Producer: boss direct employment (id: bosszhipin)
Author:@Grasshopper Typesetting:@昊昊
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A few days ago, ms. Yang Liping, a well-known dance artist, was inexplicably sent to the hot search, which must be known to everyone.
The reason is that Teacher Yang sent a video of a person eating hot pot, which is a good picture of the years. However, the first hot comment at the bottom is quite eye-catching:
This hot review received 11,000 likes, which suddenly pushed women's fertility problems to the cusp of the storm, and many well-known actresses also spoke out.
Chen Shu Weibo hardcore voice, the value of women is not for the sake of having children!
Qi Wei said bluntly that the biggest failure of a person is that to this day, he is still defining "women", and he still regards the full hall of children and grandchildren as the only achievement; we are no longer fertility tools!
Li Ruotong, who has also been unmarried, has a similar encounter with Yang Liping, and still lives incredibly transparently: whether male or female, do not hastily decide their own lives because of their age and the eyes of others, but also learn to respect the decisions of others, because that is the life of others. (Okay aunt, I see!) ）
Remember that the last time Yang Liping triggered a heated discussion among the public was her home. This house built on the Erhai Sea, surrounded by a sea of flowers, can see the sky full of stars at night, like a paradise, Teacher Yang sits in his garden, quite a floating beauty of fireworks in the world. At that time, everyone was more envious and admired, and did not talk too much about what was wrong with people's lives.
Unexpectedly, in 2020, Teacher Yang set off such a high heat because he did not have a child, making people speechless. But if you think about it, although this is unreasonable, it is actually expected.
See a data that could "lead the war":
According to data released by the World Bank in 2019, in 2018, China's female labor force participation rate exceeded 70%, ranking first in the world. Among them, the participation rate of women aged 25 to 55 is as high as 90%, while the participation rate of Chinese men in domestic work ranks fourth from the bottom in the world, and behind us are the famous "machismo" countries of Japan, South Korea and India. According to the Global Gender Gap Report released by the World Economic Forum in 2016, China ranks only 99th out of 144 countries on the status of women.
From this set of data, we can see that in our country, women bear more labor obligations than men. It seems that our society seems to be making orderly progress, but the male participation rate in housework is still shamefully low, most of the housework still falls on the heads of women and the elderly, women not only need to participate in social labor outside, but also return home to take care of the elderly, do housework... Such a labor intensity, even if it is an iron man... Doesn't it mean that women are like water?
In such an environment, career or family has become a "multiple choice question" for women. Usually, "putting the family's children first" is the "correct answer" given by society to women.
The American movie "Truth First" tells the story of Rachel, a female journalist played by Kate Beckinsale, who gets an intelligence from an informant involving a government scandal, and eventually Rachel reports the news, and is sued by the government for leaking state secrets.
In court, prosecutors ask Rachel to name the informant, but Rachel refuses and goes to jail. Later, Rachel's defense lawyer also advised her to give up her senseless struggles, think more about her husband and children, and if she didn't care about her family, she would not get the support of public opinion.
Interestingly, in most other film and television works, when the male protagonist is faced with a similar choice, few people advise the male protagonist that you should give up resistance for the sake of your family, betray the country, and submit to the enemy. In order to create a tragic atmosphere of the story, the screenwriter often arranges the sacrifice of his relatives to achieve the greatness of the male protagonist.
The film and television works' completely different treatment of the choice of male and female protagonists reflects the public's perception of the roles of men and women in society.
For men, career is justice; but for women, before realizing their career ideals, she must first be a good wife and mother, only in this way can her career achievements be accepted by society. If a woman does not follow the "rules of the game" tacitly accepted by the public, does not marry, and does not have children, then she is not a competent "woman", even if she has achieved high achievements in her career, her life is not complete, as if anyone can laugh at her.
"Widow sister" Scarlett Johansson filmed "Reunion 2", once participated in an interview, when the reporter asked Iron Man career-related questions, the result of the widow sister is "is there a diet", "playing black widow is not in good shape" These nutritious and foul-smelling questions were directly stifled back by the widow sister.
In the general perception of the public, it seems that women have no other connotations worth discussing besides appearance and figure. The public's unconscious prejudice against women has applied to the workplace, directly leading to obstacles in women's careers.
The data released by many institutions show that the proportion of female managers in major institutions and corporate executives is very low. According to boss direct employment "2020 China Workplace Gender Pay Difference Report", in 2019, China's women accounted for only 25% of senior executive positions, and this data has been improved compared with the past.
There is always a barrier to the difference in wages between men and women. According to the "2020 China Workplace Gender Pay Difference Report", in addition to professional services, the average salary of other industries such as education and training, advertising and media, etc., where female practitioners are more concentrated, is significantly lower than that of male-dominated Internet, electronic communications and other technology industries.
Once women in the workplace face fertility problems, they may then face various tests such as position replacement, demotion, salary reduction and so on. For the sake of families and children, more women have had to make concessions in their careers.
So we often see many expectant mothers near the due date are still at work, after giving birth to a baby, the confinement has not been completed and immediately returned to work, among these women, how many are really willing to be the so-called "desperate three brides"? Not forced to be helpless?
Some people have stood up and said that the public preaching that "women are not used to have children" is a big problem with values and an anti-human idea that endangers the survival of a nation. I have nothing to say to those who hold this view, except to express regret and roll their eyes. However, this Professor Dong's speech actually pointed out a "Hua point" of "female fertility".
When we talk about women's fertility, it is never the matter of "having children" that should not be. Some women believe that their ideal in life is to marry a husband who loves herself, have a child for him, stay at home and teach her husband and children, she can feel happiness and happiness from it, and find the meaning and value of life, which is not wrong.
But those women who just don't want to get married, who just want to work, who have an iron heart and don't have children, do they have the freedom to choose? Can our society accept such them? That's the core issue.
Laos has one of the lowest contraceptive rates in Asia, with poor health care and poor health care, and many families living in Laos' mountainous and remote villages have little effective contraceptive measures, so women are forced to give birth to many children.
In the documentary Laos: Women's Empowerment and Family Planning, the United Nations Population Fund has made many efforts in conjunction with the local government to improve local health services. I was deeply touched by a sentence from the deputy representative of the United Nations Mouth Fund in Laos, Reswina Avis: Women have the right to maintain the integrity of their bodies, and if they can't do this, how can they realize other rights?
The essence of reproductive freedom is human freedom, and when women realize that they have taken on more obligations but have not obtained reciprocal rights, choosing not to have children becomes an inevitable action. After all, the womb grows on women, and saying that childbearing is a natural obligation of women, in today's era of free will awakening, I am afraid that it is no longer possible to pupa women. How to make women recognize that childbearing is happiness also requires men to take corresponding actions.
A society that can accommodate diversity has creativity and development potential.
Returning to Teacher Yang's incident, although Teacher Yang himself may not want this storm to be so big, the response given is also very rational and restrained. But from another point of view, we should feel a little relieved that "reproductive freedom" has such a high degree of heat today, which just shows that many people are paying attention to the self-consciousness of contemporary women.
Through this incident, these critical "birth kidnapping" and the voice of speaking for women are heard by more people, so that more and more people begin to realize the plight of women's survival and whether women's future lives can be slightly easier, I don't know.
To borrow a phrase from "Sex in Our Time" as an end: When a society judges a woman by marriage and children, it only shows that his imagination of happiness is too simple.