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It's almost the New Year, and some hospitality etiquette is about to be brought up by parents again. Especially during the New Year's Festival, when there are many guests in the family, parents will teach their children some rules in advance. Otherwise, it is not only easy to be ugly, but also makes relatives and friends sad and angry.
Friends said that recently, her family has come to visit more frequently, because her in-laws are older and are the "only two" elders of relatives and friends. The father-in-law is 97 years old and the mother-in-law is 92 years old, both of whom are long-lived people, so every time the New Year is approaching, as long as the relatives and friends who come back from outside, they must first visit her home. Recently, her children are also taking their final exams, and she is really a bit overwhelmed.
Two days ago, the son was writing homework, and a large group of relatives came, probably talking too loudly, his son could not study quietly, he rushed out of the room, yelled everyone, a room of people was instantly embarrassed. Some elderly people with big tempers also deliberately irritated her husband with words, meaning that they beat up their sons. Fortunately, she cleverly blocked it, and since then, whenever relatives and friends come, she will take her son to the next door neighbor's house to do his homework.
In fact, the following guests often come to the home, and the child should "hide away", otherwise the relationship is easy to break.
As my friend said, this time the guests at home, loud noises, and music, must let her husband beat the child. Such a guest, the child is annoyed, she is also annoyed. Therefore, if the family often comes to this kind of guest who loves to play the score, parents must let the child "hide away". Because, the child does not speak seriously, in case of offending such relatives, the family may have to yell or beat the child for the sake of face. In this way, the child is wronged and lets relatives see jokes.
The point is that some relatives have to make progress, you don't give him enough face, he has to dump his face. Moreover, we may directly reprimand our children, or say bad things about our family among relatives and friends, saying that we have no tutors. In this way, the relationship can easily become frozen. So, like my friend, it's wise to take the child to the neighbor's house every time such a relative comes.
There are also some guests who are not as annoying as this kind of guest who loves to play music, but they are too "enthusiastic" - nosy! This kind of guest, every time they come to the house, they have to mix some things, for example, inquire about the affairs of the family, give the elderly ideas to rectify the younger generations and children, give young people "sell well", and talk about the old people in the family. Moreover, they may also urge marriage and induce birth, which is more attentive than the elders in the family.
When encountering such nosy guests, parents should also pay attention to letting their children "hide away", because such guests will also pick faults in their children.
Let's talk about a case of me, my son's academic performance is not good, a cousin came to my house, said that her grandson studied well, ranked first in the class every time he took the exam, and studied very hard. He also said that my son's study is not good, it is all too greedy, we have to be strictly controlled, and we have to report to the child for a tutoring class, and then the more my in-laws listen, the more they feel that their grandson has not been saved, so they took out a two-month pension and applied for the counseling class of this cousin's grandson. As a result, nothing was learned, and the relationship between the two sides was still frozen.
As parents, we are actually very repulsive to those guests who love crazy funny babies, because they tease their children lightly and heavily, which makes people uncomfortable to watch. For example, forcing the child to "call Daddy", forcing the child to drink, and doing some dangerous actions to throw the child high and catch it... Children don't like it, and we feel bad about it. However, it is not good to make things too stiff for the sake of face.
Therefore, when encountering such guests, we must look after our children, and it is best to let them "hide away". In case this kind of guest goes too far and hurts the child, we adults will turn our faces and start a conflict, and the gain will not be worth the loss.
【Topic Discussion: Parents, do you have these types of guests in your home? 】
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