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A few days ago, Ms. Chen cried over her marriage. With Ms. Gu's consent, the following contents were privately processed and publicly published:
My husband and I have been married for 12 years and my children are in elementary school. I do finance in a company that my relatives start at home. My husband is a designer for an advertising agency.
My relationship with my husband has been very stable for a few years of marriage, but over the past year my husband often doesn't come home until the wee hours of the morning.
At first, I thought it was because his company had received a big order, so all employees needed to work overtime.
But not long ago, when I was taking my kids to the supermarket, I met a colleague with whom he had a good relationship, and I quietly asked his colleagues about their work, but his colleagues said they had been idle lately.
That day, I put a spare cell phone in my husband's car with a location switch on it and found my husband with a third party on the spot.
Although I was in pain, I didn't cry or make a fuss. I asked my husband to come home and have a good talk with me.
After analyzing the negative effects of his cheating, I couldn't bear to say to my husband, "As long as you're separated from that woman, I can let the past things pass and we'll still have a good life as before." ”
My husband promised well at first, but I soon found out they were connected.
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Before I lost my temper, my husband suddenly lost his temper. He said, "You can't even manage your children, do you still take care of my business?" I promised you to give you face. As long as you are good, we can continue to live a good life. If you don't know if it's good or bad, we'll divorce! I wouldn't be separated from her anyway! ”
Ms. Chen cried out of breath and asked, "Teacher, I can feel it." My husband doesn't want a divorce, but why is he so cruel to me? ”
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Deception is the fault of one party. Most unfaithful men feel guilty about their original wives and are willing to make a lot of compromises in order not to divorce.
In addition to these men, Wei Qing's marriage counselor also contacted many men who neither wanted to divorce nor want to be harsh after cheating on their wives.
Where do infidel men who don't want a divorce come from, and they dare to tell their wives he just doesn't want to break up with his lover?
The marriage counselor combed through the experiences of the three clients, and with the consent of the clients, the following were privately processed and published publicly:
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Mr. Hu(34)
My wife and I have been married for over a decade and know her well.
My wife belongs to a woman who loves her family very much and she is reluctant to be separated from me and my children. Usually, if I do something wrong, she basically doesn't lose her temper. If I'm really angry, I'll admit my mistake.
So when I cheated, it was easy to coax her to keep with my lover.
I know, she didn't dare tell me about the divorce, that our marriage was good. I have a relationship with her and I am very good to my children. Either way, she wouldn't give up on divorce.
Mr. Ning(41)
My wife and I have been married for over twenty years. When we were together, we were seventeen.
She accompanied me from nothing to owning a car, a house and a child. Although I won my economic and social status, she always stood behind me and gave me a lot of courage.
I'm grateful to her, but it's hard for me to love her as much as I used to. Usually at home, I don't say anything. Basically, I don't have to do any housework and my wife doesn't have to work outside the home. I give her living expenses and pocket money on time every month.
Later, I met my lover.
I knew my wife was definitely afraid to say anything, so she cheated desperately. After all, my wife depends on me for her. How dare she say "no"?
Mr. Fei(29)
My wife and I are from a small town. If we get a divorce, my wife will have to go back to her hometown.
In our hometown, women's divorces are pointed out, so women there basically don't divorce.
I was cheating, but I would still come home, so my wife basically turned a blind eye.
If it really makes a big fuss, I don't think my wife will say anything.
Marriage Counsel argues that:
Where does the unfaithful man get the confidence to tell his original wife that he is not separated from a third party?
In fact, these unfaithful men seized on the weakness of the original wife. They know that the original wife is soft-hearted and understands the helplessness of the original wife, so they can be so unscrupulous.
Some women believe that their marriages are in good shape and that their husbands are responsible for the family, so they compromise again and again on their husbands' cheating behavior. They feel that as long as they don't take the initiative to find out, cover their ears and eyes, the marriage can go on.
It is very unwise to let an affair develop, and there will be many accidents.
For example, if a third party wants to attain a higher status after pregnancy, the original wife cannot be withdrawn;
When the marriage is cheating and the original wife is helpless, we must seek the help of professionals in time to persuade a third party to find the cheating husband and repair the marriage.