The old saying goes, "Thirty and standing, forty and confused, fifty knowing the Destiny." Thirty and standing, that is, a person will start a family at the age of 30. The sign of starting a family is that people want to get married, have children, have a career, even if they have completed the task between the ages of 30, otherwise, it is an unqualified life and a failed life. This is what the ancients thought. In the real rural life, rural people, whether they are men or women, between the age of 30, should start a family, men marry wives and have children, women must marry and start a family, husbands and children, and complete the important milestone stage of people's lives. ~~
Rural people do not have children as soon as they reach the age of 30 and do not get married. Without children, the roots are broken in this life, there are no offspring, and there are no descendants to continue the incense. People are over 60 years old, living in this world, can only be accompanied by desolation and loneliness, without the support of future generations, no one to take care of, no offspring to give themselves pensions, is the most tragic thing. Such a life, a lifetime of only relying on yourself, a lifetime of old age, toiling and running, for life until exhaustion. Rural people have no offspring after the age of 30, and there are three specific situations, which must be solved early. ~~
First, rural people do not marry after the age of 30 and have no children. Rural people do not get married at the age of 30, and their marriage in life is very bumpy, and even they have no chance to get married in their lifetime, and they may have been living alone until the end of their lives. Such a person has no children to send for his own pension, and the condition of old age is very tragic and desolate. Therefore, many people in the countryside, at this time, either adopt or adopt a child and send them to the end of their own pension, or set up heirs to their close relatives and siblings and support them for a long time. ~~
Second, rural people who marry and have no children after the age of 30 must consider establishing an heir. After many people in rural areas get married, couples cannot leave children for some reason. In this way, despite marriage, they still have no children and send them to the end of their two elderly pensions. In the general situation in the countryside, only between brothers and sisters or cousins, children and heirs, continue to incense, and support for life. This is the best way to solve the problem of children's families in rural areas in the past, and to solve the problem of no one to provide for the elderly and send them to the end of their lives when they are old. ~~
Third, rural people who have all their children die after the age of 30 should also consider the aftermath. In the past, after many people in the countryside got married, all the children they gave birth to died due to illness or some other reasons. After the two of them reached the age of 60, their bodies were weak and plagued by diseases. At this time, there are no offspring, taking care of their daily lives, and no one is dying for them. Therefore, in the past, in order to solve this kind of problem, rural people could only adopt the method of establishing children and heirs to solve the problem of future affairs after people were old. ~~
All in all, the rural proverb "Thirty years old, not standing up, until death", is to say that 30-year-old people without sons, must find a way, either to adopt children, or to continue to establish close nephews as heirs, in preparation for lifelong support, otherwise, the second half of life is very desolate and miserable, in order to live can only be busy and tired until death. However, the times have changed, and the elderly who have no children and no daughters in the countryside now no longer have to worry about their old age and no one to support them for life, and are backed by the state's "five guarantees" measures to send the elderly to the end.
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