But in modern society, many confidants are gradually drifting away, and finally sleeping in the address book of infrequent contact. We are all running for our own futures, fighting for our own ideals, and it is rare to make an occasional phone call. But what about the feelings between us? Some become more and more intense like old wine with the passage of time, and some are like the part above the hourglass, fading until they disappear.
Talking to his sister that day about his friend, she told me about one of her best classmates when she was studying, and the two of them read together every day and got out of class together, and in order to take care of each other, they also specially applied for the teacher to sit together. In the era of unprofitable students, this kind of friendship is bound to be rare. Now we are adhering to the principle that the hustle and bustle of the world is for the benefit of the future, and the hustle and bustle of the world is for the benefit of the future. It is really tiring to speculate about the people around you and estimate their purpose.
Suddenly nostalgic for the beginning, two people eating a bowl of fried potatoes together so happy, do not care who bought it, do not care about so many interests, both sides understand that everything is just a form of friendship.
But now we are all busy, busy with this and that, and we don't have much time to spend with our old friends. Or that the party has also changed its taste, no longer to contact feelings, but to find a relationship; no longer point to the river, but while drinking while saying bad things about someone; no longer unarmed "gold" pressing the road, telling each other about each other's lives, but in the hotel to love to eat a table of mountain treasures and seafood, play a circle of mahjong that clearly calculates the account, go away after dinner, and the two do not owe each other.
And sometimes we want to call each other to brag, to tell that we are sad, but we can't say it, and the other end of the phone seems to be not an old friend of our own heart, but an outsider who looks at her own vulnerability. We are no longer familiar, do not know what powder the other person likes to eat, do not know how tall the other party is, search memory, only the other person's name remains.
Disconnecting from each other pushes us farther and farther away, like two repulsive magnets, going farther and farther away from each other. The strangeness of the distance and the coldness of the soul make us no longer have "Mo worries about the road ahead and ignorance of himself, who in the world does not know the king?" "The blessing that everyone is skillfully manipulating the perfunctory skills of the social people, polite and decent, but there is no longer a rude sincerity.
Friendship can never be a trade; rather, it requires the most radical idea of non-interest. - Moroa
What friendship really needs is the pursuit of non-mixed interests, and the calmness of not using the other party as a resource.
But how many of us can do it? We long to have such a friend, but we do not take the initiative to do so, things are clustered, people are grouped, and this is the reason why it is more difficult for us to find true friends the more we grow up.
Like that saying, the best way to get to know a person is to get to know his friends.
In addition to the discrimination of interests, there is another situation: the trajectory is different, and life is not in one field.
When you choose to go to graduate school and your friends choose to find a job; when you like to watch high-scoring movies and talk about the depth of it, and your friends like to drink in the billiard room, you gradually drift away. From confidants with similar views to strangers who can't talk closely, friends are constantly changing in order to live. But sometimes thinking about the bits and pieces of the past, sadness will creep up in the heart, and it will capture the desolation of the heart.
It turns out that we said that good dreams and the end of the world do not only rely on a passion for blood, rely on the efforts of the climbing and rolling, but also rely on the fate arranged by God.
The boy who played basketball with us after school is gone, and he wants to go home to work;
The girl who said with us in the dormitory that she was going to buy the most expensive lipstick was gone, and she was busy getting married;
The man who was confused with us after drinking and said the dream was gone, he said he was going to support his family;
The woman who sweated with us at the slimming center left and she said she was going home with the baby...
Nothing in this world is necessarily good, nothing is necessarily bad, many times it is just a matter of position, but some people have gone far as friends, and the sadness in their hearts still can't help but flow out.
From this, I understand that a rare friendship in the world needs to escape its own unprofits, but also to survive the rules of God's game, and how rare it is to have the remaining confidants who laugh wildly with us and become stupid together.
It was they who diverted the subject when I was sad and took me to do something happy, and it was they who said when I was helpless: Come to me, you are not disgusted. It's also them who scold me when I'm going to the extreme.
In addition to family affection, love aside, friendship is hidden in places that are not easy for others to know. But in fact, it is our own neglect, cherish the real friends around us, this love for each other is across the setbacks of the mountains, rivers and seas, and the baptism of years is cast. Don't be too heavy on it, just cherish each other, this is the best scenery of friendship.
But before leaving, warm wine will come to the day.
When the king returns, shed tears to comfort the heart.
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