into chaos, so you are also in trouble.
The patriarch told us, "Forgive the people and forgive the people." ”
Whether you're justified or not, you need to let others go. If you have a reason, don't fight desperately. Let others win, so that you will not offend people.
Harmonious living and working atmosphere will make everything you do smoother. Perhaps, others will be embarrassed by you, but you take the initiative to be soft, you can use softness to avoid the suppression of others.
Not arguing with people, this is the wisdom of bowing your head. On the road of life, without the enemy family, the misfortune will be reduced.
03
Often showing oneself, causing "jealousy".
There is an emotion called "seeing others is not good."
When the people around you are better than you, you will want to pull him into the water, hoping that he will be worse off than yourself.
If you are better than others, you may also be dragged into the water.
People with great wisdom are always humble. No matter who you are with, you must "downgrade" yourself and make others more advanced than you.
People who make a fortune are always "careful". No matter how much money you make, you will not tell others, but keep your wealth and slowly live a good life.
People with achievements do not think that they have achievements, but feel that they have not done enough. Look down on the results, the more room for improvement you have, the more others admire you.
Oniguzi said, "If you want to hear its voice, Fang Mo; you want to open up, let go; you want to be high, you want to go down; you want to take, let go." ”
If you want to go higher, you have to lower your posture. No matter how strong you are, don't show yourself, causing others to be jealous, which is the curse of "shooting the head bird".
04
Always looking at no one, relaxed the "guard".
If you don't take anyone in your eyes, you will feel that all people, who are inferior to you, can't hurt you. This is a sign of overconfidence.
In the "Complete Biography of tang yanyi", there is a very powerful character named Li Yuanba. He is the Golden-winged Bird of the Upper Realm, with infinite strength and invincible. But he was too arrogant, not only fighting with people, but also fighting with God, and finally being hacked to death by Lei Gong.
There is a stronger hand than a strong middleman. If you don't respect the strong, you will be crushed by the strong.
Water can carry boats and can also overturn boats. If you don't respect the weak, you will touch the interests of the weak. When the weak unite, they can still overthrow you.
If one day, you fall from a high place, it is actually you yourself who are too arrogant, lift yourself to too high a position, let down your vigilance, and lay the foundation of the curse.
05
Often not pay attention to integrity, affixed with "labels".
People of the older generation often teach us this way: "If you borrow and repay, it is not difficult to borrow again." ”
When borrowing money, remember to return it in time, and do not be an old lai.
In the same way, when dealing with people, you must be honest, if you do something perfidious, you will be scolded.
The good does not go out, and the bad things spread far and wide.
A person who does not talk about credit, once exposed, then all people will "spit" at him. If he wants to cooperate with people, he will certainly not succeed and will be alienated.
People stand in society and need people to help others, rather than always fighting alone.
If one day, you don't get any help from anyone, you need to reflect on yourself, whether you have done something dishonest and been made public.
Being a person, once you are labeled in a certain way, it is difficult to turn over. Therefore, before labeling, be vigilant, prevent it, and don't be self-righteous.
06
Met bad friends and didn't know how to "refuse".
Near Zhu is red, near ink is black.
Some evils are not innate, but are brought by others.
Let's say your friend likes to do petty theft, and instead of stopping him, you tolerate him. Once he is caught, you will definitely not be able to get rid of it, and you will also be insulted.
Since ancient times, to interact with people, it is necessary to kiss gentlemen and be far less people. Don't get too close to the villain, and don't help him.
If you meet bad friends, join a vicious circle, are embarrassed to refuse, hinder face, eat and drink with them, and often party, you will also become bad.
There is a word called "one net".
If you mix in a bad circle, you will be caught in the net, and even if you do not participate in vicious things, you will make the mistake of shielding your accomplices.
People are mixed in society and should be able to distinguish between right and wrong. In any case, insisting on kindness and keeping the moral bottom line will naturally be far away from the evil.
Blessings and misfortunes are all seeds planted by oneself, and they are all fruits cultivated by oneself.
As a person, don't only care about the immediate interests, but learn to consider the long term and stop the loss in time.
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