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Last year, on the way to send my children to college, I met the mother of my son's classmate, Wang Wei.
The so-called university that our children go to is not a normal college entrance examination, but a junior high school graduation three or two consecutive colleges.
When I told Wang Wei that our children could be promoted to the next level, Wang Wei showed great joy.
When he sent his children to school and left, Wang Wei repeatedly and repeatedly told his children that they must study well and study well. Of course, I also tell my children to study hard again and again.
Because my children were young, their health was not good, and their learning was delayed. The opportunity I can give my child to go to college is the current kind of third-and-second reading. When I learned that after two years of junior college at the university they attended, they could get a college entrance examination, I couldn't hold back my feelings. I have repeatedly stressed the need to let children specialize in this book. certain. certain.
And my child's reaction was indifferent: Look.
At noon a few days ago, Wang Wei, the mother of the child's classmate, sent me an unexpected message on WeChat.
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Wang Wei, the child's classmate's mother, said. Our child's current college is preparing for next year's post-secondary registration, and she asked me if I knew about it.
I was blindfolded. I've never heard my kids say that. How did she know?
Wang Wei sent me a screenshot from another group.
For this news, but I have been waiting for a long time for the opportunity. I hope our children absolutely cannot miss this opportunity.
I told Wang Wei that I didn't know it yet, so let's wait until I ask the child.
At that time, the children had not yet reached the noon school time, so I waited for the children to eat after school, and then asked my children to understand the situation.
I didn't eat meditation at lunch because I kept guessing what the child's mind was thinking. Why not tell our parents?
It is estimated that the child is almost finished with lunch. I dialed the child's phone.
The child did not hide either. He said, let me tell you about the process of registration for our special entrance examination.
It turned out that this college entrance examination was specifically aimed at their group of three-two college students. To register for this specialization, you need to register for a tutoring class in advance. Signed up this year to participate in a range of tutoring, especially in English and high mathematics. Waiting for an exam next spring. Then, based on the score, decide which university to go to.
My kid said almost pleadingly on the phone. Dad, you know that I can't do foreign languages in elementary school, and math is a mess, I think you don't have to force me.
Still not dead-hearted, I asked: How many of your classmates have signed up?
My kid said. There are also a few consultations, but there are only three or four people who are sure to sign up. Our class members themselves have said, is our own foundation not clear? Is it possible to lean in if you report it? Throwing more than 10,000 yuan in the tutoring class may not be able to be admitted. Dad, don't waste that ten thousand dollars on me.
The more I listened, the sadder I became, but I still refused to die, and I wanted to encourage my children. I said, you don't have to think about money first, if you can sign up for the college or try to sign up, you don't think about money.
The child said, OK, I see.
My heart was pounding with discomfort. Boy, Daddy, I'm sorry for you, I owe you a college in my life.
Things are clear, I want to communicate with my classmate's mother Wang Wei.
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Classmate's mother, Wang Wei, also said that her child was not in good health when she was young, and her studies were delayed, but I also hoped that my child could continue to go to undergraduate. I want you to encourage and encourage your children, also continue to go on, do not give up, let them go to school together, so that they can have a companion.
The words of my classmate's mother were like knives and knives stuck in my heart.
Who doesn't want their children to go to school, but the children's foundation is too poor, their room for upward mobility is greatly limited, as parents what should we do? What to do?
I comforted Wang Wei and comforted myself. I said, who parent doesn't want their children to be good? However, when our children have reached their peak and are insurmountable, there is no way for us as parents. We can only resign ourselves to fate. Although our children's pathway to the ascension is blocked, let's seek another path.
Wang Wei and I talked on our phone for nearly an hour. In the end, we parents can only accept this fact helplessly. However, we are still not dead-hearted, and we must continue to give our children a way to continue to rise.
Because we parents have no skills or academic qualifications, we do not want to and are not willing to watch our children repeat the path they have taken in this life.
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postscript:
My mother and Wang Wei finally talked about a problem. It is still necessary to learn to relax our mentality, what if in the future our children can not become what we hope?
We must also learn to accept the ordinary, even the ordinary, of our children, just as we learn to accept the ordinary and mediocrity of our own lives.