The education of parents to their children permeates little by little.
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Without accumulating steps, there is no way to go thousands of miles; without accumulating small streams, there is no way to become a river and a sea. These 4 things, parents insist on doing every day, the child will definitely have a chance in the future!
1
Give your child a hug every day
In Chinese families, the feelings between parents and children have always been secret and shy, and the words "I love you" are difficult to say, and the act of kissing and hugging is even more difficult to see.
But in fact, a simple hug can bring people infinite relief and emotion. When aggrieved, a hug from the mother can instantly dissolve the child's inner pain; when bored, a hug from the father, like a breeze, can slowly blow away the dust on the child's heart...
The author Xiao Lou teacher wrote such a text:
I once read an article written by a host in Taiwan and was very emotional.
The host, Shum Yongkang, grew up in a rural family and his parents divorced when he was in middle school. Although he and his mother both loved each other deeply, there was very little interaction between them.
When his daughter was 5 years old, he and his wife quit their jobs to take their daughter to new Zealand to study. One day, more than half a month after going to school, my daughter got out of the car and refused to enter the school gate.
Cen Yongkang observed that it was because his daughter had "peer pressure" .
When the fathers of foreign children sent them to school, they always kissed and hugged them, but they did not.
After guessing his daughter's psychology, he also learned from the foreign father to say: Okay, have a good day yo ~ come and hug it.
Slowly, the father and daughter developed the habit of hugging before entering the classroom before going to class.
Cen Yongkang later said:
Although at first my daughter needed this hug because of the pressure of her companionship, when this habit was established, at home, the two sisters and brothers would begin to climb on me, and they did not dare before; and then when they climbed on me, I found that I needed them to hold me, far better than I did to hold them. It turned out that the child hugged me, which was such a happy thing.
Shum Yongkang's mother had always disagreed with the couple's travel to New Zealand with two small children, so when she returned to Taiwan to pick her up, she didn't seem to be discouraged.
He said: I can see my mother's lines from a distance, which are more distorted, and I can even hear the OS in her heart is "Have you played enough?" Finally coming back? ”
But as soon as he saw his mother, he said: Mom, I haven't seen it for a long time, hug it.
His mother's lines were immediately softened, and now he felt like he was about to cry when he thought about it.
The contradictions and resentments between parents and children can sometimes be easily resolved with just a hug.
Therefore, give your child a hug every day, let your child feel the warmth and love of their parents all the time, so that their hearts are always full of security, so that they have the strength to fight against all the uneasiness and challenges.
2
Communicate with your child for an hour a day
When children are young, parents are heaven to their children, gods, and the people they trust most.
Parental listening and communication is crucial for children.
At the end of the day's work, parents should take time to have a short exchange with their children, let them talk about what happened today, what difficulties they have experienced, and when the children tell, parents do not have to rush to criticize, but should listen quietly and seriously appreciate the children's feelings.
After the child is finished, then put forward your ideas and suggestions in a targeted manner, so that the child feels that their words can be listened to carefully by parents, only in this way, the whole communication process is meaningful.
Among them, for the child's good performance, praise and praise should be carried out in time; where it is not done well, criticism and correction should be carried out in time. Let the child stifle the bad habits in the cradle, and continue to maintain and carry forward the good habits.
There is a saying in "The Little Prince": words are the root of all misunderstandings. The most conquering weapon in the world is also language, a sentence can make a person's mood fall to the bottom, a sentence can also make a person regain strength, never underestimate the power of language, especially when speaking to children.
A word of positive encouragement can give a child unlimited upward strength, and a vicious and critical word can instantly beat the child into the abyss.
So, say more positive words of encouragement to your child, which is far better than just blaming and cursing.
3
Involve your child in housework every day
"When the day of hoeing is noon, the sweat drops fall into the soil, who knows the plate of Chinese food, the grains are hard." One of the reasons for children to do housework is to let them understand that all acquisitions are obtained through giving:
Dirty clothes don't get clean on their own; the clutter in the trash can doesn't run out on their own; the fragrant meals on the dinner table need to be cooked step by step...
The so-called unearned gain is just delusional.
Only when children understand the purpose and value of labor can they not scorn the effort and take the demand for granted.
A junior high school girl from a poor family and makes a living by her father moving bricks at the construction site, but she strongly demands that her father use his two-month salary to buy her a new Apple phone. Why? First, she was too vain. Second, she thought that money was blown by the wind, and she did not understand the hard-won money.
Allowing children to do housework can cultivate their sense of family responsibility and gratitude to their parents to a certain extent. It can also exercise the child's self-care ability and independent ability.
Peking University students will not peel eggs, international students open a video in the middle of the night to ask their mothers how to make scrambled eggs with tomatoes... Children who do not do housework from an early age will also let their parents worry and worry about it from time to time when they grow up.
Therefore, in order to make the future of the child go further and further, from now on, let the child participate in the housework!
4
Take a little time every day to study with your child
The importance of parents accompanying their children will not be repeated here. I mainly want to talk about how parents should accompany their children.
Many parents feel that companionship is not accompanied, when the child plays, I sit next to him; when writing homework, I watch from the side, this is companionship.
But this is all wrong. True companionship is when parents spend time playing with their children, learning together, taking risks together, and communicating with their children in the process, which truly realizes the meaning of companionship.
I once heard a child say: "I also want to write homework seriously, but as soon as I see my father playing with his mobile phone, I can't help but want to play." ”
This is a problem that many parents have now. When your child is writing homework, you brush your mobile phone next to you, which seems to be accompanying the child, but in fact, it is "harming" the child - distracting the child's attention and disrupting the rhythm of the child's learning.
The best way is that when your child is writing homework, you also pick up a book to read, or learn some work knowledge. Just like Huang Lei taught his daughter Duoduo: Huang Lei has the habit of reading books before going to bed, and Duoduo will also learn to read like his father. Over time, Duoduo has developed a good habit of active reading.
Parents are role models for children, and parents must become what kind of people they want their children to become.
Parents must read what Teacher Tian Xian said: Teaching by word and deed is an educational philosophy that will never go out of style.
In the past 2017, the University of Michigan in the United States released an important research report.
The study found that the more parents look at mobile phones and tablets during family time, the more likely their children are to have behavioral problems such as excessive sensitivity, impatience, hyperactivity, etc.
In this era of information explosion and everyone has become a low-headed family, how to put down the mobile phone and learn with the children is a compulsory lesson for parents.