Miss K has been my friend for many years and we've been together longer than any of our boyfriends. K graduated from the College of Foreign Languages, smart, beautiful, cheerful, she likes to laugh, look at her WeChat circle, her enthusiasm seems to be able to penetrate the screen to meet you. K in a Fortune 500 company to do a middle management, the income is good, this is a job that most people dream of, she is somewhat eager to explain to me, a variety of welfare policies from individual employees to families, and even after retirement investment plans, only after the event subsidies, she joked with me.
He knows how to survive in large companies, and once I asked her how to deal with married women in the company, in the micro-environment of the enterprise, the people who talk a lot have the right to speak privately. K said: "Married women's favorite topics are nothing more than health recipes, husbands and babies, and dealing with them only needs to remember 3 points." 1. Praise their babies for their good education and good looks. 2, praise her good marriage, blessed, but can not praise her husband, lest she suspect that you have a crush on her husband. 3, the higher you climb, the less you need to care about their opinions. ”
He has a strong curiosity about exotic cultures, which probably stems from her excellent foreign language skills, she feels that in addition to the place of birth, people also have the responsibility to understand the various cultures of the planet on which we are based, this understanding is not a tourist-style wandering, but a deep understanding of local culture and people's communication and perception. To this end, since 2012, k has become an active user of international couchsurfing (sofaker). "Sofa guest" is a self-help tourism method that encourages sharing and giving, and advocates sincerity and kindness between people. As the name suggests, the "sofa guest" is my family's sofa to let you sleep, in fact, not limited to the sofa, if the owner has an extra bed or room, the "sofa guest" will sleep more comfortably. Until this year, K used her couch in her small house to host about 60 couch guests from all over the world, and because of the implementation of the sofa guest spirit, K became the only Chinese female ambassador in Guangzhou. "This cross-cultural experience has made me more open-minded and tolerant, and I know how to respect and appreciate differences."
For more than a year, he likes to go to salsa after work. Most of the dancers are foreign men and women, and it is difficult for Chinese men to let go of the preset self-soft body and mind, and enjoy this kind of dance that is immediate, non-possessive and equal. I went with her to the salsa of gold rush road, k familiar with everyone to greet, hug, introduce, can not dance I sat at the bar to drink, from the gap between the dances to see the past, the dance floor K like a feminine leprechaun, long hair fluffy and wild, dancing unbridled and confident, laughter, she is in the most beautiful age of a woman. Such a beautiful K is very popular, except for the first one in college, K's other boyfriends are foreigners, this kind of love comes both warm and short, she said to me: Chinese men will appreciate women like her, but will not accept such a wife and girlfriend.
I remember in 2011, K and I talked about her dream after finishing working on the Asian Games organizing committee: to be a professional sports planning consultant. There is such a group of elites in the world, they have excellent language skills, proficient in the operation requirements of the Olympic Council of Asia and the International Olympic Committee, they are experts in a certain field of large-scale sports games, almost biennial, in the world at the invitation of the national organizing committees to provide professional advice and management. He said she wanted to be such a person, and I remember her expression at that time, her eyes shining, as if she had found her destiny. His boss at the Asian Games in Doha helped her contact the organizing committee of the Russian Winter Olympics, and she was very happy to tell me that after the interview, she began to learn Russian, and I was really happy for her.
Later, for some reason, my memory was blurred, probably because of the Russian side's policy of protecting the domestic labor law, he did not go to Russia, and after winning the work of several small sports games in the country, he accepted the offer of the current company.
Indeed, pursuing your dreams means taking on the confusion of choices and the consequences of possible failure. Surrendering dreams in exchange for security is the eternal temptation of the devil.
K called me the other day, and at the end, she said: Autumn, I feel like a frog, a frog boiled in warm water.
Postscript: This article has been written for 15 years, later... afterward.. K quit her job, sold her house, and embarked on her journey to know the world.
Sincerely wish all friends who bravely choose their dreams!!