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Someone said that the way to make a good woman bad is particularly simple, give her money, enough money.
In the face of money, women are often more likely to lose themselves, especially those women who come out of a small place, have no culture, and have never seen anything in the world, and it is easy to lose themselves with a little temptation.
In fact, the loss of one's self begins with the greed of desire.
At first, maybe all she wanted was a beautiful dress, then a designer bag, and then a car, and after the desires of people were opened little by little, she would only want more and more things.
Just like Ge Weilong in the movie "The First Incense", when she first defected to her aunt, all she wanted was a place to live, so that she could finish college.
But when she really walked into that luxurious life, her mentality quickly changed. She indulged in all kinds of costumes prepared for her by her aunt, and lingered in one high-end dance party after another.
A woman's depravity begins with the extravagant expectation of a class that does not match herself.
The word desire, used well, is a stepping stone on the road to success, and a bad use is the stepping stone of the door of the fall.
01。
Ah Ying in the TV series "Sea of Stars" is the second good sister in Jane Eyre's life.
The first is the daughter of her aunt's family, Gillian, and although Jane loves her aunt and cousin Amin, she has a good feeling for the honest Aunt Jiao.
Since the death of her parents, Jane Eyre's life has suddenly descended from heaven to hell, even if her aunt has become her guardian, she knows very well in her heart that the reason why she chose to stay is to look at Jane Eyre's father's money.
Aunt and cousin are snobbish eyes, see money eyes open, only Gillian is different, Gillian care for Jane Ai is all shown on the face, but unfortunately her fate is not in her own hands, so although she really cares for Jane Eyre, it can't help her.
After leaving her hometown for Guangzhou, Ah Ying is the second good person Jane Ai meets, the first is the noodle shop owner who took her in. And Jane Ai and Ah Ying met because of a takeaway.
Although Ah Ying works in the clubhouse, Jane Ai never looks down on her, on the one hand, because she sees her love for life from Ah Ying's struggle, compared to Ah Xiang, although Ah Ying lives a humble life, she has always been very clear about what she wants, she has a clear understanding of herself, so she never complains about the injustice that life brings to her.
This kind of girl is actually because of her own family conditions are not good, helplessly took a road she did not like, but even so, she still tries very hard to make her life better, and no matter what happens, she always has a smiling and squinting expression, in fact, from this point of view, Ah Ying's life will not be too bad.
02。
Some people may say that they are all raised by men, can life still be good? Look closely at Ah Ying's life plan for herself, and you will find that what she wants has finally been realized.
Ah Ying once told Jane Ai and Ah Xiang that her biggest dream was to make a lot of money and then return to her hometown to open a beauty salon. In fact, for Ah Ying, her purpose is to earn money, not just to live a more eroded life.
However, Ah Xiang and Ah Ying are completely different, to put it bluntly, the reason why Ah Xiang left from a regular large company, and then quickly joined ah Ying's club to earn quick money and wear beautiful clothes, is basically to satisfy the vanity of girls.
The biggest difference between Ah Xiang and Ah Ying is that one is that he has not yet understood the meaning of making money and is still living in the present, while the other has long been clearly aware of this society, knows the purpose and use of money, and strives to plan for the future.
Maybe one day, Ah Ying will still be abandoned, but so what, at least she has worked hard, she has tried, and it is not too late for a choice error to occur at any time in this life, as long as she is still alive, she has the opportunity to start again.
Compared with abandonment, in fact, what a woman is most afraid of should be to completely lose herself.
The biggest contradiction in Ah Xiang's person is that what she wants does not match her ability, and Ah Ying is also not capable enough, but at least what she wants is directly proportional to what she can get, and once she is sure that she can get it in some way, she will not hesitate to give up what she should give up.
It is said that in this life, choice is more important than effort.
But do you know why choice is more important? From the perspective of practical factors, the choice of good or bad directly determines whether your future road is flat or full of thorns.
In other words, no matter what your choice is, there is a lot of uncertainty.
And the effort is not the same, the effort is only the courage to go forward, there is no hind legs, no forks, it will not bring us misunderstandings, there is no deception.
And as long as you work hard enough, you will always achieve what you want.
In addition, to advise the girls, although the shortcut is easier, but far from the steady walk of each step, so whether young or old, on the long road of life, I hope you take every step at the same time, take it beautifully.
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About author:Zhang Ping, psychological counselor, marriage and family counselor, well-known emotional self-media. I have wine, do you have a story?