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Bai Lan looked younger than she really was, and she said that she was 60 years old in two months, and a smile came out of the corner of her eyes as soon as she spoke, and her tone was soft.
As soon as she heard her speak, her partner, Lee Mei-fen, came out of the kitchen with a box of "truthful" yogurt: "As I said earlier, with me, you are getting younger and younger." ”
Li Meifen, 62, with a slight Trump accent, is sturdy and dark-skinned, wears reading glasses with golden chains, dyed burgundy hair, and wears a T-shirt with a luxury logo printed on a loose chest on a black background.
They have been together for 30 years. Lee Mei-finn is Bai Lan's first same-sex partner, and Bai Lan believes that she is not born gay, but just "meets the right person". Li Meifen believes that she is "born different", she has had sexual relations with the same sex and the opposite sex, and has had a marriage. But after becoming pregnant, she felt scared at the thought of being with each other for the rest of her life, so she divorced immediately after an accidental miscarriage. In the end, Li Meifen determined that she only wanted to "play friends" with women, and her sexual orientation was also determined.
The two met in Chengdu, Bai Lan went to teach at a Chengdu primary school after graduating from college, and Li Meifen married in Chengdu because her ex-husband settled down.
After Li Meifen divorced her ex-husband, she was fired from the unit, but people always have to survive, she immediately pushed a two-wheeler to sell steamed buns in the streets, because there were many old customers and the business was very good.
Bai Lan is Li Meifen's regular customer, Li Mei Fen fell in love with Bai Lan at first sight, "She has a warm feeling in her, and at that moment I felt that it was her." Li Meifen found out Bai Lan's commuting time, gossiped with people near the school, and learned that the twenty-eight and nine-year-old Bai Lan was unmarried, so she felt that there was a drama, and then began her pursuit.
From giving one more bun each time, to Li Meifen specially making a meal for Bai Lan, packed in a stainless steel box, and wrapping a polyester silk scarf, tied to the pusher of the two-wheeled vehicle, the two-wheeler and lunch box clanged with the uneven gravel road, and Li Meifen's heart also shook with the lunch box. "At that time, I thought it would be very happy to cook for her, and for the first time I was afraid that she would not be willing to pick up, and I was even more afraid that she would not come in the future." Unexpectedly, the box lunch was sent for more than half a year.
Bai Lan will also buy other things to give to Li Meifen, the "enthusiastic sister", after the two became acquainted, Bai Lan invited Li Mei Fen to come to her house to spend the Mid-Autumn Festival together before the Mid-Autumn Festival, after that day, Li Mei Fen knew the reason why Bai Lan was not married and did not contact men - she had never had menstruation.
Bai Lan was born with a uterine development deformity, but the medical environment and economic conditions at that time could not change this condition. She had no fertility, and she was ashamed to explain to others, so she delayed.
Li Meifen was both distressed and happy, it was the first time she was so nervous, pretending not to care for comfort: "It's okay, our sisters will live together in the future." ”
At that time, Bai Lan said, "Good, good, good." Li Meifen knew that she did not understand the true meaning of her words, but Bai Lan was willing to be the biggest encouragement to Li Mei Fen--she decided to tell Bai Lan her heart, really together.
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Li Meifen put her confession letter on the top of the lunch box, and the packaged silk scarf was replaced by a new silk scarf bought from the department store, and the knot of the silk scarf was tighter than usual, afraid that when she gave Bai Lan, she pointed inside and asked her what it was.
Li Meifen recalled that when he handed it to her, his hands were shaking, but fortunately, someone immediately wanted to buy steamed buns.
Two days after receiving the confession letter, Bai Lan crossed the road and walked past Li Meifen's two-wheeled vehicle without looking back. Li Meifen felt that she was finished and was rejected, but did not receive a clear rejection reply, she was lucky, or hoped for a result.
On the fourth day, when Li Meifen was washing the steamer basket and smelling of buns, there was a knock on the door. Li Meifen said that she had a premonition at that time, specially washed her hands many times, and as soon as she opened the door, there was Bai Lan standing outside.
Bai Lan asked her if she was serious in the letter, and Li Meifen nodded repeatedly. Bai Lan did not hesitate any longer and agreed to her. The two were officially together.
In 1994, when it was popular to get married and go to the photo studio to take wedding photos, Li Meifen discussed with Bai Lan and also picked a date to take wedding dresses and art photos. When booking the studio, Li Meifen told the studio master that she and her sister wanted to take art photos, but when they arrived at the studio to choose clothing, the two looked at each other and insisted on wearing a similar style of white intricate lace wedding dress.
Li Meifen still remembers that the master who took the picture muttered: "You two women seem to be getting married." At that time, he was afraid that Bai Lan would mind, and nervously peeked at Bai Lan's face.
When the real shooting, Li Meifen was afraid of causing "misunderstandings" and deliberately kept a distance, or Bai Lan held her hand tightly.
"She's actually braver than me. I know. ”
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Li Meifen also has a sister and a younger brother, and both parents have died.
She wrote a letter about her marriage to her sister, who was married to Shenzhen, and received a reply two months later, including a wedding gift of one hundred yuan and two pairs of fake pearl gold earrings that were popular at the time. The sister in the letter said that she did not understand why her sister liked girls, was not married before, but since she had chosen, she only hoped that they could live a good life, earrings and a pair, and then go to Chengdu to see them.
Li Meifen gave the faith to Bai Lan, and the two of them laughed and laughed, which was the first recognition they received from their relatives. The two pairs of earrings Li Meifen both gave Bai Lan wearing, saying that it was a pity that he had a good thing when he walked the streets and alleys one day. Bai Lan knew that she just wanted to keep all the good things to herself.
Bai Lan also has a sister in the family, catching up with family planning, the husband is working within the system, the husband and wife have a girl, and the parents' wishes for inheritance fall on Bai Lan. As early as when Bailan was 22 years old, her parents urged Bailan to get married.
Bai Lan told her mother about her physical "abnormality", and her mother's expression hurt Bai Lan. "It's like I'm a monster." Bai Lan is very low. But then the mother quietly said, "Don't give anyone else a clue, or you won't be able to marry." If you can't be born, we'll find a way. ”
Bai Lan could not agree with her mother's approach, and the mother and daughter quarreled. Later, the mother was forced to be anxious, and Bai Lan, who was arranged to go on a blind date, said his abnormality in front of the blind date, and asked the other party if he could accept that he could not have children, and the other party did not agree. At the same time, the news spread in the unit compound.
From the contentious "husband's children" to "the white family's child, reading so many books, can't give birth to a baby and what is the use of children", parents walked outside, were poked in the spine by former colleagues, and came back to reprimand Bai Lan, who was "stupid to read and read".
His father had a fierce temper, and Bai Lan's personality followed him. During the dispute, Bai Lansheng was broken by his father's calf bone, and his right leg is still sore in the changing seasons or the rainy season, and he can be seen to be a little lame after walking for too long.
On the day her leg was broken, Bai Lan's relationship with her family was also weakened, but she gave money to her sister and then let her bring it to her parents during the New Year's Festival. At first, the sister said that her parents did not accept her money, and then she simply said that it was her sister's wishes, and the money would be reluctantly accepted.
Bai Lan said that long before he became gay, he was a "strange person" in the eyes of his family, but he did not think of asking for their marriage blessings.
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After the two were settled, Li Meifen began to plan for their future. She wants to make more money, and since she pulled Bai Lan on this road by herself, she must give her a better life.
Bai Lan said that his salary is enough for two people to live, and Li Meifen's bun steamed bun business income is also good, there is no need to "punch". The two also quarreled over this, which ended with Lee Mei-finn's compromise.
Although Li Meifen compromised on the surface, but behind the scenes, she was restless, secretly began to think about new business, used her savings for many years to open a store with someone, and then opened a store by herself.
In 1999, Li Meifen took Bai Lan to see their home, and the real estate deed was written with Bai Lan's name.
"Mine is hers, hers is still hers, and a college student was delayed by me."
In early 2002, Bai Lan's father suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage, and when Bai Lan's sister called, her voice was hoarse and dry. My sister said on the phone that she needed money. Bai Lan told Li Meifen that he was going home and asked the school leaders for leave.
Li Meifen knew the reason, and handed over the things in her hands to the people around her: "Your father is my father, go fast." ”
Li Meifen, who appeared as Bailan's good friend, urinated in the hospital, bought porridge and water, massaged Bailan's father's hands and feet, and wiped his body, which was even closer than his daughter. When the Bailan family came to visit, they would arrange meals and hotels.
And when Bai Lan's mother went to check the balance of the hospital worriedly, she actually found that there were more than 20,000. The nurse said that Li Meifen had instructed 2 beds to contact her without money, and said that Bailan's mother really raised a good daughter.
For half a month, Bai Lan's mother's attitude towards Li Meifen was suddenly up and down, but Li Meifen worked at both ends of the hospital, and she lost a circle in half a month, and her hard work was obvious to all.
Finally, Bai Lan's sister asked Bai Lan, "Did you save her life, and what is her relationship with you?" ”
Bai Lan summoned Li Meifen out and shook Li Meifen's hand in front of her sister: "She is my lover." ”
Bai Lan's sister nodded with an understanding expression, but Li Meifen cried.
In order to wait for the approval of the families of both sides, Bai Lan and Li Meifen walked for too long.
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With the approval of the sister, the mother also acquiesced to the son-in-law who did not meet the expectations of the gender, and since the father's illness, Bai Lan's relationship with the family was reconnected, and Li Meifen also accompanied the extended family.
In the Spring Festival of 2003, after Chinese New Year's Eve meal, my mother said to Bai Lan: "Your business is good for you to be happy, but what to do when you are old, Mei Fen's conditions are good, you hold a doll for the elderly, otherwise what will you do later." ”
And it just so happens that both Li Meifen and Bai Lan are eligible for adoption, and the mother suggests that orphans who simply adopt a man and a woman make a "good" one.
But in the end, only one girl was adopted, and her surname was Bai Yue. The only thing they expect from their child is that she will grow up happily.
Bai Yue was 2 years old when she arrived home, and now she is 18 years old, and Li Meifen sent her children to study abroad in high school so as not to disturb her and Bai Lan's two-person world.
The arrival of Bai Yue's child gave Bai Lan's father a little more hope, and his body also maintained its operation. Bai Lan's mother was even more distressed by Bai Yue, and the arrival of this child washed away the rumors of the neighbors for many years.
The neighbor asked, "Baby old man?" ”
Bai Lan's mother said, "Oh, there are many tubes, and I would not be happy without an old man." ”
Before, I asked Bai Yue through the video what it was like to have no father, and she said: "I don't think there is a problem, now divorce and single parents are normal, the important thing is love, children can feel love rather than what gender you are." The eldest mother is very good at business, the second mother is very gentle, they are my role models in life. ”
I asked her if she would be influenced by her mothers, and she replied, "What I've learned is to love someone without regard to gender, but to listen to the voice of the heart." ”
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