Gong Beibei in "An Jia" is a Kochi molecule, a doctoral student graduated from a famous college, an obstetrician and gynecologist, and her husband Liu Sili is also a doctor.
Such a family should be harmonious and happy, but every time Gong Bei Bei appears, she looks tired.
Now Gong BeiBei finally gave birth to a second child, and she still has to go to work every day, and the child's care naturally falls on the grandparents.
But even though she is an obstetrician and gynecologist who knows how to feed scientifically and educate children scientifically, she is still powerless in the face of the spoiling and domineering of the elderly.
But what makes her most uncomfortable is not the difference in parenting concepts with the elderly, but more chills from the opposition between this man who sleeps with himself.
In the latest episode, Gong Bei Bei returned home from work from the hospital, saw her grandfather feeding Huan Huan, and also looked at the tablet while eating, she whispered to the old man that the child should not feed again when he went to middle class, and while watching the animation, he would develop bad habits and be prone to indigestion.
Hearing the daughter-in-law say this, the two old men were obviously unhappy, saying that the children who watched the animation could still stop a little, so that they could eat more meals. And where is this kind of spoiling, which child in the community is not like this, while eating while watching cartoons to play with toys, people are like this with children.
Gong Beibei did not directly theorize with the old man, but continued to discuss with her son Huan Huan in a gentle tone, so that Huan Huan abided by the previous agreement and ate first and then watched the animation.
But Huan Huan, who has the support of grandparents, is willing to listen to her mother's words and directly says: I just want to eat and watch, and if you don't show me, I won't eat.
Grandpa saw Huan Huan talking back to his mother, and he smiled and nodded. Grandma listened to Huan Huan's sentence "If you don't show me, I won't eat", and she also smiled and said that Huan Huan would write poetry, presumably the two old people felt that this grandson himself was educated quite well.
At this time, Gong BeiBei went directly to the child to talk about the harm of looking at the tablet, and the joy that she did not hear about cried. And Liu Sili came out of the room, and without asking QingHong, he reprimanded Gong Beibei: "What's the matter with you, originally the grandparents brought it quite well, as soon as you intervened, it was all chaotic." ”
Grandpa also looked angry and said, "As soon as you come back, you will make the child cry and make trouble, go away!" Grandma also sat at the table and wiped away tears.
I can imagine the discomfort of Gong Beibei's psychology, even if she is from a doctorate, there is no reason to say. It is conceivable that when Gong Bei Bei left, the child must be looking at the tablet while eating, and such education is also a white toss.
If you don't care, the child develops bad living habits, it will hurt the child. But want to manage, how to manage, the old man said it doesn't make sense, even the people who should support themselves the most are on the opposite side of themselves, cold!
Perhaps in the eyes of Liu Sili and the old man, Gong Bei Bei is here to make trouble, as long as the child does not quarrel or make trouble, it will be OK, and the same feeding will grow up. As Grandma said: In the past, Si Li did not eat these messy complementary foods, and ate milk until he was three years old, so he grew so tall.
You see, experience is the right one, and your scientific feeding is all messy and nonsense.
But what can you do, don't let the old man bring to whom, ask a babysitter to say that you don't want to see the old man, not to mention you have to be able to afford to say it. This is the dilemma of many women, regardless of culture.
When Gong Beibei was fed up with such a life and wanted to buy a house for herself, the problems between the husband and wife broke out.
Liu Sili said that in your eyes, those security guards and nannies are greater than my contribution to you, you will say thank you to them, I am so good to you, I have paid so much for you, but you never say thank you to me.
Shocked and unable to speak, Gong Beibei endured the sadness in her heart and said: Yes, I should thank you, I don't want to give birth to the second eldest, you let me give birth, I gave birth to two children, you don't care about anything, you haven't even changed a diaper, and you won't change the diaper until now;
I should thank you for forcing me a pair of parents to face them for so many years, but I can't educate my own children;
I want to thank you, thank you for buying you breakfast after forty-eight hours of overtime, but you said that the fritters were too cold for me to change for you...
I'm under so much pressure at home, so much pressure at work, I want to find someone to say but you never listen. I want to tell you that you don't care, you don't care, every day when you come back, ask those questions, how the boss is unhappy in the kindergarten, is the second brother smelly, is the mother enough money to buy vegetables... Have you ever really cared about me?
Marriage becomes a battlefield for one person, and this is where many women feel tired.
A woman's happiness does not come from the high evaluation of the outside world, not from a promotion and salary increase at work, but from the hope that the man can rely on a shoulder when he is tired, which is enough. No matter how tired she is, she will be resurrected with blood.
Gong Bei Bei had the courage and ability to change to a more high-tech job, but not all women could do this.
Distant cousins marry like this, just married to the past happy and happy, in-laws everywhere praise cousin is a good daughter-in-law, kind and gentle. But as soon as the child was born, everything changed, and the days of chickens and dogs jumping had just begun.
Her mother-in-law is a strong woman, who has to put a foot in everything, and is even more indisputable to the upbringing of children.
And that cousin-in-law is completely a bao mom man, for the cousin's "accusation, he is always "my mother is not bad, just a hard mouth and a soft heart, you don't take it seriously."
But how can it be improper, while eating while watching TV, even if it is, every day before the meal to drink a bottle of milk, and then can not eat the food to chase and feed, even coaxed to be able to eat a bite is a bite.
When the cousin wants to try to cultivate some living habits for the child, such as washing her own hands and cleaning up the toys by herself, the mother-in-law comes to help directly, and the child has no self-care ability at all.
The cousin wanted to read the bedtime story to the child, and the mother-in-law rushed directly into her room and snatched the picture book away, saying that the child was so young to read what this kind of book did.
The cousin was too weak at the beginning, and from the beginning she turned a blind eye to the mother-in-law's face, thinking that it was really like her husband said, the mother-in-law was for the good of the child.
But what makes the cousin most chilling is the attitude of the cousin-in-law, every time the mother-in-law has a contradiction, he is always a "I help or not help the relatives" posture, and his reason is "my mother is the elder, you don't have to worry."
I advised her to live separately from the old man, but she said that her husband did not agree at all, saying that he would not give the old man to live with children. And in terms of ten thousand steps back, even if they agreed, with their wages of more than two thousand, they paid the rent, which was simply not enough to spend.
Originally did not want a second child, under the strong "attack" of her husband and mother-in-law, she actually made God agree to it, and her husband said that she was particularly envious of people's children and daughters, and wanted a daughter.
When the second child was born, she had to take care of the second treasure and go to work, and there was no time to take care of the big treasure. Every day, the husband thinks that he is too tired at work, and every day after eating, he goes into the room to play games, and does not care about the children at all.
The cousin complained, and the mother-in-law was even more angry that the cousin did not know how to understand men. So when I said that my cousin's tears came out, who understood me, the same to work, the same to face the pressure of work, to go home and take care of the second treasure, and when I was busy, it was ten o'clock.
Every day, I can't even talk to Dabao and talk to my husband. This lasted for more than half a year, and my cousin cried and said, I am really about to collapse, I don't know why I got married, I don't know what kind of day it is.
Cousin is not that I don't want to divorce more, but sometimes when I think about it, it seems that I don't have to get that point, you don't cheat, I don't have two hearts, divorce what.
However, living a life without love like this, I feel full of grievances.
Ming Ming used to love each other so much, saying that they would work hard together to fight for their own little happiness, but as they walked, they found that the two were no longer on the same track.
He thinks that every day after work, someone does food and laundry with children, which is very good, but he completely ignores your inner grievances and difficulties.
In fact, looking at Gong Beibei, who is struggling for her life in the play, it is really more and more sad the more she looks at it.
Isn't that just us? That's a chicken feather for many of us ordinary people!
There is a saying that goes well, happiness is when I am lost, when I am sad, you will come to me and give me a hug, without hesitation.
But for Gong Beibei, for her cousin, and for us at the moment, happiness is to choose a way to live in your own way.