We all know that love is a very mysterious thing, the so-called "I am lucky, lose my life", this should be the most correct attitude to love.
On this issue, Mei Lanfang's wife Fu Zhifang is like this, she accompanied her husband through 40 spring and autumn seasons, but at the end of her life, she said:
"Behind Mei Lang's career like a mountain, I am just a nameless grass."
In such words, there may be inexplicable loss, or there may be unconcealed regrets. But love is like this, you put your heart into the bright moon, and the bright moon shines elsewhere.
Some people wonder, Mei Lanfang and Fu Zhifang have been married for forty years, the relationship has always been very good, why does Fu Zhifang have the feeling of "I am just a small grass"?
Indeed, if it were not for the fact that they were looking at each other, two people would not have entered marriage, and they would not have so many children. But sometimes, marriage has other emotions in addition to love, such as family affection.
We all know that Mei Lanfang's first wife is called Wang Minghua, she is Mei Lanfang's own favorite woman, and accompanied her husband from nameless to brilliant, which is a very long process.
In this marriage, Mei Lanfang invested peace of mind, sincerity and determination, and he and Wang Minghua treated each other with kindness. But the fate is not happy, the original husband and wife with a son and a daughter, but because of the accident became an orphaned family.
Not to mention Mei Lanfang's artistic achievements and the tradition of family concepts, even ordinary families can't accept the grief of this day's loss?
Therefore, after Mei Lanfang's two children died prematurely, he was very miserable.
This is especially true for his wife, Wang Minghua, who had already undergone sterilization in the early years in order to support her husband's career. In that era, it was a dead move, and there was no solution.
It is also under such circumstances that Mei Lanfang has the idea of marrying the second room.
In fact, Wang Minghua's tradition, she knows that the Mei family will not be accepted by reality. Therefore, she has always supported her husband to take another concubine.
At this time, Fu Zhifang appeared.
Fu Zhifang is an authentic flag person, she herself does not have the smallness of Jiangnan women, nor does she contain the delicacy of Han women. However, she is young, and she is in the same division as Mei Lanfang, and has the friendship of brother and sister. This is probably the so-called near-water tower, so Fu Zhifang quickly entered Mei Lanfang's eyes.
According to some information, from the very beginning when Mei Lanfang saw Fu Zhifang, he did not give birth to the love element of the moon hitting the earth. On the contrary, in his eyes, this is a suitable woman for procreation.
Under such circumstances, Wang Minghua went to the Fu family to propose to the Family through the Peking opera artist Wu Lingxian. Of course, Mei Lanfang nodded at this, so Fu Zhifang soon became her second wife.
Aren't you saying you want to take a concubine? How did Fu Zhifang become a peaceful wife?
This is because of the request made by Fu Zhifang's mother. Fu Zhifang grew up in a single-parent family, and her mother was both a mother and a father, and she said to Wu Lingxian:
"We don't want people to be rich, but we just want to live, but my daughter absolutely can't be a concubine, and when she enters the Mei family, she must sit on an equal footing with her original match." In addition, my daughter is my only dependence, and whoever marries her will give me a pension. ”
In this matter, Wang Minghua achieved true generosity and tolerance, and she nodded in agreement with these two requests. Therefore, Fu Zhifang entered the Mei family and got along with her as a peaceful wife.
However, we can imagine that the most intolerable thing in love is probably "sharing".
Fu Zhifang entered the door, the newlywed Yan'er, the small two naturally double-stayed and double-flying.
At this time, wang Minghua can imagine how lonely she is, especially after Fu Zhifang began to meddle in the affairs of the Mei family because of her poor health and gave birth to a child, Wang Minghua completely could not bear this heart-wrenching pain, and moved to Tianjin to live alone on the grounds of recuperation.
At this point, Fu Zhifang could be said to have taken the power of the head of the Mei family without moving a knife or a shot.
But she did not expect that just when she wanted to live her small life behind closed doors with her husband, a woman named Meng Xiaodong appeared.
This is a more promising theatrical actor than Fu Zhifang was then, and she is beautiful and gentle, and she matches Mei Lanfang from the inside out.
It is precisely because of this that the outside world has the saying of "Mei Lang and the Winter Emperor".
Facing the unfolding of her husband's new love, Fu Zhifang was panicked, she knew that Meng Xiaodong was not Wang Minghua, she was not so generous as not to threaten her own existence, nor did she have the idea of dividing her husband equally. As long as she appears in the Mei Mansion, her future will go to Wang Minghua's old path.
Therefore, for Mei Lanfang's intention to marry Meng Xiaodong, she did not agree from beginning to end.
To this end, Mei Lanfang had to arrange Meng Xiaodong to spend a single time outside. Fortunately, meng Xiaodong's suitors staged a drama of grabbing "love" and almost killed Mei Lanfang.
Faced with such an ending, Fu Zhifang took the opportunity to force Meng Xiaodong to break up with Mei Lanfang.
In this way, a love battle ended with Meng Xiaodong's eclipsed departure. But Fu Zhifang also understood that since then, her husband no longer had his own position in his heart.
This is not a lie, between Mei Lanfang and Fu Zhifang, there may never have been a warm love, for him, Fu Zhifang is the future inheritor of their Mei family, she can give birth to wang Minghua can not give him offspring.
However, after experiencing a pleasant love with Wang Minghua, and finally losing the warm and tight Meng Xiaodong, Mei Lanfang's lover's heart no longer exists.
When he faces Fu Zhifang again, he is only left with the indifference of the child's mother and life partner.
Perhaps, because of this, although Fu Zhifang has been with Mei Lanfang to the end, she is not the person her husband loves the most. This fact has always made her uneasy.
Indeed, what woman does not expect love alone, and what woman does not yearn for the gentleness of love? Especially Fu Zhifang has also studied drama, why doesn't she want to experience the beautiful love in the drama?
Therefore, she can distinguish what is true love and what is affection, and being with her husband is a polite life partner. This kind of affection has skin to skin, but there is no spiritual match, which is the consummation that is difficult to seek in a lifetime.
Of course, although Fu Zhifang knew that she was a small grass beside Mei Lang, she did not indulge this lost emotion. Not only did she take good care of Mei Lanfang and accompany her wholeheartedly, but she also fulfilled her benevolence and righteousness on Wang Minghua's issue.
After Wang Minghua left the Mei family, he eventually died of illness in Tianjin.
Fu Zhifang showed the greatest attitude of a peaceful wife and asked his son to help his spirit back to the Mei family for burial.
Later, she and Wang Minghua were buried together next to Mei Lanfang, still in the pattern of two wives and one husband. With only this one approach, we can also understand why Fu Zhifang said that she was just a small grass!