A video of the Internet celebrity to expose the hidden pedophile group on the Chinese Internet in everyone's field of vision, so that many people are shocked not by the Internet celebrity itself, but the original pedophilia, the original child sexual assault is not far from our lives.
Heartbreaking reality
The global average rate of child sexual abuse is 12.7%, and in China, the survey results show that the rate of child abuse in China has reached 7%, which means that 1 in 10 boys and 15 girls are sexually abused.
In a continuous survey of minors and parents in six cities in China, the incidence of child sexual abuse continues to be high across the country, and from 2012 to 2014, courts across the country concluded a total of 7145 cases of child molestation, of which 2017 in 2012, 2300 in 2013, and 2828 in 2014, showing an upward trend year by year. According to the ""Girl Protection" 2016 Child Sexual Abuse Case Statistics and Child Sexual Assault Prevention Education Survey Report" shows that in 2016, the media publicly exposed 433 cases of sexual abuse of children (under 14 years old) in 2016, with an average of 1.21 cases exposed per day, an increase of nearly 30% year-on-year.
And all the researchers or people involved have revealed this information, the real situation of child sexual abuse in China is far worse than the above data. Ni Chunxia, director of the Aid Management Division of the Department of Social Affairs of the Ministry of Civil Affairs, said: "From what we know, the public exposure is really only the tip of the iceberg, and the rural victim group will be more." These data illustrate the high need to focus on child safety. "The cruelty of reality is heartbreaking, innocent age, childish face, but some people plunder their innocence in order to satisfy their own desires, and such evil is widespread and long-lasting throughout the world.
It reminds me of when I was a kid, the community I grew up in was a big dorm room for units, where acquaintances lived, and children played freely in the community after school and then went home before the adults got home after work. In this community there is an old man, nearly seventy years old, dressed clean and decent, looks very kind, is said to be a retired cadre, every day carrying a badminton racket, tai chi sword in the small park to find people to chat, exercise. But among the girls there is a secret about this old man, who is a "flower grandfather". "Grandpa Flower" likes to play with beautiful little girls, and "Grandpa Flower" also likes to use his hands and feet on little girls... Although there were no adults at that time to tell children the meaning of "moving their hands and feet", little girls would always avoid this "flower grandfather", which is a secret circulating among children, and adults seem to know nothing about it.
And the adult's "ignorance" may be an ordinary consensus, just like the suicide of the Taiwanese beauty writer Lin Yihan wrote in the novel "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" written by her teacher based on her real experience of being sexually abused by her teacher for five years before her death, Siqi said to her mother several times with bread and cream: "Our tutor seems to have everything, that is, there is no sex education." Mom looked at her in amazement and replied, "What sex education?" Sex education is for those who need sex. "I think that was the time when people's attitudes towards sex were children, children don't need to know anything about sex, and in the family, parents don't talk to their children about anything related to it."
Who the hell is hurting her/them?
Parents feel that sexual knowledge is too early for their children, and they will slowly learn it when they grow up. Unfortunately, the bad guys don't think so, and they can't wait to extend the evil hand to the minors. In cases of sexual assault against children, one of them is pure sexual violence, what the murderer does is to vent his bestiality and violence, it does not matter who the object is, it may be an adult, it may be a child, anyway, it is everything he thinks can be used to commit violence, and the child's infancy has become an easier target for them. There is also what we often call pedophilia, which is what is called a sexually wrong group in psychiatry, whose sexual object is wrong, and their sexual object is not an adult like them but a child under the age of thirteen, and this group of people sadly directs sexual activity entirely to those children.
Whichever of these two is just as terrible and cruel for a child. The first kind of person is violent and cruel, although sometimes recognizable, but that kind of tyrannical adults are difficult to be spared, let alone a child. The second kind of person looks no different from other ordinary people, but like a predator lurking in the grass, he has been spying on the innocent children. They could be the child's nanny, they could be the child's tutor, they could be the neighbor's grandfather, who knows. This is not the worst, the worst thing is that sometimes sexual assault comes from within the family, from the family that is supposed to help them defend themselves against external aggression.
The documentary film "Child of Rage" tells the story of Beth Thomas, this child was adopted after the emergence of many unusual places, less than two years old she has a serious violent tendency to her biological brother, at the same time she will be cruel to herself, she often has nightmares, there is a man in the dream to hurt her, the truth of the matter is that she was sexually abused by her biological father many times when she was one year old, which buried pain and hurt in her young heart. Her violence and self-harm continued for a long time, but fortunately, her adoptive parents and social workers never gave up on her, and after years of treatment and love, she finally had a normal life.
Another Korean movie "Suyuan" made many people cry, Suyuan is a lovely 9-year-old girl, she was raped by a man on her way to school, Suyuan is unfortunate, she was innocently killed and left with a serious disability, mentally and physically traumatized, in addition to which she also has to face the accusations of the adult world. Su Yuan in the movie has not figured out: "The uncle wanted me to hold an umbrella for him, I wanted to walk away, but I still wanted to help him, I thought I should give the uncle who was raining an umbrella, so I gave him support, but people said it was my fault, and no one praised me." Suyuan, on behalf of all the minors who have been sexually assaulted, asked, "Am I doing something wrong?" "No, she didn't do anything wrong, it was the adults who were wrong!
A parental safety illusion
Some people say that we have begun to pay attention to children's sex education now, no longer like before to children just do not mention, we began to teach them to refuse the touch of strangers, tell them to tell parents in time when they encounter strange horses, etc., this is indeed a good thing, but also a kind of progress, but our progress is far from enough. Some parents like to post their children on the Internet, where today they took their children, what did their children do yesterday, or they are keen to take various photos of their children, eating, sleeping, swimming, and even bathing... All posted on the public network, these parents did not think that these may become tools that people can use to gain the trust of their children, or perhaps become a collection of pedophiles. What we need to change is not just teaching children what they should know, we also need to change the perception of sexual assault in adults and the awareness of sexual safety.
At the beginning of 2017, there was such a news that a little girl told her parents after she was sexually assaulted by her tutor, and the parents thought that the teacher was an expert they specially hired for high salaries, how could they do such a thing?! It must be the child who is lying. Children have no choice but to ask for a camera in the room, and everything captured by the camera makes parents regret it. This makes us realize that although there is more and more attention to children's sex education, more and more media are involved in the prevention and protection of child sexual abuse, and there are more and more videos and articles on the Internet on how to conduct children's sex education, and even children's cartoons, this is far from enough. In addition to teaching children self-protection, what is more important is the renewal of parents' awareness of protection.
Like the community when I was a child, there were never children lost, and there were very few foreign hooligans to harass and make trouble, maybe it was such an environment that made adults think they were acquaintances, so that they let down their guard, but this is not enough for children. We are always wary of strangers, but in terms of child sexual abuse alone, most of them are committed by acquaintances, so the acquaintance environment does not represent safety.
Our traditional and simple view of right and wrong makes us always think that the bad guys look like bad guys, and we try to be wary of those who look unfriendly, and those who look kind to children, we often assume that they are good people. At the same time, we also evaluate the safety of this person by affinity, such as this person is a friend of our relatives, that is, reliable and safe, or a person is evaluated by a person's social achievements, such as a person who is hard-working and accomplished, then it must be a respectable person. This simple judgment is far from enough for the safety of the child.
In 1994, in a small town in New Jersey, 7-year-old Megan was sexually assaulted and killed by her neighbor, and no one knew that the neighbor, who usually looked kind, was a habitual offender with a history of sexual crimes. Megan's tragedy made adults clearly aware of the seriousness of the problem and determined to establish a safer environment and system for children, which led to the famous Megan Act.
The bill stipulates that criminals who sexually assault children are not allowed to live within half a mile of kindergartens to high school campuses after their release from prison, and that they must register with the local police department regardless of wherever they move to the United States. About 35 states in the United States have set up sex crime list websites, most of which have photos and personal information, to disclose to the public. In 2004, Congress passed amendments to the Megan Act, which requires offenders who sexually assault children to wear wrist warning signs and electronic trackers during parole, and stipulates that if a person has committed a crime more than twice, he must go to the police every 3 months after being released from prison for questioning, and even if there is a change in physical characteristics such as beard and hairstyle, he must also report to the police in a timely manner. Even with such harsh laws, some people will still take risks, in contrast, in China, both parents and society are too careless about child sex crimes.
Criminals should pay the price
When it comes to the incidence of child sex crimes, it is clear to all that there are many families who have been victimized, and there may be many reasons for this, but for the victim it only means that the person who harmed her is not punished. The Lead Singer of Lincoln Park, who committed suicide, mentioned that he was sexually assaulted when he was seven years old, and he did not dare to tell others because he was afraid, the sexual assault lasted for several years, and finally when he was thirteen years old, he told his father, and in the end they did not choose to bring the law to justice, because the other party was also a "poor person" who had been sexually assaulted in childhood. It seems that this is a compassionate decision, the family chooses to forgive, the big thing becomes small, the small thing is small, but can the victim really let go? Where should his pain and grievances go?
We have long viewed child sexual abuse as a personal moral flaw, yet pedophilia is a pathology and is not the same thing as morality. You may morally restrain a man from giving up his sexual impulses, but it's hard for you to get him to give up his sexual impulses for the rest of his life. After we understand the nature of this matter, we need everyone to understand that it is difficult to stop the sexual assault of children, he will not repent of this behavior because the parents choose to reconcile, the only thing that can stop this behavior is that he has lost his sexual ability, which is why the criminal of child sexual assault in foreign countries uses the method of chemical castration to force him to give up his sexual impulse to children.
In our sensitive culture of chastity, "loss of virginity" becomes the original sin, so that the victim of sexual assault becomes the person responsible for the crime, and this distorted view of right and wrong is not spared even by children. Suyuan in the movie has never understood why "people say it's my fault, and no one praises me." And in reality, there are more points waiting for those suyuans. Those who accuse children are actually as evil as the bad people who choose to hurt children. In many cultures, people who harm children are extremely despised, and even in prisons, child sexual assault inmates are at the bottom of the food chain because they are cowardly spokesmen. Many child sexual assault inmates fear being told by others in the same prison because they will be abused or even killed by others. In contrast, it is shameless for us to put the blame on children, rather than trying to make the perpetrators of the crime pay a greater price and receive the punishment they deserve!
Prejudice in society is hateful, but even more hateful is the accusations from family members. Although the Suyuan in the movie and the real-life beth Thomas were seriously injured, fortunately they had the care of their families, social relations, and continuous treatment and love allowed them to come out of the nightmare and smile again. But we saw the news, the child plucked up the courage to tell his parents about his encounters and fears, but the parents went up and slapped them fiercely, "Why don't you resist?!" "You're a disgrace to your family!" It's not a slap in the face, it's a devastating blow to your child, and there's nothing more hurt than coming from a home that should have been the best place to give you a sense of security, the one who could have protected you the most, but abandoned you and rejected you when you needed it most. Behind such parents is the selfishness and cowardice of human nature, and these adults refuse to take on the responsibilities they should bear. They put the blame on the child and avoid confronting the real evil man. This is a second injury to the child, another stab in their wound.
Children are the future of a country, and the safety of children is not only about a family, it is also about the whole country, think about what will happen to a country if so many adults are seriously traumatized physically and mentally? We are far from enough for the protection of children, parents are not aware of safety, we lack understanding of child sexual abuse, society is prejudiced against hurt children, we are not harsh enough for criminals... However, we are changing, so that our children do not become Suyuan, we can change step by step, protecting them is our responsibility, do not let this place really become a paradise for pedophiles to wanton.