Recently, the 44-year-old Guo Pinchao directly announced his love affair on social software, and his girlfriend is Ma Zehan, who is 19 years younger than him.
However, netizens did not complain too much about the couple, but directly called the two faces too well matched.
Guo Pinchao used to be the male god in the hearts of many young girls, although he is 44 years old, he looks no different from small fresh meat, and his appearance has always been online.
From the photos posted, it is not difficult to see that Guo Pinchao is very spoiled for his little girlfriend, his eyes are full of love, and even the time of the official announcement is stuck in 1314, full of ritual.
Guo Pinchao once became popular because of "Fighting Fish", but after that, the road of feelings was not very smooth, and there were rumors with Chen Yihan and Huang Yilin, and finally there was no following.
Until 2019, Guo Pinchao was photographed shopping and eating with the mysterious woman, and now looking back at the woman is Ma Zehan.
The two had worked together on "Three Lives and Three Pillow Books", and although the media had been photographed eating together by the media, both sides denied the relationship at that time.
Now the two choose to have an open relationship, indicating that their relationship has stabilized.
So don't take age as a measure of love, as long as the fate arrives, it feels right.
Even if the love is 19 years apart, it will be very sweet.
01
Age is not an issue in a relationship, it is mainly people
Age difference is a topic that is often mentioned, and many people feel that there should be a difference of less than 3 years between couples.
With the development of society, although everyone's acceptance of age difference is gradually expanding, once they face age difference, they will also have some worries in their hearts.
Because the experiences of two people are different, the perspective of the problem will be different, and there is a fear that there will be differences.
In the face of this situation, I would like to say that age difference does not necessarily become a stumbling block to feelings.
If this person is the right person, then the age difference will also add to the icing on the cake for the relationship.
Someone once asked me if I should look for a bigger one when looking for a boyfriend, or is it a similar age?
In fact, I don't have a standard answer to this question, because two people of similar age will think closer;
The older will know how to take care of people, have more experience and knowledge, and the younger will be full of energy and passion.
No matter what age you are, there will be advantages that this age should have, so age should not be the standard by which love is measured.
In reality, there are many couples of similar age who end up divorcing, and there are also many sister-brother love marriages that have always been in love.
So in love, there is no conclusive conclusion about age.
When girls are looking for their other half, they can go according to their own feelings, if they meet a man who makes us feel good and is worth trusting.
Then no matter how old or young he is, it doesn't really matter much.
Although some people are young, their psychological maturity is high, and some people are old, but in fact, their minds are not mature, and the main thing is to look at this person.
A friend of mine, she found a husband who was 13 years older than her, and when she first joined the society, he was already an executive of the company.
Once they were assigned to a project group and watched him work hard every day.
She felt that this was what her ideal husband looked like, knowledgeable and courageous, daring to think and dare to do it, which was completely different from her usual male classmates.
When I learned that he did not have a girlfriend, my friend began to actively pursue him, but I did not expect to look at him who was usually high and cold, and I was attracted by the liveliness of my friend.
When the two people first became lovers, some friends advised her: "The age difference is so big, don't you worry that you don't have a common language?" ”
My friend said that they had endless topics every day, that he was like a treasure, that there was a lot to be dug into, and that he would often surprise her unexpectedly.
The two people got married soon after they got along, and now she not only grew up rapidly, but the two people have always been in love.
So love is only related to that person, the rest of our lives are very expensive, and we have to be with the right person.
Even if that person is older or smaller than us, so what, provided the person is trustworthy and the two people appreciate each other.
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The love between the uncle and Lori may be more long-lasting
It is not uncommon for men and women to be in their teens now, and such love seems to be more stable.
Let's take a look at where the uncle is good.
01, economic stability, life is easy
Many uncles and Lori's love is because women are attracted to the mature breath of men, and most of such men are also successful people.
For the economy, it will be much better than those young men who have just entered the society, and they will no longer have to run for houses and cars, and life will be easier.
When the girl is 25 years old, she is the best age, and when the boy is 25 years old, it may be the most depressed and deprived time in his life.
And they may be at the age of 35, which is the peak of their careers, knowledge and experience, so if a 25-year-old Lori and a 35-year-old uncle fall in love.
Then, they all met each other at the best time of their lives, and it is likely to achieve a beautiful love.
In fact, in reality, we have seen many such cases, many young couples who have just graduated, they are very in love when they are in school.
But once you get to society, when you have to face economic pressure, mortgage and car loan pressure, your feelings will become unstable, and you will often quarrel over small things.
Every day to be careful, life becomes boring and tedious, girls complain, boys are irritable.
A lot of love eventually loses to reality, but if a man's economic conditions are stable, life will be much easier, so love will be relatively more stable.
02, the uncle will know more about pampering girls and helping them solve the difficulties encountered in life
From the photos of Guo Pinchao and his girlfriend, it is not difficult to see that he is spoiled when he looks at his girlfriend's eyes.
Most boys will have a pity for the weak, so there is a certain age difference, but it will make girls more favored.
They will be more tolerant of the girl's willfulness, in front of the uncle, the girl will prefer to be spoiled, fully appreciate the feeling of being pampered.
And it would be more secure to be with the uncle, and they seemed to be more reliable than the young men.
Some mentally immature boys, not only do not know how to tolerate girls, but also want girls to tolerate their little temper.
When encountering things, you can't give advice to the girl, when her main heart, you will even leave the girl and go away.
With mature men, no matter what life confusion girls encounter, they will be more responsible and responsible, and bear for girls, because they have the ability to solve things.
The TV series "Snail House" believes that many people have watched it, and when they first watched it, many people were scolding seaweed for not having a face.
But now think about it in reverse, what made Seaweed abandon a little bei who loves her so much, even if she bears the infamy, she must choose to be with Song Siming.
In fact, it is because Song Siming has helped her again and again, cared for her when she was most helpless, and helped her solve various difficulties encountered in life.
Let her feel that Song Siming can be relied on, and by his side, she can be a little princess without worry, without worrying about the trivialities in life.
In terms of looks and passion, Song Siming is far better than XiaoBei.
However, in terms of the ability to help seaweed solve difficulties, Xiaobei is also a big difference to Song Siming, which is the charm of the uncle.
03, mature men's unique personality charm
The uncles have gone through the baptism of society, they have more insight and experience, they have no less youthful madness, they have become stable and calm, and they have a more kingly style.
And this kind of stable trait will attract many girls.
Like the friend I said above, she likes her husband.
It is because when he was in the unit, he was very kingly, like a general, commanding one battle after another.
Every time he saw something different on him, he was more like a telescope, taking her to see more beautiful and farther landscapes.
They do not panic when things happen, and they can give girls enough security.
Their charm does not rely on their appearance, but on the insight and experience that have been precipitated over the years, the more they see, the wider the vision, and the more calm they will be.
My friend once told me that she would talk to her husband whenever she encountered something she couldn't think of.
Because every time he can bring her new ideas, let her suddenly open up.
So excellent mature men, they understand girls better.
So when we meet the person who is worthy of trust, whether he is an uncle or a little fresh meat, let's love it.
Don't resist a guy because of your age, but only if two people are in tune and appreciate each other.
Love has no age boundaries, as long as he is the right person.
Author | Qingteng, a national level 3 psychological counselor, 5 years of experience in the psycho-emotional industry. He is good at CBT therapy, ACT therapy, from a cognitive perspective, giving clients cognitive updates and iterations, looking at reality with a new perspective, and solving a series of problems.