Spoiled, your body is troubled. What is flattery? To be spoiled is to be frightened, to be frightened, to be lost, to be insulted. From the thirteenth chapter of the Tao Te Ching, it means that both favor and humiliation are frightening and frightening, and that such a great affliction as honor and disgrace is as precious as one's own life. What is it to be flattered and humiliated to be panicked? To be favored is to be humble, to be pampered is a great surprise, and to lose favor is to be alarming. This is called being flattered and humiliated.
If you are insulted, pampering and humiliation will make people feel very disturbing.
When people are nice to you, you wonder: Why is he suddenly so good to me, is he trying to make any idea? Or you may think about how you will repay him in the future if he is so good to you; perhaps, you feel that you should work harder. Then your heart is not at peace.
If I am insulted by others, it is even more impossible to be quiet: how can I be so insulted? My parents didn't scold me like this, I haven't been so insulted since I was a child, how can you say this about me! Therefore, Lao Tzu observed in detail: flattered, humiliated, and collectively called flattered.
If you are in a big trouble, we will panic if we treat pampering as important as our own bodies. I ask you: Do you feel that your body is important, or is it important for people to insult or pamper you? If someone else is pampered, you don't even want the body, and you have to return it to him if you fight to the death, which is that pampering is important, and the body is not important. If you think that what others are doing makes you very angry, you may really be angry with yourself, and it is not your body that is suffering! Why treat pampering as important as the body?
What is flattery? To be spoiled is to be frightened, to be frightened, to be lost, to be insulted. When people are favored, they will certainly be afraid, because it is very rare, and they feel that they cannot fall out of favor, and once they fall out of favor, they will be bad. For example, in the past, most of the chaos in the harem was caused by the competition between the favored and the out-of-favor, which was thrilling and cruel. Our general saying is that pampering is superior and insulting is inferior, but Lao Tzu does not see it that way.
Pampered. Pampering is a bad thing for us, and many children are spoiled. The most pitiful thing in history that has been spoiled is Hezhen. When He Yan first debuted, he was the most anti-corruption and incorruptible. However, he was favored by Qianlong and became a great traitor and a great corruption.
Lao Tzu told us that when someone promotes you, you have to be very careful, because that is never a good thing. Promote you at the beginning, it's okay; promote you again, it's okay; keep promoting you, and your trouble may come. You must be very careful with the boss who wants to hire you out of the box.
Is that a refusal? In fact, you don't have to refuse, you just have to hurry up and enrich yourself. If he had thought so much at that time: The emperor loves me so much, I must be more careful, and I can't do that kind of thing, wouldn't it be better? But it's difficult to do that. People tend to become bad once they are spoiled, so Lao Tzu wrote this chapter.
Spoiled, your body is troubled. What is flattery? Pampering is the top, insulting is the bottom. To be shocked to gain and to be lost is to be insulted. Both favored and humiliated seem to be frightened, and the great calamity is valued as the body. What does it mean to be flattered and humiliated as if frightened? To be favored is to be exalted, and to be humiliated is to be humble. But these two kinds, when they gain it, they seem to be frightened, and when they lose it, they seem to be frightened, and this is called pampering and humiliation.
"Gaining favor" means being promoted by others, and "being humiliated" means being degraded by others. Pampering is in fact indivisible.
If you are insulted, ordinary people will be frightened at the thought of being humiliated, and others will degrade me for no reason and insult me. But don't forget, being favored can also be frightened. I was shocked when I was pampered, how could I suddenly have such a good opportunity? Rising to a high position comes from someone else.' In other words, pampering is not a situation of my own, but a person of power or external power imposed on me, so that both pampering and humiliation seem to be frightened.
To be frightened by this is to remind me to be cautious and careful, to be humble when I am favored, and to be calm when I am insulted, so that I can maintain the characteristics of my life.
"If you are in a big trouble", you should pay attention to my body, as if you were paying attention to a great calamity, and be very cautious. Because I have this body, I will have all kinds of desires.
For example, some people hope to be able to "have five sons", hope to have a car, a house, silver, wives, sons, etc., and will demand all kinds of material enjoyment, fame and fortune in the world. The gains and losses of these things are often subject to external conditions, which cause all kinds of complex sufferings. In other words, I have this body, and many evils follow. So what to do? To adjust my perception of the body and be cautious about my body.
Tao Te Ching, Chapter XIII
Spoiled, your body is troubled. What is flattery? To be spoiled is to be frightened, to be frightened, to be lost, to be insulted. What is a noble and troublesome person? So I have a great patient, for I have a body, and I have no body, what affliction I have! Therefore, if you are the world, if you can send the world; if you love yourself as the world, if you can trust the world.