Scientific parenting bottom thinking Tao Yong
Teachers usually ask children to go home and read some books, some children are willing to read, some children are not willing to read, so at this time, do we want to force children? If you don't read the books recommended by the teacher, why do you have to take the exam?
I think that the books requested by the teacher do not necessarily have to be read, and the books that the child likes, he will take the initiative to read. The books that the teacher asked him to read were either too difficult or too easy, or they didn't like this kind of books, so naturally they couldn't read them, and it was useless to read them barely, and they couldn't get into their minds at all. Of course, there are also books recommended by teachers that are just suitable for the child's "appetite", but that is a minority after all. Therefore, it is not necessary to force children to read books recommended by teachers, but parents do need to let their children read more extracurricular books.
Teachers will generally ask to read books related to the text, or books related to the author of the text, or books related to the current type of knowledge learned. If you carefully study the children's language books, you will find that they learn ancient poetry in this unit, and the next unit learns narratives, that is, it has a category, then the teacher may recommend the bibliography related to the category, of course, from the teacher's point of view, this starting point is no problem.
We let our children read widely and deeply, which is certainly beneficial for the open book. The question is whether your child is ready to read and can they really benefit from reading? Therefore, I think that the child should read books that conform to his cognitive rules, reading level, and hobbies, and only when he reads more books and has a wide range of knowledge, he can meet all the requirements of the teacher. Just before stimulating a child's interest in reading and urging him to develop the habit of insisting on reading, it is necessary to lay the foundation for him to read.
Let me now share what kind of reading interest primary and secondary school students generally develop. If your child's reading needs are not met at an early age, it is likely that as he grows older, his interest in reading will not develop. For example, in the first grade of elementary school, he must have read classic fairy tales, right? He didn't read the classic fairy tales, but went straight to read the world's masterpieces, is it feasible? Obviously, no, it is difficult for him to cross to that stage, because without the preparation of classic fairy tales, it is difficult to understand the content of famous articles. Therefore, the cognitive development of children is regular, it is impossible to develop by leaps and bounds, of course, a very small number of children with superior IQ are another matter, we are talking about the situation of ordinary children here.
The lower grades of primary school read classic fairy tales, the middle grades read adventure exploration, the upper grades read reasoning and illusion, junior high school reads history, biographies and masterpieces, and high school reads books and periodicals of philosophical thought. No matter what age your child is, if he is older, but he is not interested in the corresponding content, it means that he did not read enough as a child. If we see that a high school student is still reading unreal novels, it means that his entire mental state or ideological preparation is not enough, that is to say, he has not been baptized by history, biography and masterpieces, it is difficult to enter the stage of philosophical thought works, so at this time he needs to make up for the previous reading interest before entering the later stage.
Of course, the reading order I am talking about is only a reference, and not every child must develop in this order, but if you don't understand it, if you don't understand it, you can simply follow it in this order.
What if your child doesn't read the books recommended by the teacher, or he can't read them, hasn't reached that stage, and has to take the exam again? Can we think of a simple coping strategy to get things right first? Of course, we can read the simplified edition of the corresponding stage of the book, or listen to a book, such as: join the "Fan Deng Book Club", or go to the Himalayas and other platforms. Someone must have spent 40 minutes to explain a book clearly, and if your child really can't read it, let him listen to it. Probably know what this book is talking about, it's ok, it's really not okay, you let him memorize this exam point by rote. If he doesn't want to memorize by rote, we don't want those few points, okay? Let's take this time to brush math problems or do something else, brush out a few points in other subjects, and one result is right? So we can devote more time to our recent development zone, so that other aspects can get higher scores to make up for what I can't do in reality.
So parents, educators must pay attention to this problem, you can not go beyond the child's ability, force him to do a thing, force him to learn a thing, because he is not prepared, spent time and energy will not have any results, but produce pain and harm, the results will be worse. Don't pay too much attention to the utilitarian goal, let the child enjoy reading, read happily, and insist on reading, which is the really important and meaningful thing.
October 15, 2021