The English poet Byron said that in order to make a marriage last, it is necessary to overcome self-centeredness.
But in life, a lot of women are self-centered and very aggressive. This is due to the imbalance in the proportion of men and women in today's society. It is becoming more and more difficult for men to choose an object of talent and beauty, so after marrying a wife, they have to wear off their masculinity and strive to be a "warm man" and a "spoiled wife demon". Because the men become "provocative". Over time, the women also became pampered and proud.
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The wife is the biggest, is the pet is love is not afraid!
There is a popular song on the Internet called "Wife Max", which fully reflects the maintenance of "feminism". But for men, the so-called "wife is the biggest" is the love and respect for women, and it is definitely not a man who worships women as gods all day long, bows his head in front of her, and obeys his orders.
And if a woman wants to "have the biggest wife" in her husband's heart, she does not regard herself as a princess or empress, but to make her husband feel comfortable and sincerely regard you as a princess and empress.
Women usually lie in front of men, and play some small characters, but they must stop at the right time. The man lets you, hides from you, begs you, coaxes you, it's just that he cares too much about your feelings, not that he is afraid of you. If you regard such a pampering man as a bag, blindly pampering and arrogant, it is not a spoiler, but an unreasonable teasing.
Tu Lei, the master of emotions, said: After drinking wine until it is slightly drunk, when the good flowers see half open, smart women must know how to stop at the right time.
Moderate pampering and pride can make the marriage less bland and more interesting. But excessive pampering and arrogance is an act of humility. Imagine which man would like to be ridiculed as a "wife management"? Those men who have no status in the family, who are disciplined by their wives without a little temper, and who must be decided by their wives to decide everything, how depressed they live!
However, in today's society, some narcissistic and arrogant women always like to suppress their husbands, and it seems that the husband is obedient and close to show their ability.
When men can't stand to be suppressed, there are also many women who like to "brainwash" their husbands with "fear of their wives is an important embodiment of loving their wives". However, women can know that men are also principled, even if he loves you very much, there is a bottom line for your pet, otherwise it will really become a bag.
Hong Kong star Chen Xiaochun said: "There are no men in the world who are afraid of their wives, only men who respect their wives." "A man, how 'afraid', how much love."
Martial arts star Zhen Zidan also once said: "I think there are no men who are afraid of their wives, only men who respect women." ”
It can be seen that men are "afraid" of their wives, not a confession of perfection, but a responsibility for marriage, a kind of generosity and deep love for their wives.
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Gentle and virtuous, the magic weapon to conquer men!
However, some women do not understand the gentlemanly style and gentlemanly demeanor of men who are "afraid" of their wives, but on the contrary, they have been trampling on men's dignity unscrupulously.
They are always arrogant in front of men, thinking that this will make men bow down to themselves. I don't know, this will only make men resentful of her.
A truly happy marriage is by no means a model of suppression and obedience on the one hand, but a harmonious blend of milk and water.
Women want to capture men's hearts, not by the confusion of beauty, not by force, but by soft and rigid.
As Tagore said, "It is not the blow of the hammer, but the song and dance of the water that forms the beautiful pebbles." ”
The clever woman's mind is delicate and delicate. She is sometimes a weak little woman, playing with the wind and snow moon, making romantic, using cute and pitiful pampering to make men heroic short-tempered, drunk and gentle; sometimes she is a kind mother, with her meticulous care and care for men, so that men are grateful to her.
Some women are narcissistic and arrogant in their self-esteem, and feel that their beauty is the magic weapon to conquer men. Maybe it will be for a short time, but if it is not both inside and outside beauty, men will eventually get bored.
As the Russian writer Chekhov said: The beauty of the face is of course also a factor of love, but the beauty of the heart and the mind is the solid foundation of noble love.
The gentleness and virtuousness of a woman is the beauty that blooms outward from the soul, and at the same time it is a weapon without sharp edge. No matter how indestructible a man's heart is, he cannot resist the woman's tenderness like water after all.
Therefore, women should understand that even if you are as beautiful as a flower, if you are angry or fierce in front of men, it will still make men avoid you, or even abandon you.
And smart women understand: if you want men to treat you like a treasure in their lives, you can't be pampered and proud.
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Respect your husband, in order to be favored like a treasure!
The reason why a woman is pampered and proud is because she is blessed in the midst of blessings.
Emotional mentor Tu Lei said: Women, when they are young, there are warm men around them, she generally does not care, they prefer men who can conquer the world. But she didn't know that the men who could conquer the world also wanted to conquer the women of the whole world!
Some women are like this: the husband is a standard warm man, hurting her like a daughter. But she is used to being favored, not only does not feel happy, but she dislikes her husband for not having a sense of enterprise, and will only work as a "cook" and "grandfather" at home. In the long run, the enthusiasm of men to love her will gradually cool down.
A happy and happy marriage is not created by the husband blindly paying for accommodation and blindly enduring tolerance, but requires mutual respect and mutual love between husband and wife.
No matter how generous a man is, there is a bottom line for putting up with his wife. The brutal wife's needle-like rebuke, insult, sarcasm and sarcasm will not only make the woman's image greatly reduced in the husband's heart, but also deeply hurt the husband's heart.
If a woman is arrogant enough to threaten a man with "divorce", she is even more foolish. Maybe the woman is smug in her heart: this is my killer! But often provoking the husband in this way, not only can not scare the husband into soft, on the contrary, it will only break the husband's bottom line.
As long as a man with a little backbone, when he endures to the limit, he will eventually choose divorce. Because he didn't want to make himself look very provocative, as if he couldn't live without a woman.
When the man is angry, he also shouts "Leave, go!", then a happy woman will be difficult to ride the tiger. If you really divorce, you will regret it later.
The French novelist Balzac once said: "Husband and wife should know each other and understand each other, and then tolerate and love each other, in order to maintain a happy marriage."
Smart women who cherish marriage know that if the marriage edifice is to be solid, it needs both husband and wife to love each other, respect each other, trust each other, and tolerate each other to add bricks.
"Respect" is the most expensive gift a wife can give to her husband. When a husband feels his dignity and worth as a man in his wife, he will love his wife desperately, unreservedly, and even die for her.
Therefore, a woman's respect for her husband will not make you a poor creature who is obedient, but will only make you a princess who is deeply loved by the prince. On the contrary, the pampering and arrogance of women will inevitably change from the "treasure" in the palm of a man's hand to a "broken stone" that no one likes.
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