Two days ago, I saw a hot short film with a simple and rough name - "He Shed His Skin for Me", the poster is presented as a bloody "red skeleton" without skin and a woman sleeping in the arms, the picture is warm and full of horror.
At first, xiaobian only thought it was a heavy taste horror short film, in order to protect his young heart has not been watched, the weekend saw or out of curiosity to click into it, surprisingly, this is a love story wrapped in a bloody coat, or a thought-provoking masterpiece.
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(The film is a bit heavy, it is recommended not to watch before meals.... ）
The film is crowdfunded by British students, the whole process does not use special effects, the male protagonist's realistic muscles are made of silicone according to the human body structure, it took 2 years to complete the production of this film.
The content presents the problematic love in an extreme frank way, out of "love", the man is willing to peel off his skin in order to please his girlfriend, so that the most authentic self is presented in front of the heroine, which seems to have reached the real "sincerity".
But over time, because of this real reality, various problems began to arise between them:
The heroine had to wash the sheets, wipe the floor, clean up the blood he left behind every day, and feel physically and mentally exhausted over time.
Without skin, he was extremely afraid of the cold, and the heroine had to accommodate him, endure the heat to increase the indoor temperature, and gradually began to be a little impatient.
Because of the appearance of the male protagonist, he constantly touched the nail in front of the customer, and even the best friend had a gap with him.
The male protagonist began to become taciturn, and his attitude began to change, and he seemed to regret all this.
But everything is a foregone conclusion, can not be changed, the only thing that changes is to let the girlfriend who is intact become the same as herself... The film ends abruptly here, and the ending is unknown, but everyone should already have the answer in their hearts.
Afraid of insatiable greed, even more afraid of losing the obedience of the intellect
Watching the whole film, my biggest feeling is that the heroine is extremely "selfish" and the male protagonist is more extremely "selfless", the male protagonist can peel off his own skin for the female protagonist, which shows the depth of love, even to the point of losing his mind, and the female protagonist?
In the middle of the film, the heroine had a moment to peel off her skin to accompany the male protagonist, but she quickly curbed her own thoughts, which shows that the heroine still loves herself more.
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The female protagonist herself can't do it, but blindly asks for the frankness of the male protagonist, which reminds me of a friend who is also required to "peel" around me.
Her every move seems to be monitored by her boyfriend, going out to see friends to check the post for half an hour, even at home will be required to "put a special gesture in a fixed position to take pictures" way to check the post, gradually, friends become cautious, and friends go out scared, even the company's dinner and business trips are able to push and push, just to change the boyfriend a peace of mind, just like the male protagonist in the film in front of the heroine completely exposed.
Many people are accommodating some unequal treatment for love, and even take this connivance for granted, I don't understand the significance of this so-called unilateral payment for love? It is clear that it is the kidnapping and extortion of the other party in the name of love.
Good feelings are not two people who pay more for whom, but two people respect, understand, trust and reciprocity, and pay appropriately. Love is about making two people better and better, and if it's the opposite, there must be something wrong.
I like a passage that Zhu Yin said in "Ace to Ace": "You must first love yourself before you can give love to others, if you are in front of the person, you can't see love, then go, if you are wrong, you have to let go, if you look in the mirror, you feel that you are getting more and more beautiful, it is to find the right one"
Looking at the way you are "skinned" in the mirror, do you feel beautiful?
The change of pleasing will eventually be bored, and the lost self will never be recovered
Later, the friend and her boyfriend became a family, but the problem seems to be more serious, since the wedding side, we have not been in contact for nearly a year, recently I took the initiative to ask her about her situation, only to learn that now she is at home as a full-time wife, but also isolated from the outside world, basically no social.
I think this should be the result that the man wants... But what is surprising is that the man is not satisfied by the change of his friends, and he has begun a new dissatisfaction, disgusted with his friends from cheerful to uninteresting at the beginning; only enjoying the blessings at home without making money... Eventually, the changes his friends made for him became a new annoyance for him.
Just like in the film, the heroine from the beginning of the change of the male protagonist rejoiced, to later look at the room full of male protagonist's blood stains at nothing, the original seemingly pleasing true love, now has become a big disaster...
I asked her if she had any plans to divorce and she didn't say much, just replied with my "shaking her head" expression... Yeah, helpless, even if divorced? The lost self can never be found...
True love does not blindly let each other change, but two mutually recognized people work together to achieve common ideas. At the end of the film, when the male protagonist longs for equality in love and wants the female protagonist to try the same painful change as him, the ending can be imagined...
"Treat each other with sincerity", not "honesty" without reservation
Finally, talk about whether you should be "honest" in love, yes, in love, we all hope that the other half has no reservations about themselves and show the most real side, but when you see the most real and exposed ta, can you accept it wholeheartedly?
In "Do Not Disturb 2", Uncle Ge said this: "Living at home can't be a matter of taking care of each other, and being a little gentle."
Whether it's for a loved one or someone else. "Treating each other with sincerity" is the basis of communication, but there is no need to "treat each other with honesty" without reservation.
Some people like to throw everything to each other at the beginning of the relationship, and do not consider whether the other party can accept it all, in their view, to love a person is to love all of them, but forget that the most important thing for two people to be together is to take advantage of their strengths and avoid weaknesses.
Honesty is not unreservedly exposed to each other, but under the premise of ensuring that the two people live in harmony, be sincere and do not cheat.
Just like the male protagonist in the film is honest with the female protagonist, the price paid is the trouble that follows, and finally makes both parties tired.
What's more, if we do not do to others what we do not want, it is difficult for us to be completely honest with ourselves, so why should we deliberately ask for the honesty of others?
Love does make people have zero IQ, will be impulsive, will be desperate, but love is also principled, not greedy taking and unreserved giving, and there is no need to sacrifice yourself to complete the lover, you can love him to death, but you must not lose your independent personality and bottom line.
This article is the original content of the watch point (watch point nickname: serious old dirty woman), hereby declared!