If you look closely, you will find that people who are in a good relationship have some common characteristics.
For example, he is super calm in the face of things, always plays the role of helping people solve problems in friends, mature and independent, as if cultivating into a "poisonous and inviolable" immortal physique.
Of course, no one is born like this, love is like an accelerator on the road to growth, meet the right person to progress together, meet the wrong person is like falling and then learn to run, but the process is more painful.
Recently, the cold weather has reached the peak of the single, in order to prevent everyone from falling on the road of love, today I have compiled 5 love feelings for everyone.
I hope that after you have read it, 2019 can harvest super sweet love.
When you're single, enjoy being single
When you are in love, you are fully engaged in love
The joy of being single is given by yourself, and the most valuable thing is that your emotions are stable and controllable every day.
There are no people to care about, and the biggest emotional fluctuations are at best work stress and weight. To solve the unhappiness, you only need to go home and lie on the bed to watch the drama and eat snacks, and go out on a date with your girlfriend with the oil head that has not been washed for 3 days, and life is simple and happy.
And the emotions of being in love are like a roller coaster, with double happiness and double loss. Every day after the defendant Bai Hou felt that he was so happy that he was making pink bubbles, but when he quarreled, he couldn't even do the most basic eating. Love is fascinating, but it also fascinates people.
Single love or not, you don't have to look at that mountain high, sometimes enjoying the moment, is the best choice.
To "make trouble without reason," we must learn to stop at the right time
Everyone wants to be the spoiled party in love, but remember: no one in this world is obligated to be obedient to you.
There is a pair of friends around who have not survived the seven-year itch, and the boy has always been good to her to listen to everything, and he is eager to even calculate the aunt period for each other, who admits that when he wants to get married, the boy proposes to break up.
In addition to being surprised, the boy calmly confessed to everyone: he also wanted to be the one who was taken care of, and he also wanted someone to listen to his opinions, and he couldn't imagine that he would have to be so tolerant for the rest of his life after marriage, which was too depressing.
Wayward pampering was originally a small love interest in love, but not knowing how to stop at the right time will only make the other party lose patience.
Do what you like
Instead of being self-moved
When I was young, I was keen to engage in large-scale romantic scenes, and when I was older, I was surrounded by friends to sing birthday songs. As the psychological age gradually increases, everyone is more and more inclined to comfort-type romance.
As a social terrorist, I really can't cope with the sudden big scene romance.
What impressed me the most was that ex had hundreds of candles in a square on my birthday to confess, and it was extremely embarrassing for me to be surrounded by strangers. There are many more things like this, and at first I felt moved, and then I just felt trepidation.
I can't tell if he's genuinely good to me or if he just wants others to think he's good to me, after all, when others can't see him, he often disappears for no reason or is cold and violent to me.
To put it bluntly, love is most afraid of the wrong place, and only by working hard in the way the other party needs will people feel warm. Blindly flattering and self-touching will only make people feel uncomfortable.
Create passion in the bland
It is the essence of love
Some girls around them are difficult to fall in love for more than half a year, and most of them begin to wonder whether love is the process of gradual fatigue of two people as soon as they reach a flat period.
The common topic was exhausted, the flashes on each other's bodies were no longer prominent, and the physical contact did not have the feeling of electric shock. parted? Not necessarily. Keep together? It doesn't seem necessary.
I have always been unable to agree that blandness is the essence of love, because I think that long-term love must always be creating freshness on both sides, so that each other can fall into love again and again after falling into inertia.
Create a topic without a topic, and create a sparkle without a flashpoint. Sometimes it is not blandness that defeats love, but laziness to create romance.
Don't try to change the other person
Don't change easily for each other
Many people break up because "ta is not the person I want", but in fact, they didn't ask the other person at the beginning, "Do you want to be the kind of person I want".
I myself, in a four-year relationship, almost folded in the graduation breakup season. During that time our bickering revolved around the topic of the future, and I expected him to evolve from a student to a professional elite overnight, until the other person said to me, "Have you ever thought I don't want to be that kind of person?"
I was too concerned about whether we were motivated and successful in the eyes of my family and friends, but I forgot that we were originally independent individuals, and I should not ask him to change, and vice versa.
To be honest, 9012 is still holding his emotional life hostage by the world's eyes, which is really a bit boring.
Modern people have more choices, less pressure, whether in love or not, whether in a different place or not, online love or not, as long as they are happy and firm in their hearts, they can completely do without fear of others' pointing.
Last year, I saw a quote from blogger @Tony Tsugaya: "I always prefer people who don't seem to be particularly different from being in love and being single." You can never guess his emotional state, but you also feel that there is nothing to guess, and that it seems unrelated to him. ”
At the end of the day, who you are shouldn't have anything to do with being "in love" and "single".
You may be whose girlfriend you are, whose ex you are, but most importantly you should always be yourself.