Zhuangzi said: "To go alone is to be unique." The unique person is the most precious. ”
It means that loneliness makes a person stand out, not gregarious. With others, we are always in a social state; only in solitude do we approach the state of nature. People often see communication as an ability, but ignore that solitude is also an ability, and in a certain sense is a more important ability than communication. If not being sociable is a weakness of character, then intolerance to loneliness is simply a defect of the soul.
Loneliness is not loneliness.
Loneliness and loneliness are essentially different and have nothing to do with personality. It mainly depends on whether the inner is full or not. People who like to be alone are intrinsically rich, and they need independent thinking space for intrinsic integration. Loneliness is often the result of social isolation, and even being alone is forced. For those who are innerly fulfilled, being alone can be a treat. The lonely, on the other hand, are a form of suffering.
When I was a student, I read a novel "The Old Man and the Sea"
The book tells the story of an old fisherman who went out to sea to fish and caught a marlin 84 days later. It was two feet longer than his boat. Dragging the boat for two days and two nights, he experienced a difficult test and finally stabbed the big fish to death. But he encountered a shark, and the only thing left to drag home was a fish skeleton.
On the vast sea, a lonely old man, a hard fight, a hero who has lost... Hemingway has always believed that writing is a person's journey, but also a person's practice, this kind of travel and practice, can not tolerate a second person, and because of this, the "lonely" Hemingway wrote such a great work as "The Old Man and the Sea".
Indeed, not being afraid of loneliness is a must-have trait for successful people. When I say success here, I mean focusing on a certain field, through my own unremitting pursuit, until I become an expert. Such as artists, philosophers, entrepreneurs, scholars, and leaders from all walks of life.
The reason why successful people are lonely is because they often deviate from the most basic human nature "social", human evolution is to rely on group living to overcome the beasts and natural disasters and man-made disasters that are more powerful than themselves, and everyone tends to do the same thing and do what others have done. But if you want to succeed, you must do what others don't do, what others can't do, the more you go up, the fewer people you go with, the more lonely you are, so the high place is not cold!
In an environment where most people pursue mediocrity, maintaining mediocrity is undoubtedly the "safest" approach, and pursuing self-motivation is not encouraged. Sometimes, the more right you get it, the more people will talk about you behind your back. The better you live, the more people will sneer at you behind your back. The stronger you become, the more people will hit you behind your back.
But what does it matter? Not everyone has the opportunity in their lifetime to exercise how to face the lonely soul, this is another form of gift, if you want to achieve a great cause, you must adapt to loneliness and grievances, do not need everyone to understand you, because it is impossible for everyone to understand you. Because successful people often go the usual way and do not need companionship. Hold on, immortal soul!
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