Know oneself and know the other, and compare the heart to the heart. When the wine is drunk by the confidant, the poem is chanted to the people. Acquaintances are all over the world, and acquaintances can be several people. Meeting each other is like a first acquaintance, and there is no resentment in the end.
To be a person, you must understand yourself, but also to understand others, such as when doing things, you must learn to think from the perspective of the other party, understand the inner feelings of the other party, so that things are easier to handle a lot.
Drink wine with people who know themselves, chant poetry to people who know poetry, if you do things with people who don't understand or don't fit, it is equivalent to doing useless work, and failure is a high probability.
Usually, you know a lot of people who intersect, but how many can you know each other? How many people can really share the same suffering and wealth? Friends are not many, but useful in sincerity.
People just intersect with each other will keep a distance and respect each other, but after a long time together, they will think that they do not know how to keep a distance moderately, do not respect, and even talk and do things without a bottom line, so that the relationship is easy to deteriorate, if each other can always maintain mutual respect as they just met, do not cross the bottom line, then friendship will last forever, and there will be no resentment in time.
Zhang Jiliang, a native of Jianning, Fujian. He is talented, upright, not conformist, and likes to make extensive friends with benevolent people in the north and south of the river, such as Lin Zexu, Yao Ying, Wei Yuan, Huang Juezi and others. Among these people, he had the closest contact with Yao Ying.
Yao Ying, a native of Xiangcheng, Anhui, was a famous resistance general during the Opium War. He supported and supported Lin Zexu's initiative to ban opium, actively understood international affairs, and paid attention to the national economy and people's livelihood.
After he took office as a soldier in Taiwan, he resolutely resisted the aggression of the British army and made great contributions to defending the motherland's sea frontier. However, his righteous actions were dismissed and investigated by the dim-witted and decadent Qing government, and he was arrested and accused of crimes.
This unjust imprisonment caused a strong reaction among the intellectuals at that time. Zhang Jiliang was heartbroken when he heard the news, and at this time he was seriously ill, still tirelessly working hard, running around shouting and shouting, doing his best to avenge Yao Yingming's grievances.
Zhang Jiliang decided to personally accompany Yao Ying into Beijing to show his support for his friend's resistance to the enemy and defend the country and his strong protest against the Qing court's unjust imprisonment.
In July 1843, when the prison cart escorting Yao Ying into the capital passed through Huaishang, Zhang Jiliang had been waiting here for a long time. He was ready to escort his friends north and go to prison together. Yao Ying was grateful for Zhang's righteous deeds, but he strongly advised Zhang Jiliang to enter Beijing. However, Zhang Jiliang was determined, resolutely accompanied Yao Ying's prison cart with illness, and embarked on the road north of the fierce Duoji.
At that time, like Zhang Jiliang, there were many people who were deeply dissatisfied with the Qing court and attacked Xianliang. When Yao Ying was escorted to Changxindian on the southern outskirts of Beijing, more than 30 Famous Officials and Scholars from Beijing gathered there to greet her.
After Yao Ying was imprisoned, people rushed to rescue her. The Qing government was forced by public opinion to release Yao Ying. However, Zhang Jiliang, who was already plagued by illness, at this time, his condition became even worse due to a long journey. The righteous soldiers of the Beijing Division were touched by Zhang Jiliang's high wind and bright festival and came to offer condolences one after another.
Before his death, Zhang Jiliang asked Yao Ying to assist him in sorting out the poems he had written in his life, and the "Collection of Enbozitang" passed down by later generations was compiled by Yao Ying in front of Zhang Jiliang's illness bed, approved by Zhang Shi, and printed after his death.
Zhang Jiliang's illness and death made Yao Ying extremely sad. With sincere feelings, he wrote the "Tribute to Zhang Hengfu" and "Zhang Hengfu Biography" to express his sorrow for his deceased friend. After handling Zhang Jiliang's funeral, Yao Ying also personally escorted Zhang Jiliang's coffin back to her hometown for burial.
The touching story of Zhang Jiliang and Yao Ying's acquaintances and hardships has since been widely spread in the folk.