Thomas Hardy said, "It is often not the lovers who are separated by anger that can never be reunited, but those who are separated on the basis of friendship." ”
When the opposite sex interacts, as long as the hearts of two people are close together, they can have an unswerving belief in this feeling, even if there are sometimes some accidents and some contradictions, they will eventually be resolved. True love can reduce a lot of disappointment and resolve a lot of contradictions.
On the contrary, if someone is not so firm in a relationship, it is likely that some small things will destroy the relationship between the two.
Good love will become the driving force in our life and work, not a stumbling block. If a love always makes us constantly disappointed, the accumulation of disappointment will only make us completely chill.
Some women are deeply in love with a man, even if the other party does a lot of things that disappoint her, women will choose to tolerate men, believing that men will change themselves. It's just that this blind belief and tolerance of women is still disappointed in the end.
In love, what kind of state should two people be in when they get along? Belinsky once said: "Love is the harmony and tacit understanding of two intimate souls in life and in terms of faithful, good, beautiful things." ”
If two people get along together, not only can not achieve this harmony and tacit understanding, this relationship is easy to make people tired, let people lose patience. In a relationship, women should understand that don't let disappointment become a habit of yours, and don't let tolerance become a norm for you.
When men and women get along, if men always disappoint you, you may wish to learn to do so, the effect is unexpected.
01 Learn to communicate, speak your mind, and understand each other's thoughts.
Voltaire said: "The noble element of love is no less than the element of tenderness, the power to make people upward is no less than the power to make people wither, and sometimes it can inspire other virtues." ”
A good love will surely bring us a steady stream of happiness and motivation. With such love, we will also look forward to the future of the two people.
But if the other half always disappoints you, let alone whether the future will be happy, even whether the life in front of you can continue is a question.
For women, when they meet a love, they will naturally want to protect it well. Sometimes even if they encounter some grievances, women will choose to be tolerant, believing that men will definitely change themselves.
But if a man keeps disappointing you, women should also know that there must be something wrong with your relationship.
In such a situation, women must learn to communicate with the other half, say their thoughts, and then look at each other's attitude and the other party's response. What kind of mind a man has, through communication, women can also understand something, and they know how to continue this relationship.
02 In a relationship, women who are often disappointed in men may wish to focus on themselves and do something they like.
The reason why women are often disappointed is because the woman's heart cares too much about this man. If women have expectations for men, and these expectations have never been realized, women's hearts have a gap, and there will be disappointment.
If you want to solve this problem, first of all, men must understand the woman's mind, be willing to think more about women, and be willing to develop this relationship well.
But if men can't do this, but often show an attitude of indifference, women should understand that in the man's heart, your position is not so important, so it is not enough for him to change for you.
Since this is the case, women may wish to learn to change their mentality, do not focus on a man, may wish to learn to make their lives more relaxed. Pay more attention to your own life and spend more time on yourself instead of the things that disappoint you.
Women can make more friends, cultivate more of their own interests, and do more things they like. There are more happy things every day, and naturally they will no longer stick to a less satisfactory love.
03 Give each other some time to calm down and see if the relationship is still necessary to continue.
In heterosexual interactions, we should give our time and feelings to someone who deserves it. When a man's attitude towards this feeling is not friendly, and even disgusted, impatient, women should think more about their emotional state.
If a man often disappoints you, it means that he rarely thinks about your feelings, and such a selfish man, his love for you is inevitably suspicious.
When there is such a problem in a relationship, what women have to do is not to blindly blame men and force men to give you a reason. Instead, we must know how to give this feeling enough space, give each other a period of calm time to think, and face their own hearts.
Abbayeva said, "Parting is to love as the wind is to fire: it extinguishes Mars, but it can ignite the flames." ”
If a man's heart still loves you, such calmness will make him have a sense of crisis, recognize his own problems, and will definitely take the initiative to come to you. If he doesn't love you that much, he will naturally feel that it doesn't matter, and you will be able to know his attitude.
Women should understand that only two people who truly love each other and know how to cherish can this love bring happiness and sweetness, and can make each other firmly go on.
If men don't consider your feelings at all and often disappoint you, it means that you have had a lot of problems before. What you have to do is to solve these problems in your own way, and if you don't know how to do it, you may wish to try these methods.
George Bernard Shaw said, "Love is not a charity, so you can't give generously." ”
Love, is the need to run in both directions, is the need to operate together, do not just blindly pay, to please each other.