In the process of falling in love, many people are eager to completely change each other into their imagination. Tonight (June 22) "Non-sincere Do Not Disturb", this topic triggered a live discussion, Meng Fei said that instead of forcing the other party to change, it is better to directly find a so-called "ideal type" in his mind. A male guest clearly put forward requirements for the economic ability of the other half, and Huang Lan and Jiang Zhenyu shook their heads repeatedly. Subsequently, the female guests depicted the "attractive women" in their minds on the spot. Self-discipline is a major topic often mentioned in the show, and Meng Fei suggested that self-discipline should be given a little "flexibility" to make life more fun.
Huang Lan: You can make adjustments for each other under the premise of equal communication
Sunny and handsome Deng Yutong is a Hong Kong boy with musical dreams, and when it comes to mate selection criteria, he hopes that the other party can support him to pursue his dreams. The last relationship, it was because the girl persuaded him to give up music to find a stable job, and the two came to break up. Female guest Zeng Yanan proposed that while pursuing her dreams, she must have an economic foundation to maintain a basic life, for example, some girls may ask for their own house. Deng Yutong also responded bluntly: "I am living very well now, but I may not be able to afford to buy a house for the time being, so let her go find someone else!" As soon as the remarks came out, there was a lot of discussion on the scene. Huang Lan said: "A person's pursuit of dreams may be a little hard at the beginning, and he can't afford to buy a house for the time being, but everyone's pursuit of their own life path is his own right, if you can't accept it, you can turn around and walk away, you don't have to change him." ”
On this topic, Meng Fei said that if a girl feels that there are too many places she wants to change in the boys she interacts with, then please consider it carefully, is the person you like him in the end? He has so many things to change, what do you like him for? Wouldn't it be better if you just look for an ideal type that doesn't need to be changed? Huang Lan suggested that when there is a disagreement between lovers, you can use a more equal tone to coordinate and communicate with each other, two people together need to run into, do not have to force each other to change too much, but can make some positive adjustments for each other, so that they can improve and improve. The female guests also said that many people like to use their own standards to ask each other, eager to completely change each other into their imagination, in fact, everyone hopes that their wishes are respected, and hope that the other half can accept the most authentic self. In the relationship between lovers, do not use feelings as a chip to force the other party to make changes for themselves.
Ultimately, can male guests find the right person on stage?
Meng Fei talks about "sons inheriting their father's business": what kind of women are the most attractive?
Qin Lingjie's family from Chongqing is a businessman, and his father hopes that his son will inherit his father's business, but his greatest interest is painting. The topic of "inheriting the father's business" sparked a discussion, and Huang Lan shared his experience, "My father is a well-known screenwriter, and in my childhood, I often saw the passionate look of my father when he talked to a certain director about the script at home, and I would be infected by his emotions when I was very young. Therefore, I think parents should use your enthusiasm to drive their children, rather than saying that I am good for you, nothing else, and cannot use a forced method to force each other. Meng Fei believes that on this issue, there should be an attitude between the two generations called "mutual non-negation", and young people should not easily deny the occupations and industries engaged in by their parents; as parents, they should not easily deny the imagination and dreams of young people for the future. In this way, it is possible to jointly explore which path is more suitable for young people, and the choice will be more rational.
When it comes to the criteria for choosing a mate, Qin Lingjie clearly put forward requirements for the economic ability of the other half. Huang Lan and Jiang Zhenyu shook their heads, does the value of a woman depend on economic ability? Women's charm can be reflected in too many aspects. What kind of woman is the most attractive? Having your own job, career, income, and having certain economic ability is of course a plus, but there are many aspects such as words and deeds, cultivation of character, etc. The female guests depicted the "attractive women" in their minds on the spot, "the appearance is also an important aspect of women's charm, appearance, figure, dress, etc.; at the same time, we must enrich ourselves on the inside, constantly learn to master various skills, improve their own taste; not only to be economically independent, but also to be spiritually independent, even after marriage can not disappear in the family, to maintain their own personality charm, have independent thoughts, can well balance the relationship between family and themselves and career; beautiful, kind, independent, strong, Passionate and confident in life, infectious and affinity, able to be respected and loved by others, such a woman should be the most attractive. Liu Cuihua, also from Chongqing, insisted on keeping the lamp until the end, can the two people successfully hold hands?
Self-discipline also requires a little "flexibility" in the subtleties, and the details of love are important
Zuo Yu, who is a senior auditor at one of the world's four major accounting firms, is a particularly self-disciplined person, and when it comes to the topic of self-discipline, Meng Fei believes that a person has both principle and flexibility, and can grasp the good measure, which is a good enough person, "for example, Jiang Zhenyu likes fitness, and his diet is very self-disciplined." Let's say I invited him to my house, I worked all afternoon making braised pork, and I said do you want to try a piece? He said don't force me, you make me very uncomfortable like this, and that makes me strong. However, if he can come to such a small piece, this little flexibility will bring pleasure to everyone, in fact, there is no bad. So I suggest that you should be self-disciplined, but you can bring pleasure to the other party without breaking your own principles in particularly large, and this flexibility is possible. ”
Zuo Yu's previous girlfriend was a colleague who joined with him, with a high degree of education, and was a strong woman type. Both people are strong and feel like-minded, but they have repeatedly hit a wall in the details of life. Meng Fei can't help but sigh, some of the things that determine our love happiness come from particularly grand, such as values and attitudes towards life, but more from some small details. For example, can you eat spicy? Where to go on a trip? Some people like to go to highly developed areas, and some people like to go to Egypt and Nepal to explore the origin of human civilization. On the issue of details, it is very troublesome for two people to not agree. In this regard, the female guests all agreed, "The details determine success or failure, and love is even more so." Most girls are more emotional, paying special attention to the daily small details of life, a small action can make her happy, may also make her sad with a word. Subtleties see people's hearts, in the process of love, you must manage the details, some small things in life are often more able to see a person's innermost, do not let you do not care about the details to defeat your love. ”
At the scene, Zuo Yu selected Dongmei and Lu Mengxin into the final constituency, will someone leave a lamp for him?
【Viewing tips】:Jiangsu Satellite TV's "Non-sincere Do Not Disturb" will be staged tonight (Saturday, June 22) at 20:30, so stay tuned!