Not long ago, an internet celebrity doctor Zhang Wenhong's speech on the Internet resonated with many people:
"In society, people often feel that honest people are always bullied. I was bullied all the way. When you are used to being bullied, you know what this bully's face looks like. ”
Honest people, easy to be bullied.
I feel the same way about that.
The year I graduated from college, I joined a media company as an intern.
Because I didn't ask the master to smoke and drink, I became a "thing that won't happen" in his eyes, and I was usually only used to bring tea and water.
I thought it was nothing to lose, until one of my independently written topics was checked by him, and the next day it became his idea.
In the face of the boss's praise, he was not vain, but I did not dare to say in public that it was my choice.
I still remember the old greasy face that appeared before my eyes after the meeting, and he said:
"Young people, this is society."
At the end of the probationary period, I was dismissed for "lack of ability" and hid in the toilet cubicle and cried:
Why is it that it is always honest people who suffer losses, but those who benefit are often villains?
Until later, I understood these three truths -
Being an honest person is inevitably bullied
Being an honest person is really too difficult!
Earlier, I saw a news article:
Ankang Central Hospital pays temporary salaries to frontline medical workers, but the subsidies for medical care are far inferior to those of hospital leaders sitting in offices.
Among the medical staff who went to Hubei, some people received only 3,000 yuan in subsidies, and some doctors and nurses in the emergency department even only got 300 yuan.
However, the subsidies for the dean and vice president are on average 12,300 yuan.
Truth be told, it's magical!
Leaders sit in their offices drinking water and occasionally making rounds of the way, which is more profitable than doctors and nurses who fight hard.
Thinking of the faces that were strangled by the goggles, and the paramedics whose whole bodies were wrapped like astronauts, I was deeply worthless for them.
There is more than one such thing.
150 medical staff of Yiliang County People's Hospital in Zhaotong, Yunnan Province, announced through Zhaotong Daily that they had given up applying for anti-epidemic subsidies because they felt that this was an unshirkable obligation.
If it is a minority, it is not difficult for us to understand.
But the 150 people in the hospital have such a "high" ideological realm, and then think of the aggrieved look of the head nurse in the video.
Many people can't stand it, and everyone has called for trouble to put the anti-epidemic subsidy directly into the card of medical staff.
The medical staff in both cases were honest people.
Honest people, especially honest people in a weak position, are like a piece of plasticine, free to beat.
If no one speaks, they secretly suffer losses and do not make a sound.
There is a principle in psychology called the "Cactus Law":
It refers to those who are more angular and know how to speak up for themselves in the workplace, they are less bullied in the workplace, and their salaries are on average 15% higher than those of ordinary employees.
Honest people, on the other hand, will be paid an average of 8% lower.
It is an indisputable fact that honest people are prone to losses.
Don't bully honest people
It is the basic cultivation of a person
Honest people are easy to be bullied, so should we bully honest people?
The answer, of course, is no.
Bullying honest people does not make oneself great, but vice versa.
When I was in junior high school, there was a girl in my class who was often bullied by the school.
Although I also feel that this is not good in my heart, I rarely help her in my heart, but in the fear of "hurting the pond fish".
Instead, her braces-wearing lesbian table often waved to stop the boys from making excessive jokes.
When everyone was reluctant to share a table with a girl, the "braces sister" took the initiative to apply to sit next to her.
I often saw her sneaking out tissues and letting girls wipe their tears.
When we grow up, we gradually understand that the jokes of the past have caused serious harm to the victims, and while we are ashamed, we can't help but admire the classmate who wears braces:
Maybe she was the only glimmer in the girl's heart in that bleak time.
Some people say that it is precisely because honest people are too honest that they are bullied.
This is actually a kind of "victim guilt theory", and girls are sexually harassed because they wear less.
Zhang Wenhong once said that people can't bully honest people, if you have been bullied, don't bully others in the future.
To this end, he specially replaced all the doctors who were still on duty at the end of the year with party members in the department.
Even he led the way.
It is precisely because of the kindness and selflessness of honest people that we should respect them even more:
Only respecting and treating them well is the most basic cultivation of being a human being.
It is a symbol of a good society
Do you remember when you were reluctant to give alms to beggars and help old people crossing the street?
It's not that the goodness in our hearts is gone, but that we've witnessed too many chilling events—
In 2006, an old woman unfortunately fell while waiting for a bus at the bus stop and was lifted up by Peng Yu, who happened to get off the bus.
But after the development of things is shocking, the old woman and her family bite Peng Yu is the person who knocked her down, and even fought a lawsuit for this.
In court, the judge said a sentence:
"You didn't hit her, so why help her?"
This sentence cooled Peng Yu's heart, and since then it has also cooled the hearts of many honest people who were willing to do good deeds.
After that, Peng Yu lost the lawsuit and had to pay more than 4,000 yuan.
Although later in the second instance, the incident was quickly investigated.
But after that, there were repeated news similar to "the old man fell, and passers-by turned a blind eye", the most famous of which was the XiaoYueyue incident:
Two-year-old Xiao Yueyue was hit by a van, and more than a dozen passers-by passed by within 7 minutes, but they all turned a blind eye and eventually died of their injuries.
A society in which honest people are bullied is a morbidly distorted society.
In the long run, everyone is reluctant to do good.
Everyone has only their own interests in their eyes, so what is the difference between this and the animal world.
Zhihu netizens once said:
Honest people will hide all their resentment in their hearts, constantly compressing and compressing again.
But just like the water in the cup, there is always a day when it is poured full.
When the darkness in his heart is released, he will become extremely fierce, and he will fall in love with this feeling, and it will be difficult to turn back.
There is a Movie "Prison Break Duo" in South Korea:
The protagonist, Park Man-joo, is a diligent and earnest civil servant and a down-to-earth and honest man.
However, he was dismissed because he did not help the superior officer who accepted the bribe.
At what he thought was a "practice meeting", his colleagues ate and drank heavily and did not care.
Before leaving, he was also asked by his boss to "you can go, remember to settle the account."
In the eyes of his superiors, Park Man-joo, as an honest person, is completely unsuitable for a group society, and will not succeed no matter what he does.
Later, under the chain reaction of a series of events such as his wife's divorce, he eventually became an accomplice of terrorists who killed members of Congress.
This honest man was eventually forced to die.
Like the butterfly effect, the collapse of an honest man eventually leads to the collapse of society.
Be an honest person
"Super Speaker" Liu Yuanyuan said in her speech:
"Every good person has a meaning to exist, because everyone is born destined to change the world."
The significance of the existence of an honest person lies in guarding the good background of society.
In fact, we were all honest people, because we were simply used by others, because we were kind and bullied.
Because I don't want to suffer in vain, I pretend to be very smart and powerful.
We look down on "honest people", just like we are angry at ourselves who are always bullied and snuggled.
But we obviously know that honesty is not the fault of honest people, but the mistakes are those who bully the soft, fear the hard, and are obscene and greedy.
Not bullying honest people is to treat yourself well.
If the despicable is the passport of the despicable, let the honest become the military merit badge of the honest.
I believe that one day the despicable will have nowhere to go, and the honest will get more kindness.