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Today, the variety show "Heartwarming Offer" has been on the hot search many times because of the unfair treatment of Ding Hui, who is an ordinary second school for undergraduates. The interviewer's undisguised prejudice and unfair treatment, even the host Sabine could not look down, for Ding Hui to fight unevenly.
Compared with other contestants, the starting point is indeed not high, others are either born in famous schools, or have overseas study experience, or have a superior family, and Ding Hui only graduated from an ordinary second college, did a year of sales after graduation, and then not willing to be mediocre, chose to resign from the graduate school, fought a battle, and finally was admitted to East China University of Political Science and Law.
He thought that he would counterattack, but because of his age and second starting point, he was frequently discriminated against by the elite class, and even if he had performed very well in the process of doing things, he still could not get the recognition of the so-called elite class.
Is their disapproval of Ding Hui because of Ding Hui's ability? Not.
In the show, Ding Hui's ability to stand out is obvious. What they don't look up to is Ding Hui's origin, which is the starting point of his ordinary life.
This reminds me of a line in "Nezha": "People's prejudices are like a big mountain, no matter how hard you try, you can't move." ”
Ding Hui is like a Nezha who is trying to prove himself, thinking that as long as he is outstanding enough and powerful enough, he will definitely be able to change, but the reality is so cruel.
It's like looking at the moon, gradually spreading outward from a central point into a large circle. The second starting point is the central point that others see when they see Ding Hui, and no matter how much effort Ding Hui makes later, it is difficult to be seen. Once the seeds of prejudice are planted, they are difficult to remove without subversive causes.
In fact, those who are so-called elites have a clear understanding of the abilities of the interns in the program, but they choose to be blind under the control of the subconscious. Xenophobic emotions dominate behavior, and prejudice is emotional first and cognitive second.
From a psychological point of view, if they admit Ding Hui's counterattack, it is equivalent to recognizing that social classes will change, and some people can change their own class through their own efforts.
This means that they need to pay a greater price to ensure that they have everything, and the survival risk factor is increased, which of course they are not happy.
Second, once a person has formed a prejudice against something in their consciousness, it is difficult for them to change it, because they need to overturn the previous arguments and admit that they were wrong. And human nature tends to prove itself correct, and few people are willing to take the initiative to admit their mistakes.
Cognitive psychology calls this "confirmation bias," in which we are more inclined to support ideas that have already been formed in our minds when validating something; and to testing results we don't like with skepticism.
Not just the mentors in the show, everyone has some prejudices to a greater or lesser extent, but the biases in the show involve practical interests, so it will make us indignant.
In this complex and changeable society, many times, we define something first, and then we really touch it. For example, when we see a beggar, the first reaction is sympathy, and when we see a beautiful little girl, the first reaction is cuteness.
Born human, prejudice is an animal instinct that we cannot avoid. But the reason why people are human is not because we have eliminated animality, but because when we show a certain animality, we can control it within a reasonable range through personal reflection and other consciousness.
We cannot choose only those things that are comfortable and pleasurable and turn a blind eye to the truth, and if that were the case, civilization would have no meaning.
Classification is the way we exist in society, for example, on the set of the movie Planet of the Apes, the extras who play the chimpanzee and the extras who play the gorilla naturally split into two tables at lunch.
It's human instinct, but imagine if someone took the initiative and kindly extended an olive branch to someone on the other side, it would have to be a different story. It's our vision, but it's hard to happen in the real world.
There will be a phenomenon of class solidification in every era, and Ding Hui is not facing the problem of ability, but what kind of way should be used to naturally break this fixed impression.
The current social structure of our country is still in flux, and most people still have the opportunity to create new possibilities through personal efforts, as long as you have enough ability and know how to observe opportunities.
The world has never been fair, and the progress of civilization can only respect the existence of everyone, and how much they can get depends on themselves.
If you are a person at the bottom like Ding Hui, if you still have some expectations for the future, don't complain and look for opportunities.
The most terrible thing about the so-called class solidification is not from reality, but from thinking, you have decided in your heart that you cannot break through such a shackle, then it will be difficult for you to achieve the final victory.
The "Ding Hui" people must believe that everything is possible. What you need to do is lie dormant, study the rules, see the rules, understand the rules, accumulate strength, and finally find the right time to break the rules.
We understand Ding Hui's grievances, and we also see the helplessness of many ordinary people in him, but if it is only criticism and anger, there is no meaning, what we have to do is to become stronger.
As Nietzsche said, "If I cannot be killed, I will eventually be strong." "In the experience again and again, cultivate their own ability, find their own positioning, when the opportunity comes, crush the opponent with an absolute advantage, and seize their own opportunities."
As long as you are resilient enough, no one can stop your rise, the world is sometimes so absurd, you must be a little savage to get the ultimate victory, which is also the ultimate logic of "evolution".
There is also a line in "Nezha" that reads, "I can't help my life, I am a demon or a fairy, and I have the final say who I am." ”
- the end - Author | Tommy Resources: penelope lockwood. 2006. “‘someone like me can be successful’: do college students need same-gender role models?” psychology of women quarterly 30(1): 36-46.