The growing number of two-child families is indeed enviable. It has to be said that the two-child policy has indeed encouraged a generation of active fertility, which has greatly promoted and improved China's fertility rate. Nowadays, you can find more and more families with two children at the door of any school.
People no longer boycotted the second child, but began to follow suit, and a strange phenomenon appeared in the two-child family, that is, most of the people who actively wanted the second child were middle-aged couples.
The policy was originally intended to encourage young couples to have children, but unexpectedly, it hit middle-aged couples in the heart. So for a while, the Internet was flooded with news that Dabao had returned from college to find out his mother was pregnant, and some people even had a younger brother or sister.
So, is it good or bad for middle-aged couples to have a second child?
Men over this age, try not to bother having a second child, the quality of the child will decline, if the middle-aged couple wants a second child, they mostly choose to have a second child when they go to college or prepare for an internship in Dabao, the minimum age is around 40 years old. Is it wise to have a second child at this age? We don't judge it from a psychological or financial point of view, just from a physical point of view, it is not a wise choice.
We all know that both men and women have an optimal age for having children. Experts say the optimal age is 25 to 27 for women and 30 to 35 for men.
And the best childbearing age, can only be in advance can not fall behind, if not able to have a child at the optimal age, the child's physique may be relatively poor, so if the man is single more than 35 years old, to marry as soon as possible to choose to give birth to two children, after the age of 35 80 percent of the sperm quality declines,
What happens to older men having two children?
Many people think that women's difficulty getting pregnant is a problem for women, but it is also related to men, although men are better physiologically than women, but men's sperm quality declines rapidly with age. Previous studies have found that in fact, men can still have children at the age of 80.90, but due to the economic pressure faced by men and bad habits such as smoking and drinking, men are now at an age with very low fertility and sperm motility.
Men who want to have a second child at an advanced age almost always have difficulty conceiving.
Many people blame the unexpected loss of a pregnant baby in women, but it is mainly a male problem, because medically, there is more and more evidence that if you have a high sperm count and good motility, so that the female conception rate will be higher, so that your child will also have better resistance, because every man has an indicator, called DNA survival rate, if the genetic material activity of sperm DNA is not high, then it will cause the embryo to stop developing and miscarry and other phenomena.
"Studies have shown that men over the age of 40 have lower sperm DNA survival rates."
"In the British Medical Journal, older fathers had a higher risk of preterm birth and lower birth weight, a 14% increased risk of preterm birth and an 18% increased incidence of epilepsy in men over the age of 45."
So it's clear that the quality of a child is largely determined by the father, and not just these diseases, including mutations in the child's genes, the risk of autism, schizophrenia, and so on, are caused by the father's age, or the quality of sperm.
Therefore, whether it is having a child or having a second child, as long as the optimal age for childbearing is exceeded, we should implement it, think about it carefully, and then make a decision. At an advanced age, not only fetal quality declines, these risks must be considered
First economic risk
Having two children at an older age necessarily involves financial support, because it is not easy to raise a child now, and it takes a lot of money to support. Because we are all old, our economic income level is almost fixed, there will be no other big breakthrough, unless we have enough money to support the second child, the arrival of the second child will only increase the financial burden on the family.
In addition, this will also bring some pressure to Dabao. If the first child is already an adult, it is not appropriate for a family to have a second child.
Second educational thinking and educational energy risk
Not to mention the generation gap between parents and children, even in 2000 and 10 years later, the gap between you and your child's educational philosophy will grow even wider when we have a second child when we are older. It's easy to fail to educate your second child because you're older and you can't keep up with your physical strength and energy, so you're not a parent responsible for your second child.
Final summary: So don't go with the flow to have two children, but decide according to your family situation and your age and physical condition.