In the journey of life, everyone hopes to have a smooth journey and be satisfied. However, unsatisfactory times are inevitable, as Su Shi said: people have sorrows and joys, and the moon has clouds and sunshine, and this matter is difficult to complete in ancient times.
In fact, a lot of unpleasant things, once they happen, although there is no avoidance, but if you treat it correctly, it will not have a negative effect on you, so that you can get out of the predicament and get out of the trough smoothly.
In this issue, Yue Yue Guoxue will talk to you about this topic - a person, keep these two points in mind, from then on good luck is always accompanied, and blessings follow!
What has already happened is an inevitable definite number, and even if it is repeated, it may still be the result. So it's best to face it calmly and accept reality.
One of my classmates, after the first love failed, has been all kinds of self-blame, many years can not get out of this shadow, others introduced him to the girlfriend, he is always absent-minded, from time to time to take the first love girlfriend comparison, the result of several are not happy and scattered.
In fact, those who have already missed it must be forgotten no matter how hard they are; what has become a foregone conclusion must be accepted no matter how unbearable it is.
People always say: what you can't get is the best, but in fact, it is very wrong - since you can't get it, it is an emptiness, that is, there is nothing, it is zero, and what ending is worse than an emptiness! Since it is the worst ending, what is worth lingering on, and what can not be put down!
Only those around you are the most worth cherishing, and only what you have is the best.
Lao Tzu said in the Tao Te Ching: The Tao is born one, and the life is two. Everything has opposites and transforms into each other, the key depends on how you guide.
The so-called: "where misfortune and happiness depend", no matter what you face, accept it with a positive and optimistic attitude, and then guide it, develop towards the good side, and eventually change it and become your ideal state.
Any thing, any situation, is not fixed, as long as it does not suffer a devastating blow, it is plastic and recreatable, depending on whether you dare to face it, whether you are willing to accept it or not. Whether there is enthusiasm or not, whether you can persist.
I don't know if you noticed, in various forums or platforms, we see some views or opinions, no matter how reasonable he says, some people support at the same time, there will be people who stand up against it, of course, normal exchange of views do not count, there are a small number of people, specifically for spraying, and then the right thing he can also find reasons to deny, as if people standing in the sun will have shadows, these people will always see the shadow of others at first glance, and infinitely enlarged, and turn a blind eye to the whole person.
What people say is more reasonable, he only when he does not see, blindly is spraying, such a person is usually too much negative energy, do not let go of any opportunity to dump, so if you meet such a person, directly ignore him, so as not to get obscure.
It's the same in life. There will always be people looking up at you, and it is inevitable that some people will see you as worthless, it doesn't matter! Insist on being yourself, life is not easy, why bother with unrelated people!
Don't get tangled up with the villain, then you will lower yourself to his grade, and the more you take care of him, the more happy he will be.
Charlie Munger has a very classic saying - don't wrestle with the same pig, because then you will get your whole body dirty and the other person will enjoy it.
The more psychologically dark and shameless people, the more negative energy bursts, if you are generally knowledgeable with him, you will be fooled by him, he just wants to share your bad luck!
Even if someone gives you a trip, you don't have to look back when you have walked past, you have to pay more attention to yourself, if you are perfect, you don't have to worry about being tricked. Entanglement with villains will only attract more negative energy.
During the Tang Dynasty, Di Renjie and Zhang Guangfu were officials in the same dynasty, Di Renjie had offended Zhang, Zhang found an opportunity to say bad things in front of Wu Zetian and framed Di Renjie, Wu Zetian credulously believed rumors, a burst of anger came up, and then Di Renjie was demoted to a different place, and later Wu Zetian calmed down and pondered the taste, so he recalled Di Renjie and reinstated the official.
One day, Wu Zetian said to Di Renjie, you are an official outside, you are not angry, but you have benefited the locality, and your achievements are remarkable, I credulously believed the bad words of others for a while, do you want to know who the person who said your bad words is?
Di Renjie replied: If I do have the faults that others say, then others are not wrong, and I should correct them; if I am not at fault myself, this has made me very happy, and it is good to be strict with myself.
A young couple ate at the restaurant, eating while talking and laughing, which attracted the attention of several drunks next to them, some of whom whistled and gestured at the girl, flirtatious and arrogant.
The boy didn't want to be troublesome, so he took the girl's hand and said, anyway, it's almost over, let's go.
The girl threw her hand away and said angrily: Are you really a bag, or a man? The boy said, we can't fight with the drunk. The girl was even more angry, and rushed to the table of the few people and scolded.
As a result, the drunk man started to move, the boy was stabbed several times without waiting for the shot, the drunks scattered, the boy was sent to the hospital for emergency treatment, and finally did not save his life due to his serious injuries, and when he died, the boy breathlessly asked: Do you think I am now a man?
All the people or things that make you have negative emotions will bring you negative energy, it is a big deal to avoid, do not entangle, otherwise you will suffer.
Life is always full of accidents, many people appear unexpectedly, and many things happen unexpectedly. Annoyance and frustration, come and come, do not have to drive, if the situation can not be changed, simply take it all.
A lot of things are like this, the more you take it seriously, the more things you do; you don't care, but it's easier to do.
We often make a mistake – to have a heart for the situation.
As soon as you encounter things, your feelings immediately arise, and then you are at the mercy of these feelings and forget your original intention.
You must know that when you have a mind for the situation, you are born with a delusional mind, not a true mind. If you have a heart for the situation, it is easy for the mind to turn with the situation, and if you move in a vain way, you will be overwhelmed and miserable
If you settle down in your heart, you can turn your mind freely and leisurely.
When you see the wind blowing, you don't have to care whether it is the wind or the wind, the wind is moving, it is not moving, love is not moving, and I have nothing to do with it! My heart is still, as elegant as ever. As the saying goes: If you can go with him, you are a person in the world.
The things you don't care about will not stay in your life for a long time and will eventually fade away; once you care, it is easy to become entangled and let you sink into the mud!
Accept reality, work hard, be yourself seriously, and stay away from negative energy! Trouble and frustration are coming, don't get entangled in confrontation, just keep your distance! If you don't put things in your heart, nothing can hurt you. If you can always face life with positive energy, life will give you more good luck and more blessings.
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