Author: Insight Punchkin
Favorable circumstances test virtue, and adversity tests patterns.
I've heard of a "pot bottom rule":
Life is like a big pot, when you go to the bottom of the pot, as long as you are willing to work hard, no matter which direction, it is up.
Life has ups and downs, highs and lows, all the time alternating.
Maybe you feel that the road ahead is confused, or maybe you feel stressed, but the more low you are, the more difficult it is, the more you have to face the difficulties.
When you swallow the complaint, swallow the grievance, and feed the pattern, life will suddenly open up.
01
Swallow the complaint
A few days ago, I saw a speech by Cui Wanzhi in "Super Speaker", and I was moved to tears.
Cui Wanzhi was born in a rural family in Hefei, Anhui Province, and was born with an umbilical cord around his neck, resulting in the inability to breathe, leaving him with slurred speech and lifelong disability.
For physical reasons, even though he was admitted to a key high school with excellent grades, the principal rejected his application for admission and rudely threw his luggage out of the school.
His father knelt on the ground for two hours and did not ask for a place for him to go to school.
"I hate, I hate, I hate, why fate is so unfair to me."
Looking at his indignant expression, his father held his face and said to him: "Complaining is useless, do you still want to read books?" Go home, it's all on your own. ”
After three years of self-study at home, Cui Wanzhi was successfully admitted to college, but after graduation, he encountered a job search dilemma.
Hundreds of resumes were cast, and all of them sank into the sea.
Even once, he went to the talent market early to queue up, stood at the front of the line, the supervisor in charge of recruitment, and the first thing he said when he saw him was: "Get out of the way, don't block the people behind." ”
That day, the cold wind blew on his face, which was particularly stinging, and his father's words sounded in his ears again:
"It's no use complaining, it's all up to you."
He made up his mind, let go of all his frustrations and worries, started a business, started with a stall, and finally set up his own e-commerce company.
From starting from scratch to being worth hundreds of millions, Cui Wanzhi's road to entrepreneurship is not smooth, when opening a bookstore, the bookstore was burned, when the supermarket was opened, the supermarket was stolen, and the company was owed more than four million.
All the grievances, setbacks, and pain, he chose to bury it in his heart and keep his mouth shut.
Because he knows that "complaining is useless, everything can only be on his own." ”
Relying on this tenacity, he made the online store the first place in the Tmall category.
Fate gave him the lowest configuration, but he was silent, accepted everything, and worked hard to play wang's life.
Lu Xiaoman wrote in "As the Days Go Forward":
"There is no one in this world who does not have injuries, and at any time, you must believe that the only one who really heals you is yourself."
Don't complain, try to be responsible; don't be afraid of loneliness, try to precipitate.
The world will not be merciful to your subordinates because of your wailing, and no one will be sad about your suffering and help you settle everything.
When you are in a low point, don't bother anyone, hide the pain, and close your mouth.
Remember: children complain everywhere, and adults have to learn to carry themselves.
02
Swallow grievances
Have you ever had a similar experience:
Work is not smooth, insomnia to the middle of the night, in the circle of friends edited a large paragraph of complaints, and finally deleted word by word;
Feelings encountered tests, hesitated to dial a friend's phone again and again, blurted out, but it was a daily greeting that was off-topic.
Because you understand that the joys and sorrows between people are not connected, and the accident that happens to you is just a story to others.
The adult world is all swimming in their own sea of suffering, and your pain may be understood by others, but they can never be felt.
Instead of opening your own wounds and telling your misfortunes, it is better to grit your teeth and swallow your grievances, bow your head and move forward silently.
During the Republic of China period, there was a very famous Miss Seven in Shanghai Beach - the Seven Misses of the Late Qing Dynasty.
Sheng Aiyi is a rich second generation born with a golden spoon.
The first half of his life can be described as an infinite scenery, from a small family with a good family, and is also known as one of the top ten talented women in the Republic of China.
However, in the era of change, the second half of her life was like the second half of a roller coaster, straight downhill.
For political reasons, her husband and children were criticized for fighting, the family property was confiscated, and she was also driven out of the villa and put into a car room.
Opposite the car room is the wet market, next to the septic tank, the smell is stinking.
In the past, I lived in a luxurious villa, with servants to take care of food and living, and now I sleep on a hard board bed and have to sweep the road.
Falling from the peak to the low, the human feelings are cold and warm, the ups and downs are tortured all over the place, but there is no sorrow on her face.
Every time I come to visit her relatives and friends and see her living environment, I can't help but cry.
She seemed to be light and breezy, comforting them while watching the crowd of the market, leisurely smoking cigars, almost without any frustration.
In her spare time, she waited for flowers and grass, read books and practiced words, and even though she lived by the septic tank, she still kept her room clean and tidy.
When it comes to the future, she always says with hope: "Another day has passed, and the days of earning have been another day." ”
Between the words, it was as if the gears of the years had never run over her.
As Sanmao said:
"People and things in the world come and go, and we just need to cultivate ourselves to the best of their ability and wait quietly."
Life is not a smooth road, the peaks are sometimes, and the lows are sometimes.
In the face of the critical blow of life, we must learn to be a silent adult, adjust your emotions well, put aside your grievances, have hope, live calmly, and live hard.
As long as you can hold your breath, swallow painfully, and carry it hard, there will always be a time to see the sun.
Life is full of ups and downs, may you suffer without words, pain without words, practice yourself in silence, and temper yourself in the years.
When you survive this bitter cold day, you will surely usher in the warm sun of spring.
03
Feed the big picture
Life, ups and downs are the norm.
But many people can enjoy the joy of the high, but they cannot withstand the loneliness of the low.
Once at the bottom, you will be depressed, mentally atrophied, lose your direction, and cannot lift your spirits at all.
As the saying goes: good times test virtue, and adversity tests patterns.
A person's attitude towards the trough can often determine the height of his life.
At the end of the 1980s, Shi Yuzhu created a commercial myth.
In only three years, with a principal of 4,000 yuan, it earned 35 million yuan and founded Zhuhai Giant High-tech Group.
For a time, various media rushed to report, and Shi Yuzhu was in the limelight.
However, no one expected that the turn from prosperity to decline would come so quickly, because the capital chain was broken due to investment in the Giant Building, and Shi Yuzhu was in debt of 250 million yuan overnight, becoming China's "first failure".
The mansion fell, the legend came to an end, and countless spectators taunted him with great schadenfreude.
Falling to this point, Shi Yuzhu did not collapse, and after the sadness, he began to face his own problems.
He went out of his way to collect all the articles that criticized him, reading word for word the analytical judgments of others about his failure.
He organized a criticism conference, let everyone fire at himself, and learned lessons in countless insults.
If you want to achieve phoenix nirvana, you must go through the pain of burning fire.
Shi Yuzhu accepted all the bitter fruits of failure.
In the end, after more than a decade of ups and downs, Shi Yuzhu re-established a more majestic business empire in the ruins.
He said: "One can only learn something when one is at a low ebb. ”
There is a famous "inflection point theory" in economics.
The beginning of any uptrend must extend from a point at the lowest point.
Therefore, in a sense, the bottom of a person's fall is often the starting point of his success.
Many times there is no way back, there will be a way out.
Only in the darkest place can one see where the real light is.
04
Haruki Murakami said in Kafka by the Sea:
"After the storm is over, you don't remember how you survived, you're not even sure the storm is really over.
But one thing is certain: when you get through the storm, you're long gone. ”
When you fall, you don't complain about the world, when you are frustrated, you don't give up on yourself, when you are frustrated, you still live seriously, you have survived the tempering of fate, and those injuries that have been suffered will eventually become your hard armor.
Those who can't kill you will eventually make you stronger.
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